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I'm Not in the Mood: What Every Woman Should Know About Improving Her Libido

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I was impressed by the information provided in the book. Also, Dr. Reichman is quite entertaining in her representations. But I found that this book was more geared toward those women who are peri-menopausal or menopausal, or even post-menopausal. As a 29 year old, I found some of the information a bit 'out of my league'. I can't say that it didn't help me at all; it certainly did. But I guess I was looking for something that was aimed at someone who spends a lot of time going, "I'm not sick or depressed, I'm not middle-aged, I'm not unattracted to my husband, I'm not on medication; what's wrong with me?" Buy it, but just know that's not the purpose of it.

Dr. Reichman addresses the sexual problems that so many women have, but doctors usually dismiss or ignore. At last, a book that gives honest and solid information to women of all ages. Love her style and honesty. From seeing her on Today show, I trust her caring concern for women's health, which so many studies and doctors place after men's health issues. I've recommended this book to many of my friends and after reading it they have all thanked me. Most important, they say it has impacted their life positively.

Dr. Reichman tackles a delicate subject in her latest book, "I'm Not in the Mood Tonight". The book deals with the loss of a woman's libido, or sex drive, and how to get it back. It's direct approach is refreshing and honest. Dr. Reichman spells out the possible causes of decreased sex drive, some of which you'll find very surprising. As the founder and host of the online perimenopause/menopause support group HotFlash!, I have learned that hundreds of women want to regain their sexual selves. It is very important to them. Dr. Reichman's book does a terrific job of explaining the many culprits for a declining interest in sex. She takes a great deal of time in offering solutions and therapies for getting our sex lives back on track.

Sue R.N., BSN

In reading dozens of books on sex, I've noticed that books written by MD's are usually much more informative than books written by others. Hence, I wasn't surprised that Reichman's book was better than the typical book espousing scented candles, dim lights, and other such glib superficialities as the panacea for all sexual problems. That said, I was nevertheless disappointed by this book. There were too many factual errors and inconsistencies in it (as a doctor, I think I'm qualified to say that). Even some drug names were misspelled -- not a big deal, perhaps, but if a doc can't correctly spell the name of a drug, one wonders if commensurate care was given to the other facts presented. In this case, I was disappointed. The professionalism of the book was further eroded by Reichman's frequent puns and attempts at interjected humor. I have nothing against doctors showing their human side, but when Reichman did it, it seemed stilted, not natural. I could excuse all of these drawbacks if the book were packed with more information, but its scope was very narrow and there was so much the author could have said that she did not.

I have used this book in my clinical practice as a Women's Health Nurse Practitioner for the past couple of years to treat Female Diminished Libido. I loan my copy out to my patients who don't want to purchase this book and have had tremendous success with my patients. I have my client read the book over a couple of weeks while waiting for lab results to come back and then we discuss her lab results and what she discovered in the book. The book has had the beneficial effect that most of my patients are able to honestly reveal if there is marital discord that may not have been admitted to in the first appointment. Opening up the way for a sex therapist or marriage counselor has been another positive benefit of this book. I find that many of my patients were reluctant to consider counseling in the first appointment, but were willing to include counseling as part of the treatment plan of their decreased libido. So many women learn about the female body and functions for the first time while reading this book. Every patient has been very happy with this book and no longer felt alone with this problem. They were able to realize that other women have suffered with this same problem and that, most of the time, there is positive results with hormones, exercise, honest communication with their spouse, counseling and/or treatment for depression. I plan to continue to use this book in my treatment of Diminished Female Libido.

As a 28 year old mom with a 14 month old son and mild depression, I thought I'd buy this book. However, when I read the book, it told me nothing I didn't already know. I wish she could have written a chapter that reaches women in their 20s having these issues. I literally ear-marked 3 pages, which were the only three pages out of the whole book that applied to me. Moreso for women in their 30s-60s.

There's a surprise category in this book. But, first, what's best about the book.

I recommend the book to most of my female patients because it gives an excellent description of all of the causes of a woman's decreased libido. Reading this book gives a good framework for talking with the physician and for taking responsibility for improved health.

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The surprise category is this: Men can be the cause of a woman's decreased libido. The way Dr. Reichman explains it: if the man has ejaculation and quits before the woman is satisfied, then the woman experiences frustration and loses desire for sex. Replacing the hormones of a few thousand women has taught me that this problem is much more common than most men know (the woman does love her husband and so doesn't want to tell him). Dr. Reichman tries to address this problem by writing a few pages about impotence in males.

Here's the problem, most men will not seek treatment from a physician (only about 30% of men with erectile dysfunction...impotence or premature ejaculation...will see a physician). So, I often find Dr. Reichman's category to be a real one: men do contribute to the decreased libido of a woman when they don't understand how to provide prolonged love making for the woman who needs it to achieve orgasm.

Dr. Reichman doesn't expand on the problem of men as the cause of decreased libido, but another common problem in my practice is that the woman comes to see me with decreased libido, then after I treat her the husband can't keep up with her. So, she goes from decreased libido, to improved libido, to frustration and decreased libido again. Because my women patients usually can't convince their husbands to come see me, I wrote a 15-day course for men: Anytime...for as Long as You Want: Strength, Genius, Libido, and Erection by Integrative Sex Transmutation.

Now, I ask my women patients to read Dr. Reichman's book. Then when the woman improves her libido (with the book and my hormone therapy), I give the woman the book Anytime...for as Long as You Want (which comes with an audio CD) to help her convince her husband to seek help in keeping up with her new libido.

Read both of these books and don't give up. Just a few months ago, I had a 65-year-old patient brag to me that she had her first orgasm just a few weeks after starting therapy as descirbed in this book. Her husband of many years only smiled.

--Charles Runels, MD
Author of "Anytime for as Long as You Want: Strength, Genius, Libido, & Erection by Integrative Sex Transmutation (A 15-Day Course for Men to Improve Sex and Life)"

This book really focuses on organic desire problems, mainly loss of libido due to hormone fluctations. It really pushes the use of testosterone to increase libido, and other remedies and procedures that are largely geared towards much older women (usually through menopause). THIS IS NOT A HELPFUL BOOK FOR WOMEN UNDER 40.

I NEVER know why women aren't in the mood!! The frustration!! AAAAAAA!! I bought this book to help me in this area, and I have to say it has helped me out a lot. It's a must read for any guy. Another great book to read is The Hormone Desire; The Truth About Testosterone, Sexuality and Menopause. I know, these are books for women, but if you know why she isn't in the mood, you can take what is found in these two books and use it to put her IN the mood!

I read this book cover to cover in just a couple of days. I was in a big need of a "boost" and this helped alot. I loved the section on romance. I've been trying out lots of ideas in The Romantic's Guide by M Webb and it has really improved my ability to get in the mood.