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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 208 pages
  • Publisher: HarperOne; First Edition edition (February 2, 2010)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0061930938
  • ISBN-13: 978-0061930935
  • Product Dimensions: 9.2 x 6.4 x 0.8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 10.6 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (166 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #79,620 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Review

“Kelly’s book is full of anecdotes from her personal and professional life as well as motivational tips.” (People.com)

“Cutrone, 44, is infamous to the MTV generation for her untimely eruptions and cutting commentaries. Her hellish take on the fashion world is her ticket to stardom....If You Have to Cry, Go Outside (HarperOne), reads as a gritty guide for young women entering the fashion world.” (USA Today)

“Choice career and style advice from New York’s most outspoken PR woman.” (WSJ.com)

“What everyone loves about Kelly Cutrone, owner of fashion PR firm People’s Revolution and The City’s official BS barometer, is that she isn’t afraid to tell it how it is.” (Elle Magazine)

“Cutrone gives blunt, how-to advice on how to be a “power bitch”... It’s an old-fashioned guide to succeeding in both life and work (phone, not e-mail, you Gen Y-ers!), with a dash of self-styled spirituality and, of course, all dressed up in Balenciaga.” (New York Post)

“[The] powerhouse fashion PR maven we-love-to-hate-but-really-love...” (Dallas Morning News)

“Part memoir, part self-improvement sermon (and conspicuously published by HarperOne, the spirituality imprint behind some of Marianne Williamson’s and Deepak Chopra’s books), it recounts Cutrone’s own fitful journey.” (New York Magazine)

“[A] memoir-ish book of offbeat advice for budding ‘power girls’...” (The Daily Beast)

“In her new book, If You Have to Cry, Go Outside: And Other Things Your Mother Never Told You, Cutrone shares personal stories and offers practical advice to encourage readers to figure out what they really want to do and to go out there and do it.” (Aol Career Blog)

“The book outlines [Cutrone’s] tumultuous rise from homelessness to the fashion elite and serves as a guide for navigating an alternative career path.” (The Harvard Crimson)

“Cutrone’s new book If you have to Cry, Go Outside: And Other Things Your Mother Never Told You is a raw, no bullshit, drama and drug–filled autobiographical joy ride that preaches spiritual self-empowerment over self-sabotage..” (Out Magazine)

“One of the few movers-and shakers who seems to have an enlightened grip on both the dark and light side of the business she navigates with such self-possession.… Clear, concise, to the point, and abrasively, wonderfully honest.” (The L)

“A must-read for career-minded gals entering the workforce – or those who just want to reinvent themselves.” (Star Magazine)

“Intelligent and witty works of wonder...literary bitch-slaps of unfettered straightfoward speech....an honest, instructional pseudo-memoir targeting a new generation of “young girls and gay boys” who want to break into the fashion industry but are unsure they have the chops for it. ” (Bay Area Reporter)

“In her trademark, no bull-shit style Kelly gives us the raw honest truth in If You Have To Cry, Go Outside. It is an easy fun read book you most likely will read over and over and continue to laugh out loud.” (CupcakeMag.com)

“Though on her TV show Cutrone’s outer bitch is ascendant, in her book, we’re introduced to the softer side of Kelly. Prone to New Age platitudes like, “Celebrate the magic inside of yourself.” This hippie affect is a delightful surprise coming from a woman who also swears like a sailor.” (Slate.com)

“She’s also publishing a memoir/guide, turning her take-no-prisoners approach to the fashion business into a message of girl power...entertaining for all.” (Los Angeles Times)

“Some necessary tough-love truths.” (Columbus Ledger-Enquirer)

“Part memoir and part career guide, geared toward young women breaking into the workforce.” (The Village Voice)

“If anything, the word that should be used to describe Cutrone is ‘feminist’ - it’s just that her version of female empowerment involves acknowledging that ‘you’re no different from anyone else and deserve no special treatment’. Unless, of course, you’ve earned it.” (The Sunday Times)

Book Description

Kelly Cutrone has long been mentoring women on how to make it in one of the most competitive industries in the world. She has kicked people out of fashion shows, forced some of reality television's shiny stars to fire their friends, and built her own company—one of the most powerful PR firms in the fashion business—from the ground up. Through it all, she has refused to be anything but herself.

Kelly writes in her trademark, no-bullshit style, combining personal and professional stories to share her secrets for success without selling out. Let's face it: this is a different world than the one in which our mothers grew up, and Kelly has created a real girl's guide to making it in today's world. Offering a wake-up call to women everywhere, she challenges us to stop the dogged pursuit of the “perfect life” and discover who we are and what we really want. Then she shows us how to go out there and get it. Much of our culture teaches us to muzzle our inner voice and follow the crowd; Kelly enables us to stop pretending and start truly living.

With chapters on how to find your tribe (those like-minded souls who make your heart sing), how sometimes a breakdown is really a breakthrough, and how there is no such thing as perfection, Kelly also shares practical advice, such as how to create a personal brand and how sometimes you have to fake it to make it.

Raw, hilarious, shocking, but always the honest truth, If You Have to Cry, Go Outside calls upon you to gather up your courage like an armful of clothes at a McQueen sample sale and follow your soul wherever it takes you. Whether you're just starting out in the world or looking to reinvent yourself, If You Have to Cry, Go Outside will be the spark you need to figure out what you have to say to the world—and how you're going to say it.


