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If You Have to Cry, Go Outside: And Other Things Your Mother Never Told You Hardcover – Bargain Price, February 2, 2010
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“Cutrone’s new book If you have to Cry, Go Outside: And Other Things Your Mother Never Told You is a raw, no bullshit, drama and drug–filled autobiographical joy ride that preaches spiritual self-empowerment over self-sabotage..” (Out Magazine )
“Cutrone gives blunt, how-to advice on how to be a “power bitch”... It’s an old-fashioned guide to succeeding in both life and work (phone, not e-mail, you Gen Y-ers!), with a dash of self-styled spirituality and, of course, all dressed up in Balenciaga.” (New York Post )
“Cutrone, 44, is infamous to the MTV generation for her untimely eruptions and cutting commentaries. Her hellish take on the fashion world is her ticket to stardom....If You Have to Cry, Go Outside (HarperOne), reads as a gritty guide for young women entering the fashion world.” (USA Today )
“[A] memoir-ish book of offbeat advice for budding ‘power girls’...” (The Daily Beast )
“The book outlines [Cutrone’s] tumultuous rise from homelessness to the fashion elite and serves as a guide for navigating an alternative career path.” (The Harvard Crimson )
“Though on her TV show Cutrone’s outer bitch is ascendant, in her book, we’re introduced to the softer side of Kelly. Prone to New Age platitudes like, “Celebrate the magic inside of yourself.” This hippie affect is a delightful surprise coming from a woman who also swears like a sailor.” (Slate.com )
“She’s also publishing a memoir/guide, turning her take-no-prisoners approach to the fashion business into a message of girl power...entertaining for all.” (Los Angeles Times )
“[The] powerhouse fashion PR maven we-love-to-hate-but-really-love...” (Dallas Morning News )
“Kelly’s book is full of anecdotes from her personal and professional life as well as motivational tips.” (People.com )
“What everyone loves about Kelly Cutrone, owner of fashion PR firm People’s Revolution and The City’s official BS barometer, is that she isn’t afraid to tell it how it is.” (Elle Magazine )
“Part memoir and part career guide, geared toward young women breaking into the workforce.” (The Village Voice )
“If anything, the word that should be used to describe Cutrone is ‘feminist’ - it’s just that her version of female empowerment involves acknowledging that ‘you’re no different from anyone else and deserve no special treatment’. Unless, of course, you’ve earned it.” (The Sunday Times )
“One of the few movers-and shakers who seems to have an enlightened grip on both the dark and light side of the business she navigates with such self-possession.… Clear, concise, to the point, and abrasively, wonderfully honest.” (The L )
“A must-read for career-minded gals entering the workforce – or those who just want to reinvent themselves.” (Star Magazine )
“Intelligent and witty works of wonder...literary bitch-slaps of unfettered straightfoward speech....an honest, instructional pseudo-memoir targeting a new generation of “young girls and gay boys” who want to break into the fashion industry but are unsure they have the chops for it. ” (Bay Area Reporter )
“In her trademark, no bull-shit style Kelly gives us the raw honest truth in If You Have To Cry, Go Outside. It is an easy fun read book you most likely will read over and over and continue to laugh out loud.” (CupcakeMag.com )
“Choice career and style advice from New York’s most outspoken PR woman.” (WSJ.com )
“Part memoir, part self-improvement sermon (and conspicuously published by HarperOne, the spirituality imprint behind some of Marianne Williamson’s and Deepak Chopra’s books), it recounts Cutrone’s own fitful journey.” (New York Magazine )
“Some necessary tough-love truths.” (Columbus Ledger-Enquirer )
Kelly Cutrone has long been mentoring women on how to make it in one of the most competitive industries in the world. She has kicked people out of fashion shows, forced some of reality television's shiny stars to fire their friends, and built her own company—one of the most powerful PR firms in the fashion business—from the ground up. Through it all, she has refused to be anything but herself.
Kelly writes in her trademark, no-bullshit style, combining personal and professional stories to share her secrets for success without selling out. Let's face it: this is a different world than the one in which our mothers grew up, and Kelly has created a real girl's guide to making it in today's world. Offering a wake-up call to women everywhere, she challenges us to stop the dogged pursuit of the “perfect life” and discover who we are and what we really want. Then she shows us how to go out there and get it. Much of our culture teaches us to muzzle our inner voice and follow the crowd; Kelly enables us to stop pretending and start truly living.
With chapters on how to find your tribe (those like-minded souls who make your heart sing), how sometimes a breakdown is really a breakthrough, and how there is no such thing as perfection, Kelly also shares practical advice, such as how to create a personal brand and how sometimes you have to fake it to make it.
