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If You Have to Cry, Go Outside: And Other Things Your Mother Never Told You [Kindle Edition]

Kelly Cutrone , Meredith Bryan
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Book Description

In the New York Times bestseller If You Have to Cry, Go Outside, media maven Kelly Cutrone spills her secrets for success without selling out. She combines personal and professional stories from her high-profile gigs as Whitney Port and Lauren Conrad’s boss on The Hills, star of Bravo's Kell on Earth, judge on America’s Next Top Model, and CEO/founder of the fashion PR firm People’s Revolution to offer young professional women no-nonsense, brutally honest career advice—and other things their mothers never told them.

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“What everyone loves about Kelly Cutrone, owner of fashion PR firm People’s Revolution and The City’s official BS barometer, is that she isn’t afraid to tell it how it is.”

Book Description

Kelly Cutrone has long been mentoring women on how to make it in one of the most competitive industries in the world. She has kicked people out of fashion shows, forced some of reality television's shiny stars to fire their friends, and built her own company—one of the most powerful PR firms in the fashion business—from the ground up. Through it all, she has refused to be anything but herself.

Kelly writes in her trademark, no-bullshit style, combining personal and professional stories to share her secrets for success without selling out. Let's face it: this is a different world than the one in which our mothers grew up, and Kelly has created a real girl's guide to making it in today's world. Offering a wake-up call to women everywhere, she challenges us to stop the dogged pursuit of the “perfect life” and discover who we are and what we really want. Then she shows us how to go out there and get it. Much of our culture teaches us to muzzle our inner voice and follow the crowd; Kelly enables us to stop pretending and start truly living.

With chapters on how to find your tribe (those like-minded souls who make your heart sing), how sometimes a breakdown is really a breakthrough, and how there is no such thing as perfection, Kelly also shares practical advice, such as how to create a personal brand and how sometimes you have to fake it to make it.

Raw, hilarious, shocking, but always the honest truth, If You Have to Cry, Go Outside calls upon you to gather up your courage like an armful of clothes at a McQueen sample sale and follow your soul wherever it takes you. Whether you're just starting out in the world or looking to reinvent yourself, If You Have to Cry, Go Outside will be the spark you need to figure out what you have to say to the world—and how you're going to say it.

Product Details

  • File Size: 273 KB
  • Print Length: 212 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 0061930938
  • Publisher: HarperCollins e-books; Reprint edition (January 15, 2010)
  • Sold by: HarperCollins Publishers
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B0034EJL54
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Lending: Not Enabled
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #92,280 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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224 of 247 people found the following review helpful
2.0 out of 5 stars self-indulgent; purely a memoir March 14, 2010
Format:Hardcover|Verified Purchase
I decided to read this book because I've always had an interest in transitioning into publicity/PR and the book sounded like a great read for female professionals. I thought that, though I'm not necessarily interested in fashion, this would offer some solid career tips from someone that has seen it all. It did have a few tips here and there about being tough, but ultimately, it is titled and positioned incorrectly. It isn't about lessons for career women, but rather the author's memoir about how she landed a career in the fashion PR industry after a drug-ridden and messy period of time earlier in life. There is also an out-of-place section on her spirituality and there are spiritual tips sprinkled throughout.

In fact, the lessons for the readers don't actually start until page 149 in the chapter - "If You Have to Cry, Go Outside." Up until that point, it is a story about how she was addicted to drugs, was saved by her powerful tribe at times, and eventually became really successful. The name-dropping is a bit much. We get from the start that she knows and has worked with some well-known celebrities, but it is overly discussed throughout.

I wasn't looking for a tale of morality, but the whole thing seemed rather shallow. In a section titled "Everything Good Happens After Thirty," one bullet point of advice is: "it's time to step it up a notch and charge headlong into the land of overpriced luxury accessories." Is that really an important part of turning 30? And as my review title states - it is extremely over-indulgent and self-inflated. For example, on page 100 she writes, "A lot of women ask me, 'How do you have it all?
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1.0 out of 5 stars Hated every minute of this self indulgent tale October 29, 2010
(Writing this under my Husband's account)
A good friend recommended this book so I felt obligated to read it from cover to cover. I hated every minute of it... I kept hoping the book would improve. I thought that I'd suddenly turn a corner with Kelly and realize that she had stopped being a self-indulgent, go against the grain just to create waves, name dropping, self important person. Sadly, that never happened and I breathed a huge sigh of relief when I finished the last page.

