Gordon has found that the source of relationship trouble often involves "love knots" -- those hidden expectations and assumptions we bring to intimate relationships. If You Really Loved Me examines the most dangerous relationship traps, such as:
-- The Invisible Contract: overlooking each other's terms for intimacy
-- The Revolving Ledger: unknowingly expecting each other to make up for past hurts
-- The Negative Infinity Loop: triggering each other's "emotional allergies"
-- Love Knots: hidden beliefs or assumptions that ruin relationships
-- Double Binds: setting up no-win situations
Fortunately, with humor and insight, Gordon provides effective, simple, non-blaming skills to remedy these situations -- and to prevent them from arising again in the future.
Couples, therapists, and anyone who cares about relationships can benefit from reading this book.
