Controlling parents can leave lasting scars on your psyche and negatively influence all aspects of your adult life, especially the ways you parent your own children. Understanding and rising above these problems is the subject of If You Had Controlling Parents, read by the author, clinical psychologist Dan Neuharth. Moving slowly and carefully through the material, Dr. Neuharth gives you time to process and reflect upon topics such as why parents overcontrol and how you can gain autonomy in your life. Specific exercises at the end of the tape will help you to change the patterns set by controlling parents and deal with situations like family holidays, maintaining relationships with your parents, and developing your own parenting style. (Running time: three hours, two cassettes) --Sharon Griggins --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Although the term "controlling parent" most often brings to mind a domineering parent, there are actually several ways in which a parent may use control. Labeling the types as smothering, cultlike, abusing, using, depriving, perfectionistic, chaotic, and childlike, Neuharth describes the characteristics of each, giving examples. The emphasis is on understanding parenting behaviors and their effects, as the author asserts that understanding is the key to future therapeutic success. The final section describes some steps, e.g., emotionally leaving home and writing down one's experiences, as coping techniques. These ideas are not innovative, but, as self-help materials are always in demand, this would be a beneficial purchase for most public libraries.?Susan McCaffrey, Haslett H.S., MI
Copyright 1999 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
I highly recommend this book. So approachable, so helpful, so insightful. I'd already come to understand, through counseling, personal reflection and other books, much of what was... Read morePublished 5 months ago by Sharon Short
Absolutely one of the best books ever about controlling parents. I read this book almost daily to try to cope with a lifetime of criticism from one parent. Read morePublished 7 months ago by Snooper's Mom
Fantastic book. Was so on the money. Gave me lots of insight. Felt like it condensed 10 years of therapy. lol. worth it.Published 8 months ago by K & L Koenemann
Excellent, in-depth book on the many different types of controlling caregivers. Essentially, if the defeating patterns of your caregivers' behavior prevailed, then you know you... Read morePublished 8 months ago by Pennwoman
So much of this book is valid. I think that parents were following a model and not intending to damage children. However, this is one route to recovery.Published 8 months ago by Rosalyn G. Mackey