The major theme through this book is to create your own religion. She warns not to worship inside a temple, church, whatever because you're limited in that capacity. What she fails to recognize is that her polytheistic approach to her "religious beliefs" leaves her twisting the word of all leaders, all people she might consider to be her God(s) and creates her own ideal. She even goes so far as to brag about this. As a Christian, I was offended several times when she reaffirmed society's tainted view that a woman can not possibly find herself in motherhood, by being a wife, by working in her church or by having a career that isn't the sole focus on her life. Should everyone by a stay-at-home mother and wife who bakes cookies all day and makes sure the house is spotless? NO! In fact it would put most women in their graves. I get that. What Kelly fails to do is recognize that there are some mothers who aren't failing to meet their fullest potential because they do choose to stay at home, bake cookies and do their best to make sure their house is spotless... and fail miserably in most cases. I'm not easily offended. I too have a mouth that needs reminding once in a while. If you're offended by bad language, Kelly makes an art out of using the "f" word repeatedly through this book.
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36 of 43 people found the following review helpful
1.0 out of 5 stars Don't waste your time or money July 2, 2011
Format:Hardcover|Verified Purchase
I saw the author on the Dr. Phil television show. She was smart and articulate. This book was recommended by Dr. Phil, and I generally like what he has to say, so I bought the book on his recommendation. Big mistake. I own over a thousand books and I have never had the urge to literally dispose of a book in the garbage before. This book is going in the trash. I was expecting advice for young women in the business world. I was not expecting the self-centered hedonistic memoir liberally doused with rudeness. I found this book offensive - it's definitely not worth your time or money.
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18 of 22 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Never Judge A Book By Its Cover February 24, 2010
When I first saw Kelly Cutrone from Peoples Revolution on "The Hills", my first thought was 'this woman doesn't take anyone's crap, I want to be like that!' Last night I finished reading her book If You Have To Cry Go Outside: And Other Things Your Mother Never Told You. Let me first say that I will not gush about anything unless it resonates with me and I truly love it. I could not stop reading the book, I downloaded the e-book at 6pm and I was done by 9 pm. Kelly's story and no non-sense advice for everything from self discovery to fashion career advice was so refeshing and inspiring.
A lot of what influences women's decisions in life is based on preconceived notions of what we are "supposed" to be or pressures from parents or other people. Living a life that is not authentic to who you really are will eventually lead to a breakdown, which is what happened to Kelly and it happened to me. Kelly points out that in order to be your true self (and successful) you need to be fearless. In the book Kelly says "Because if you're the kind of person who senses there's something out there for you beyond whatever it is you're expected to do - if you want to be extra-ordinary - you will not get there by hanging around a bunch of people who tell you you're not extraordinary. Instead, you will probably become as ordinary as they expect you to be." This dear reader is quite a fantastic piece of advice and from a woman who has been there and done that. When someone with such valuable experience is giving advice, we should listen and take note.
I highly recommend this book to young women, but young or not so young, you will feel inspired. In life we need the truth, even it is not pretty, it is necessary. Kelly tells it like it is. ~ Melanie @ [..]
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2.0 out of 5 stars This author has potential as someone motivational (which can be ...
This author has potential as someone motivational (which can be seen in some interviews excerpts). Need to transform personal experience into something that goes beyond the mere... Read more
Published 1 month ago by Antonio Frazão
5.0 out of 5 stars amazing life lessons
Kelly gives it to you raw makes you sit back and look at what your doing . This book is very inspiring and real none of the fully crap . Read more
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Published 2 months ago by Rebecca S. Giammona
4.0 out of 5 stars TIP: Don't cry at work! TRUTH.
This was a good read. Not great, but it was good. A lot of bitter truths and insights. It was actually well-written in comparison to some other reads in the same category.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
Luv this book. Can't wait to get the other one Kelly wrote.
Published 2 months ago by Demetrius White
5.0 out of 5 stars Love this book and love Kelly Cutrone
This is the second book from Kelly that I have read. As a 24 year old young woman, I find her books to be very influential, yet directly to the point. Read more
Published 2 months ago by Nikki
1.0 out of 5 stars She's really just insecure, it's all a veneer
Though I'm ashamed to admit that I watched The City, I loved Kelly on the show. Brazen, no BS, all-black-wearing badass, I thought her book would be just as great. But no. Read more
Published 3 months ago by Ashley B.
5.0 out of 5 stars Powerful Read
Kelly Cutrone is a stroke of genius. She is raw, honest and to the point! Not only did I learn about her life's work, I discovered a piece of myself as well. Read more
Published 3 months ago by TJ
5.0 out of 5 stars 5 stars love Kelly Cutrone's no BS attutude
I Love the fact that she has no filter and manages to not offend anyone in my opinion throughout the book. Read more
Published 3 months ago by Wilber Rivera
4.0 out of 5 stars Empowerment
I enjoyed reading this book mainly because it has supported my thoughts on the bad stereotypes placed on women; the society may consider it to be bad but it doesn't matter to me.
Published 4 months ago by Kerah bryant
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Kelly Cutrone is the founder of the fashion public relations, branding, and marketing firm People's Revolution, which has represented clients such as Longchamp, Vivienne Westwood, Valentino, Jeremy Scott, Paco Rabanne, Thierry Mugler, Bulgari, Christie's, and more. She stars in Kell on Earth on Bravo and has appeared on MTV's The Hills and The City. Prior to founding People's Revolution, Cutrone cofounded Cutrone & Weinberg and was the director of PR for Spin magazine. Cutrone lives in Manhattan with her daughter, Ava.

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