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If Only He Knew Hardcover – January 1, 1979


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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 140 pages
  • Publisher: R. M. Marketing; 1ST edition (1979)
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B0006E26MK
  • Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 6 x 0.6 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 3.2 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (33 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,193,515 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Gary Smalley explains a woman's deepest needs, shows a man how to meet those needs, and gives ten simple steps to strengthen any marriage. He helps men to understand not only how to respond to a woman's feelings, but also how to make her feel important. Using humorous and touching illustrations from his own life, as well as case histories and biblical examples, Gary Smalley maps a blueprint to a better marriage. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

About the Author

Gary Smalley is one of he country's best-known authors and speakers on family relationships. He is the award-winning, best-selling author or coauthor of sixteen books, as well as several popular films and videos. The Blessing and The Two Sides of Love have won Gold Medallions, The Language of Love won the Angel Award as the best contribution to family life, and his other titles have received Silver Medallions. His national infomercial Hidden Keys to Loving Relationships has been viewed by television audiences all over the world. Gary and his wife, Norma, have been married for over thirty years and live in Branson, Missouri.

Dr. Gary Smalley es uso de los mejores autores y oradores del país acerca de las relaciones familiares. Es autor y coautor de veintiocho bestsellers, incluyendo el más reciente "The DNA of Relationships" (El AND de las relaciones). Gary ha asistido a programas de televisión como Opray, Larry King Live y Today Show, al igual que en numerosos programas nacionales de radio. El es presidente y fundador del Centro de Relaciones Smalley. El y Norma, su esposa, residen en Branson, Missouri. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

More About the Author

Gary Smalley is one of the country's best known authors and speakers on family relationships. He is the author and coauthor of 16 best-selling, award-winning books along with several popular films and videos. He has spent over 30 years learning, teaching, and counseling. Gary has personally interviewed hundreds of singles and couples and has surveyed thousands of people at his seminars, asking two questions: what is it that strengthens your relationships and what weakens them?

Gary's books combined have sold over 5 million copies. Many of them have even been translated into various languages. "The Blessing" and "The Two Sides of Love" have won the Gold Medallion Award for excellence in literature. "The Language of Love" won the Angel Award as the best contribution to family life. All other titles have been top-five finalists for the Gold Medallion Award.

In the last 30 years, Gary has spoken to over 2 million people in live conferences. He has been presenting his live two-day workshop, "Love Is a Decision," once a month for the last 20 years. Television audiences all over the world have viewed his award-winning infomercial, "Hidden Keys to Loving Relationships." Several versions of the infomercial--first with Dick Clark, then with John Tesh and Connie Sellecca, and also with Frank and Kathie Lee Gifford--have been aired. This 18-videotape series has sold over 4 million tapes.

Gary Smalley has appeared on national television programs such as "Oprah," "Larry King Live," "Extra," "The Today Show," and "Sally Jessy Raphael," as well as numerous national radio programs. Gary has been featured on hundreds of regional and local television and radio programs across the United States.

Gary and his wife, Norma, have been married for 40 years and live in Branson, Missouri. They have three children, Kari, Greg, and Michael, and six grandchildren.

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This is a very interesting read.
Jackie Michael
I will be purchasing the companion book, "For better or for Best" as soon as the bookstores open tommorow.
sladd217@aol.com
I know, because I was one of the boneheads that had to read the book AFTER I had done all the wrong things.
T. Leonard

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88 of 98 people found the following review helpful By sladd217@aol.com on April 4, 1999
Format: Paperback
My relationship IS in trouble, my wife suggested I read this book. I just finished it about 10 minutes ago and will be getting in my car to drive over 1,000 miles tonite to be with my wife and beg her forgiveness for my insensitivity. It will take much courage for me to follow the advice this book offers, but I am confident that it will help me achieve the results that I just don't know how reach yet. I will submit a follow up message after my marriage is back on the right track. I wish I had read this book several years ago, I'm sure I would have avoided offending my most precious wife long ago. Reading this book should be mandatory for all couples (husbands) before the second year of their relationships. I will be purchasing the companion book, "For better or for Best" as soon as the bookstores open tommorow. (Today is Easter Sunday) Steve
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26 of 26 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on May 10, 1999
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I have had this book in my collection for several months but hadn't read it. My wife and I were experiencing marital discord, so I decided to read it. I showed it to her and explained that I was reading it, but she beat me to it. She insisted that I read it, and I found it to be almost exactly the answer to our marital problems. I do disagree with the author in one respect however. I still feel that the woman must be mature, and therefore responsible for her own actions as well as a man. In my circumstances I know I am mostly to blame for our problems. This book will be a lifetime marriage consultant to me. If you men who are determined to reconcile or improve your marriage-PLEASE READ THIS BOOK. If you don't benefit then your heart isn't in your marriage.
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17 of 18 people found the following review helpful By T. Leonard on July 27, 2002
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This book should be "required reading" before any state issues a marriage license to a man! Plain talk about how we men really don't understand how our wives "operate"... but Gary doesn't stop at the "how they work" and goes on to help us overcome our bone-headed ways and build a great relationship with our wives. I know, because I was one of the boneheads that had to read the book AFTER I had done all the wrong things. But, thank God, I was lead to this book, read it with an open mind and heart, and began practicing building a quality relationship with my wife. We've been married for nearly 27 years now, and are absolute best friends... and I attribute this book's affect on my life for a lot of the success I had in getting to this point! You won't be sorry for reading it... I promise!
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20 of 22 people found the following review helpful By USAmerican on October 23, 2000
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This is not really a feminist book, although it may sound like it. Keep in mind: This is a book for improving your relationship with your wife, and improving your marriage. For this, it works. I especially found truth in the premise that it takes around five years for the "baggage" to work itself out. After that, men, its all up to you! Sure, not every argument you have is your (the man's) fault. But you do have the key to resolving those arguments... realizing that womens' fears and hurts are real, and dealing with them. Its not about who is right. It is about understanding what a woman needs, and knowing that she deserves to be loved to the point of self-sacrifice. Listening, understanding, compassion, and faith. And it does not mean that you give in to her every whim. A woman needs her husband to lead, and this book doesn't try to convince you otherwise. It just teaches you how to be a Christ-like leader instead of an army sargent. A very useful book!
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13 of 15 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on August 27, 1997
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How can you get your wife more interested in sex? How can you get her to stop nagging? Why is she so emotional? What does she really want from you (the husband) anyways? How can you make your marriage wonderful? How can you get her to respect you?
Even though the book is based on Christian principles it will work for you and improve your already wonderful marriage. And if you need help with your troubled marriage, then this is the book! WIVES: If you want your husband to understand you then get him this book! (Check out the companion book "For Better or for Best".)
This is a must read for all those in love, engaged, or married. It will definitely improve your relationship with your spouse. It was written with many stories that couples can identify with, tips, and specific instructions on how to improve your marriage immediately.
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12 of 14 people found the following review helpful By De Paddock on August 2, 2005
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Gary Smalley has the unique insight gained only by the assistance of the Holy Spirit - to understand the way a woman thinks and responds to her husband's attention or lack thereof. Although the book is primarly written for the man to read - it so struck me with the fact that there is a man who does understand how I feel and what makes me "tick". I also learned valuable lessons in dealing with my children - helping them to understand why it is vital that we honor and respect one another - preparing them for adulthood - and becoming a Godly spouse. He places the responsiblity of the welfare of the family and condition of the marriage - squarely on the shoulders of the husband - something I've not heard before - but rather, the preception has been it's "up to the woman". I pray every man, who is serious about his marriage, will read this book.
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