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The Impostor's Daughter: A True Memoir

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The Impostor's Daughter is a stunningly original and utterly compelling memoir.
It is original in so many ways. The drawings and the text combined add a depth
and descriptive precision that hits you on so many levels, emotionally, intellectually
and creatively.

As a psychotherapist that specializes in people who have been harmed by living
inside a lie that no one in the family is allowed to name or challenge, I know intimately
that although Ms. Sandell's story is utterly unique and mind blowing, the sad truth is
that so many people have had to survive equally dysfunctional families, though,
her's is uniquely creative in its dysfunction.

I have already used this book in my psychotherapy practice to show people
who are still in the "it wasn't so bad, it wasn't like they ever beat me with a lead pipe" defense
of minimalizing that if you didn't have the worst parents in the world that you have no right
to complain about the authentic pain that you experienced.

As if all you have to do to be a good parent is not physically beat your children.

What makes this book so special is that while it is quite easy to chronicle others
bad behavior, Ms. Sandell doesn't choose the easy way out, that is to say, she never is
vengeful nor in denial about how badly she needs her father merely to be the sweet and
loving man she senses he has the capacity to be, instead of his misguided belief that in
order to be good enough, he had to be extraordinary.

The book so vividly illustrates that being an ordinarily loving human being is so much
more important than being "better than anyone else", which, of course, if you have been
so damaged that you believe this lie to be the truth, just demonstrates the sad truth that if you
feel you must be better than everyone else, when in fact, nothing could be more extraordinary and
special than what is actually the real truth - that nothing is more special and extraordinary
than simply being a loving and compassionate parent and human.

Being an ordinary and deeply loving, kind and compassionate person, is, to me at least,
realizing the greatest achievement of all, giving someone the gift of feeling loved, cherished, and wanted.

I'll end this review with the ironic realization that the book is such a page turner, that by the
time I got to the section in which she describes her eventual addiction to the sleeping pill Ambien,
I put off taking my own sleeping medication which I cannot sleep without in order to stay up a few
more hours in order to continue the feelings of deep pleasure and poignancy that this book provides from
the very beginning and only intensifies as it approaches the unexpected and utterly amazing ending.

When I finally got to the very last sentence of the entire book, I was unprepared for the intense emotions
I felt wash over me by how the very unexpected and utterly courageous and heartfelt message of emotional kindness
with which she ends the book.

It has, at least for now, restored my belief in the capacity of decent humans to choose compassion over anger,
especially when that anger is so fairly deserved - but the author chooses to accept her pain without giving in to
the all too easy choice of responding to being betrayed with well deserved anger.

Just.... Wow...

It may seem odd to use the term self-involved to describe a personal memoir, but The Imposter's Daughter by Laurie Sandell book certainly merits it. There is undoubtedly the germ of a good story in here, worth at least a fifteen-minute segment on This American Life, and it might have been far more compelling had Ms Sandell had the ability to look outside of her own emotional life into that of the other characters who, as she portrays them, are little more than satellites in orbit around her own narcissistic consciousness. I wanted to know, for instance, how it was that her mother and sisters were able to survive and develop under the influence of such a dishonest, unstable husband and father, but Ms Sandell offers her readers only a cursory glance into that side of her family's dynamic. As for her father, his multiple sins and deceptions are described in detail, but Ms Sandell seems unwilling or unable to delve into his own interior life. His motivations are as mysterious at the end of the book as they are at the beginning and he seems to matter only insofar as he is the catalyst for the author's personal dysfunction and neurosis.

Instead, Ms Sandell dwells at length on episodes, such as her pathetic relationship with a drab creature named Ben and her career interviewing vapid celebrities that, while she may believe they represent significant chapters in her personal development, are frankly not interesting or unique enough to earn the demands they place on her readers' attention. The book ends with her visit to rehab, a particularly frustrating section in which she zeroes in on the minutiae of life at the center (the schedule, a map of the grounds, a catalog of the field trips she takes with her group), while glossing over any movement she might have made in the direction of real maturation. Had she been paying attention during her recovery, she would have learned that one of the hallmarks of an addictive personality is all-pervading selfishness, but that lesson never seems to find its way into the pages of her book.

The events of The Imposter's Daughter may all be factually accurate, as far as the author can recall them, but that does not mean that her treatment of them suffers any less from the same pathology of grandiose self-aggrandizement that Ms Sandell accuses her father of every time he makes an appearance. The book is a tell-all, indeed, at times, a tell-too-much, but readers and reviewers would do well not to confuse Ms Sandell's eagerness to air all of her dirty laundry for honesty. Genuine honesty cannot exist without humility; it lies in a writer's ability to transcend her own consciousness and perceive all of the characters who populate her story as persons with lives that are of equal standing with her own. That takes an effort of will that Ms Sandell does not appear ready for, but when she is, I will be eager to read her account of it.

When Laurie Sandell was a young girl, she idolized her father. As she grew older, she began to realize that he's different from other fathers and she suspected that a lot of what he was saying wasn't true. After college, Laurie discovered that her father had obtained credit under her name and done some other questionable things.