More About the Author

Kelly Cutrone is the founder of the fashion public relations, branding, and marketing firm People's Revolution, which has represented clients such as Longchamp, Vivienne Westwood, Valentino, Jeremy Scott, Paco Rabanne, Thierry Mugler, Bulgari, Christie's, and more. She stars in Kell on Earth on Bravo and has appeared on MTV's The Hills and The City. Prior to founding People's Revolution, Cutrone cofounded Cutrone & Weinberg and was the director of PR for Spin magazine. Cutrone lives in Manhattan with her daughter, Ava.

Customer Reviews

I definitely recommend this book to all women!
SUZ005
Great book, good perspective on life, Kelly Cutrone is a down to earth person and makes you think about what you really should value in life.
Pati Hensley
The only thing more fun than reading this book was watching Kelly Cutrone's show on Bravo, "Kell on Earth." So much fun.
Alison

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

218 of 240 people found the following review helpful By C. B. St Hilaire VINE VOICE on March 14, 2010
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I decided to read this book because I've always had an interest in transitioning into publicity/PR and the book sounded like a great read for female professionals. I thought that, though I'm not necessarily interested in fashion, this would offer some solid career tips from someone that has seen it all. It did have a few tips here and there about being tough, but ultimately, it is titled and positioned incorrectly. It isn't about lessons for career women, but rather the author's memoir about how she landed a career in the fashion PR industry after a drug-ridden and messy period of time earlier in life. There is also an out-of-place section on her spirituality and there are spiritual tips sprinkled throughout.

In fact, the lessons for the readers don't actually start until page 149 in the chapter - "If You Have to Cry, Go Outside." Up until that point, it is a story about how she was addicted to drugs, was saved by her powerful tribe at times, and eventually became really successful. The name-dropping is a bit much. We get from the start that she knows and has worked with some well-known celebrities, but it is overly discussed throughout.

I wasn't looking for a tale of morality, but the whole thing seemed rather shallow. In a section titled "Everything Good Happens After Thirty," one bullet point of advice is: "it's time to step it up a notch and charge headlong into the land of overpriced luxury accessories." Is that really an important part of turning 30? And as my review title states - it is extremely over-indulgent and self-inflated. For example, on page 100 she writes, "A lot of women ask me, 'How do you have it all?
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122 of 152 people found the following review helpful By Nicksdad on October 29, 2010
Format: Hardcover
(Writing this under my Husband's account)
A good friend recommended this book so I felt obligated to read it from cover to cover. I hated every minute of it... I kept hoping the book would improve. I thought that I'd suddenly turn a corner with Kelly and realize that she had stopped being a self-indulgent, go against the grain just to create waves, name dropping, self important person. Sadly, that never happened and I breathed a huge sigh of relief when I finished the last page.

The major theme through this book is to create your own religion. She warns not to worship inside a temple, church, whatever because you're limited in that capacity. What she fails to recognize is that her polytheistic approach to her "religious beliefs" leaves her twisting the word of all leaders, all people she might consider to be her God(s) and creates her own ideal. She even goes so far as to brag about this. As a Christian, I was offended several times when she reaffirmed society's tainted view that a woman can not possibly find herself in motherhood, by being a wife, by working in her church or by having a career that isn't the sole focus on her life. Should everyone by a stay-at-home mother and wife who bakes cookies all day and makes sure the house is spotless? NO! In fact it would put most women in their graves. I get that. What Kelly fails to do is recognize that there are some mothers who aren't failing to meet their fullest potential because they do choose to stay at home, bake cookies and do their best to make sure their house is spotless... and fail miserably in most cases. I'm not easily offended. I too have a mouth that needs reminding once in a while. If you're offended by bad language, Kelly makes an art out of using the "f" word repeatedly through this book.
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30 of 36 people found the following review helpful By Flora Spackman on July 2, 2011
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I saw the author on the Dr. Phil television show. She was smart and articulate. This book was recommended by Dr. Phil, and I generally like what he has to say, so I bought the book on his recommendation. Big mistake. I own over a thousand books and I have never had the urge to literally dispose of a book in the garbage before. This book is going in the trash. I was expecting advice for young women in the business world. I was not expecting the self-centered hedonistic memoir liberally doused with rudeness. I found this book offensive - it's definitely not worth your time or money.
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16 of 19 people found the following review helpful By M. Venuto on February 24, 2010
Format: Hardcover
When I first saw Kelly Cutrone from Peoples Revolution on "The Hills", my first thought was 'this woman doesn't take anyone's crap, I want to be like that!' Last night I finished reading her book If You Have To Cry Go Outside: And Other Things Your Mother Never Told You. Let me first say that I will not gush about anything unless it resonates with me and I truly love it. I could not stop reading the book, I downloaded the e-book at 6pm and I was done by 9 pm. Kelly's story and no non-sense advice for everything from self discovery to fashion career advice was so refeshing and inspiring.
A lot of what influences women's decisions in life is based on preconceived notions of what we are "supposed" to be or pressures from parents or other people. Living a life that is not authentic to who you really are will eventually lead to a breakdown, which is what happened to Kelly and it happened to me. Kelly points out that in order to be your true self (and successful) you need to be fearless. In the book Kelly says "Because if you're the kind of person who senses there's something out there for you beyond whatever it is you're expected to do - if you want to be extra-ordinary - you will not get there by hanging around a bunch of people who tell you you're not extraordinary. Instead, you will probably become as ordinary as they expect you to be." This dear reader is quite a fantastic piece of advice and from a woman who has been there and done that. When someone with such valuable experience is giving advice, we should listen and take note.
I highly recommend this book to young women, but young or not so young, you will feel inspired. In life we need the truth, even it is not pretty, it is necessary. Kelly tells it like it is. ~ Melanie @ [..]
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