Raw, hilarious, shocking, but always the honest truth, If You Have to Cry, Go Outside calls upon you to gather up your courage like an armful of clothes at a McQueen sample sale and follow your soul wherever it takes you. Whether you're just starting out in the world or looking to reinvent yourself, If You Have to Cry, Go Outside will be the spark you need to figure out what you have to say to the world—and how you're going to say it.
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In fact, the lessons for the readers don't actually start until page 149 in the chapter - "If You Have to Cry, Go Outside." Up until that point, it is a story about how she was addicted to drugs, was saved by her powerful tribe at times, and eventually became really successful. The name-dropping is a bit much. We get from the start that she knows and has worked with some well-known celebrities, but it is overly discussed throughout.
I wasn't looking for a tale of morality, but the whole thing seemed rather shallow. In a section titled "Everything Good Happens After Thirty," one bullet point of advice is: "it's time to step it up a notch and charge headlong into the land of overpriced luxury accessories." Is that really an important part of turning 30? And as my review title states - it is extremely over-indulgent and self-inflated. For example, on page 100 she writes, "A lot of women ask me, 'How do you have it all?Read more ›
A good friend recommended this book so I felt obligated to read it from cover to cover. I hated every minute of it... I kept hoping the book would improve. I thought that I'd suddenly turn a corner with Kelly and realize that she had stopped being a self-indulgent, go against the grain just to create waves, name dropping, self important person. Sadly, that never happened and I breathed a huge sigh of relief when I finished the last page.
The major theme through this book is to create your own religion. She warns not to worship inside a temple, church, whatever because you're limited in that capacity. What she fails to recognize is that her polytheistic approach to her "religious beliefs" leaves her twisting the word of all leaders, all people she might consider to be her God(s) and creates her own ideal. She even goes so far as to brag about this. As a Christian, I was offended several times when she reaffirmed society's tainted view that a woman can not possibly find herself in motherhood, by being a wife, by working in her church or by having a career that isn't the sole focus on her life. Should everyone by a stay-at-home mother and wife who bakes cookies all day and makes sure the house is spotless? NO! In fact it would put most women in their graves. I get that. What Kelly fails to do is recognize that there are some mothers who aren't failing to meet their fullest potential because they do choose to stay at home, bake cookies and do their best to make sure their house is spotless... and fail miserably in most cases. I'm not easily offended. I too have a mouth that needs reminding once in a while. If you're offended by bad language, Kelly makes an art out of using the "f" word repeatedly through this book.Read more ›
The book and Cutrone herself aren't what I expected but her journey is her own and this is her book so I won't deny her the right to tell her story in her own way and in her own voice even if that includes the frequent use of the "f-word". But this is not really a book of advice for women wanting success in a career despite the self-help designation. It's more of a memoir as she writes about moving to New York, getting caught up in drugs, sex, and partying all night; fighting her way to success in the fashion industry (public relations), and creating her own religion based on Hindu goddesses. In fact, the tone of the book is heavy on the religion of self and the goddess mentor she calls Mother as she encourages readers to create their own dream religion in which anything goes.
There are tid-bits of advice along the way on making it in the PR side of the fashion industry as a woman. A few times I laughed as she recounted stories in her dry humor way, and I mentally applauded as she wrote about how she handled the abuses of certain high-profile people even though it meant losing them as clients. I do admire her ability to get results, let her yes be yes and no be no, and to not settle for less than what she wants for herself or from her employees. Unfortunately, the book seems to promote that a woman has to be, as she proudly describes herself, a [...] to achieve her level of success, something I don't believe is true.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
The real deal. An empowering honest read. Very worth your time on every level.Published 14 days ago by EverydayPain
Kelly's writing style is captivating. As a 21 year old looking for her place in the world, I enjoyed Kelly's stories and advice. I now want to go out and kick some a**!Published 28 days ago by Lauren
I enjoyed knowing more about Kelly Cutrone's visions. We can see she is not faking it at the book and it made want to read her other book.Published 29 days ago by Amazon Customer
Kelly Cutrone is brutally honest about what it takes to make it in any industry. Her transparency is admirable and her stories are helpful. Read this!Published 1 month ago
Kelly Cuttone is the s***, this book has awakened me. EVERYONE SHOULD READ! It's like the fashions version of "the secret" I've read this book 7 times now. BUY IT! READ IT!💕Published 2 months ago by My wislist
I saw an episode of dr. Phil where one of his guests was planning on becoming a high end escort because she was having financial difficulties. Read morePublished 2 months ago by Jill Whitman