In trying to find herself, Laurie does some questionable things of her own after that - traveling the world looking for love and participating in some outrageous behavior. She finally returned to the states and started working as a secretary. When she told a friend who works in the magazine business, about her father, he suggested she write about him. At about this time, she was having trouble sleeping and her mother suggested she try Ambien.

Laurie wrote an article on her father and it was published anonymously. Even so, it still didn't sit well with her family. When Laurie got a magazine job interviewing celebrities, she started researching her father's past in earnest, even traveling to South America to visit his step-sister. In the meantime, she's became addicted to Ambien. She was in a relationship, but it wasn't really a happy one, yet she couldn't ever break it off.

After interviewing Ashley Judd, Laurie exchanged a few emails with her and opens up to her and Ashley Judd makes a suggestion that changes Laurie's life forever.

The Impostor's Daughter is Laurie Sandell's graphic memoir. What a story she has to tell! When this book first came, I leafed through a couple pages and I was hooked. The story is fantastic and the drawings are too. (You can get an idea of what they're like from the cover.) There are even some of Laurie's childhood drawings included. Laurie is brutally honest in the tale of her relationship with her father and the problems she created in her own life. I loved everything about this book - the story, the drawings and even the nice, thick paper it's printed on. This book is hand lettered and took Laurie seven years to write. Once you pick The Impostor's Daughter up, you won't be able to put it down!

A promising start, but devolves into predictable, shallow recovery-narrative pablum. The warning signs came when this reader discovered that the writer's forte is celebrity interviews. Oh boy. And the art is mediocre, without an ability to represent characters in any strikingly individual way. Finally, a weird thing happens toward the end: the reader discovers that the main character is Jewish. Wouldn't this have been a fruitful line of inquiry earlier and throughout? Given Argentina's history? Wouldn't that perhaps have shed some light on the name change? The potentially rich terrain of history and identity was sacrificed for fancy hotels, serenity gardens and higher powers... A disappointment. If only gifted graphic novelists were given a publication venue such as this.

The Impostor's Daughter by Laurie Sandell was the first graphic book I've ever read. I'm not sure if I would have ever picked up a graphic anything, if this book hadn't been a memoir. The idea of mixing the two seemed like an easy way to broach the genre. And two hours later, I had read the book cover to cover.

The author decides to write an article on her remarkable pop. While fact checking, she uncovers that his stories are fiction. More research uncovers lawsuits stemming from bad business dealings, and identity theft. Laurie is devastated after years of idolizing her dad. Feeling betrayed and disillusioned Sandell finds it cathartic to write her article anyway. The story covers the resulting fall out.

After reading the book, I still don't have a clear picture of why she chose to expose her dad so publicly and alienate the rest of her family, but more memorable then her story is the clever and original way Sandell had chosen to tell it. Whether it is your first or just your latest graphic book, this honest portrayal of family dysfunction which in the end inspired remarkable creativity is an amazing way to kill a few hours.

Laurie Sandell has written and illustrated an intriguing and fascinating book with a unique format. Even though it is illustrated like a comic-book, it deals with the serious issues of deceit, drug addiction, the discovery of dark family secrets, and the journey into finding one's true self.

The author decribes in detail how she idolized her larger-than-life father until she found evidence that he was living a life of lies and deception. What should she do with the information she has uncovered? How does she deal with who she is becoming? Does she find true love at last? How does she come to terms with family secrets?

This book is realistic, contemporary, youthful, and a fast read.

I was lucky enough to read an early copy of THE IMPOSTER'S DAUGHTER and was blown away. I read the whole thing in one night, and absolutely loved it. The graphic novel look is so fresh, and Laurie's story was enthralling. Both relateable and completely bizarre at the same time, Laurie's story of her childhood with a profligate liar father and how it affected her is gripping and delightful.

I read this book with interest. It was nicely drawn. When I was done, I felt a bit disheartened that the author really wanted to tell this story to the world. She seemed to think that doing so would make her whole again. That is not the way things have ever worked for me. I felt a bit sorry for her family who were not in much of a position to defend themselves. A sad story on many levels.

Honestly, if this book hadn't been a gift, I'd have never read it. In fact, I wasn't sure I would when it arrived. The cover looked to be for a middle-grader and that's what I assumed it was. When I opened the book and glanced at the artwork, I thought it to be a comedy of sorts and then I began to read some of the passages. Boy was I wrong. I literally had problems putting the book down.

Laurie Sandell was raised in a very dysfunctional environment, only she didn't know it at the time. Sure, she was aware that her family was different, but it wasn't until adulthood that she found out how different. This graphic memoir was so many things - gripping, touching, and even funny at times. Because of the explicit topics discussed, this book is definitely for adults.

Even if you don't like graphic novels like me, I highly recommend giving this one a chance. It was an absolute page-turner.

If you have little time but crave the pleasure of a good book you should purchase this graphic novel by Laurie Sandell. It is an unusual autobiographical sketch of a young woman's search for the true identity of her father. The animation entertains such as a movie would. It is a fabulous read which captures your interest at the first page and holds it until the last. I suspect this author will have many bestsellers to come.