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If Only He Knew: What No Woman Can Resist Mass Market Paperback – December 31, 1996
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Gary's books combined have sold over 5 million copies. Many of them have even been translated into various languages. "The Blessing" and "The Two Sides of Love" have won the Gold Medallion Award for excellence in literature. "The Language of Love" won the Angel Award as the best contribution to family life. All other titles have been top-five finalists for the Gold Medallion Award.
In the last 30 years, Gary has spoken to over 2 million people in live conferences. He has been presenting his live two-day workshop, "Love Is a Decision," once a month for the last 20 years. Television audiences all over the world have viewed his award-winning infomercial, "Hidden Keys to Loving Relationships." Several versions of the infomercial--first with Dick Clark, then with John Tesh and Connie Sellecca, and also with Frank and Kathie Lee Gifford--have been aired. This 18-videotape series has sold over 4 million tapes.
Gary Smalley has appeared on national television programs such as "Oprah," "Larry King Live," "Extra," "The Today Show," and "Sally Jessy Raphael," as well as numerous national radio programs. Gary has been featured on hundreds of regional and local television and radio programs across the United States.
Gary and his wife, Norma, have been married for 40 years and live in Branson, Missouri. They have three children, Kari, Greg, and Michael, and six grandchildren.
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I have been reading many of these reviews. The people who were helped by it, were helped greatly. The people who did not like the content of the book, all seemed to feel that the book shouldn't be telling them what THEY need to change to improve their marriage. Look guys! There are TWO books! One for the man and one for the woman. The woman's book tells her what SHE needs to change to improve her marraige with her husband, what SHE needs to do to understand his needs, and communicate with him on his level. The man's book tells him what HE needs to do to improve his marriage. What HE needs to do so his wife will understand him. If the man's book told the reader what his wife needs to do to change, how exactly would that help??? He is supposed to be looking for answers to how HE needs to change, what HE needs to do, how HE can take action to repair past mistakes and plan for a happier future. Only you can change your own actions, you can not change your spouse. If you are reading the man's book then I think it should be telling the reader what the man needs to know and what the man can do to change. Yes, sometimes the author uses extreme examples. Sometimes the examples will look nothing like your life. Sometimes, they might resemble your life a little too closely that it makes you uncomfortable. You may not benefit frome very single chapter in the book.Read more ›
I must have bought 15-20 books during the next few months searching for an answer to recover my marriage.
To my dismay I found there are very few books out there that address recovering failed a marriage. The vast majority talk about how to "move on" and accept what happened. I didn't want any part of those books. Of those that advocate recovering, most come from the Christian community, so I bought them all, even though I do not consider myself a Christian in the usual sense.
This book was one of several standouts - deeply touching, sincere, non-dogmatic, and emminently practical. The other standouts are two books, another by Gary Smalley: "Winning Your Wife Back Before it's Too Late" and Gary Chapman: "Hope for the Separated; Wounded Marriages Can be Healed". Most of the other Christian books struck me as too dogmatic, guilt-oriented or rigid in their approach.
I studied these books continually while we were separated, practicing what they said, and re-reading random chapters for solace and hope when times got tough. Finally after 4 1/2 months, my wife could no longer resist the kindness, patience and sincerity I showered on her that were coached by these books. We reunited in October. I'm happy to say, my marriage is thriving now after 5 months back together, due almost entirely to the new perspective and behavior I learned from these books. I continue to practice what I learned and it keeps my marriage healty.
Do what these books say. You don't need to be religious. Don't make excuses - change yourself. Your life will change and your wife WILL change. It worked for me, and probably would not have without this philosophy.
This book is for men seeking to understand their illogically perceived wives who seem to live in la la land instead of reality. After reading this book, my perception of my wife is that of complete understanding and my perception of myself is that of remorseful shame.
I wouldn't recommend this book for women, because just like us men, women will not connect with a lot of the material presented as it is written from the man's point of view.
Also, there have been some reviews that state this book is out of date concerning feminism. I would have to disagree, as this book is based on Biblical principles that are timeless. Christian readers who are firmly grounded in God's word will see through the comments made on this site by others who do not understand Biblical doctrines concerning marriage. It is a shame, because I fear they will probably end up going through with divorce instead of working through their issues according to Biblical principles.Read more ›
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This has been a miracle book for our relationship. I can tell a huge difference in how my husband communicates with me after reading this book. Read morePublished 18 days ago by Wende Mitchell
I haven't had a chance to finish reading yet, so far has been a great read!Published 1 month ago by Grayhawk
Excellent resource for both men and women. We bought the book at the recommendation of our counselor, I as the wife began to understand myself better while reading this book. Read morePublished 2 months ago by Marcy A Doerfler
The most valuable information obtained from the book is that your wife or SO should be #1 in your life and be treated respectively. Read morePublished 3 months ago by Victor
If you are looking for a Christian/Bible-themed book that tells the husband to serve his wife to make her happy (wouldn't having a servant make anyone happy? Read morePublished 3 months ago by HL
A good starter book for married women, however, if choosing companion books for husbands/wives, I much prefer the "For men only/For women only" books by the Feldmans. Read morePublished 4 months ago by SnazzyTopazzy