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In Love and War: The Story of a Family's Ordeal and Sacrifice During the Vietnam Years, Revised and Updated Hardcover – June, 1990


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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 576 pages
  • Publisher: Naval Institute Press; Revised edition (June 1990)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0870213083
  • ISBN-13: 978-0870213083
  • Product Dimensions: 1.8 x 6.2 x 9.2 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 2 pounds
  • Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (16 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,002,126 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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32 of 34 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on April 26, 2000
Format: Hardcover
Remember James Stockdale running for Vice President in the early 90's under the third party? He was perhaps the candidate with the greatest personal integrity in ages.
This book is just as genuine and is a vivid examination of what it's like to be a POW in brutal captivity for years. The book also has his reflections on the present-day U.S.. Here, he is refreshing, and can be brutally candid on such institutions as the South's best-known anachronistic walled military place.
Mostly though, it's the love story between what he and his wife have been though these years. No candy coating: A rare American hero with the straight story.
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17 of 18 people found the following review helpful By Annetastic on January 25, 2005
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The BEST book I have ever read. His recount of what he went through is outstanding. I cannot believe the personal, physical, emotional and spiritual strength it took to endure 8 years as a prisoner of War... and the ways in which he communicated with other POW's, his wife and the US government is unbelievable... brilliant. I read this book 2 years ago and gave it to a friend who gave it to another couple friends cross country... eventually I got it back and gave it to my brother who gave it to his buddy... I think either my dad or my uncle has it now. The best book I have read. I reccommend it to anyone. and I can't wait to read it again.
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful By Ex-Army on September 10, 2011
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Stockdale is an American Hero by measure of any and all definitions of that term.
Those of us who have not been tested this way should know the history of those who did.

This book should be required reading for US Presidents and all members of both houses of Congress.

The alternating chapters written by Jim and wife Sybil were a great way to get a complete picture of what took place.
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7 of 8 people found the following review helpful By JAD on December 19, 2005
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The late Vice Admiral Jim Stockdale was the highest ranking POW to return from captivity in North Vietnam. His wife Sybil kept the family focused and hope alive all throughout his long imprisonment.

They present alternating chapters that chronicle their personal challenges which are a microcosm of the nation's challenges at that time.

This should be required reading for all Americans.

For more on the plight of the families of those who were MIA in Vietnam, read Louis Stockstill's epoch-making article:

"The Forgotten Americans of the Vietnam War" By Louis R. Stockstill, at:

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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful By CINN on July 7, 2011
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My father recently left us after a short but hard fought battle against cancer. We lived by our version of the Stockdale paradox and it helped us enormously to keep things in perspective - without ever giving up hope!
Sybil Stockdale was a woman before her time, her frank and honest approach was so refreshing.
Dame Marie Stubbs now has some serious competition as my all time 'Woman of Inspiration'
After Dad's passing I felt I needed to 'know' these people, who without being aware helped us so much.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By Amazon Customer on May 30, 2013
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Why does the U.S. send such valuable resources to accomplish the impossible? Not just hugely expensive machines; it is people. This book makes clear that Jim, who could have performed with distinction as a city official, congressman or judge (doing a better job than any I remember), instead spent 8 years in the prison of a piss-ant third world dictatorship. His philosophy of resistance and communication between prisoners is credited with maintaining everyone's spirit. And his spouse, worried for him, performed the duties of mother and military wife, while dealing with the cackling press.
To his great credit, upon release he did serve in a number of positions (among them the Naval War College and the Hoover Institute), ran for Vice-President, and spoke widely.
Looking around today, I am afraid we civilians are not living up to Jim & Sybil Stockdale's example.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Electric Z on April 22, 2007
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I first read this when first release and just purchased another copy. If you want to read about two real heros, James Stockdale and his wife Sybil Stockdale read this book. They write side by side in spirit, him in a Vietnames prison, the Hanoi Hilton, and she home with thier children. One of the best love, war and a story that you will remember.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By DonM on October 15, 2014
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Mandatory reading for interested citizens wanting to learn about the hideous decisions of Johnson and McNamara. The legacy of the Democrat Party. A first hand account by the man a great leader. An American love story. Jim Stockdale redefined perseverance and integrity. A legend in American history.
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More About the Author

Vice Admiral James B. Stockdale served in the navy from 1947 to 1979, beginning as a test pilot and instructor at Patuxent River, Maryland, and spending two years as a graduate student at Stanford University. He became a fighter pilot and was shot down on his second combat tour over North Vietnam, becoming a prisoner of war for eight years, four in solitary confinement. He was tortured fifteen times and put in leg irons for two years. As the highest-ranking naval officer held during the Vietnam War he organized the POWs in the infamous "Hanoi Hilton" to provide them with a sense of hope and empowerment. Disabilities from his combat wounds brought about Stockdale's early retirement, he was the only three-star officer in the history of the navy to wear both aviator wings and the Congressional Medal of Honor.

His books include Thoughts of a Philosophical Fighter Pilot (1995, Hoover Institution Press), A Vietnam Experience (1984, Hoover Institution Press), Courage Under Fire (1993, Hoover Institution Press) and In Love and War (second revised and updated edition, 1990, U.S. Naval Institute Press), coauthored with his wife, Sybil. In early 1987, a dramatic presentation of In Love and War was viewed by more than 45 million viewers on NBC television.

As a civilian, Jim Stockdale was a college professor, a college president, and a senior research fellow at the Hoover Institution. His many and varied writings all converge on the central theme of how man can rise with dignity to prevail in the face of adversity. He died in 2005.

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