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Infidelity: A Survival Guide

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This book is amazing. I went through this with my husband last year and the book was the only thing that made sense. People try to help you and offer you comfort in a time like this but rarely can someone or something tap RIGHT into what you are feeling. This is what this book does. When this happens, you are so confused and lost and have so many questions. This book helps anwser them and prepares you for confronting the problem and hopefully moving past it. It also offers a lot of hope in such a dim time. For someone going through this, I offer three suggestions: 1) BUY THIS BOOK! 2) Get yourself in personal counseling and 3) If and when your spouse is willing-get both of you into marraige counseling. I wish you the best if you are going through this but please-read this book. It is like a having a light in a dark cave. After counseling and praying and making decisions, I am happy to say my husband and I survived infidelity. We are now enjoying each other and loving each other on a whole new level. Take care.

I bought this book to help me understand and put perspective on my marriage. Last year I had an affair and told my husband. We both had a hard time. He couldnt understand why I did what I did, and neither could I. We had been married for 10 years and together for 13. After a few months he went and had an affair with a mutual friend. I couldnt understand and have spend the last year trying to understand and get through it. It was totally eating me up/ I know I did the exact same thing and several times more than he did. I was so hurt by the betrayal. I ordered this book and read it in 2 days. It had really helped me understand why I had an affair to begin with. I was trying to replace the romance I thought was missing. It gave good insight into what leads to the breakdown of a marriage and how to prevent it. I could have used this information a year ago. It also spoke of retalitory affairs. It shed some light on how my husband was feeling and how bad I had hurt him. After reading this book I was finally able to sit down and talk to him about everything that happened without either one of us getting mad and screaming. We are working on building trust and with the help of the knowledge we got from this book, I have faith in us. I would recommend it to anyone who is hurting like I was.

This book is a must read for anyone experiencing infidelity. It is truly a survival guide. Dr. Lusterman provides the tools needed to get through the emotions, the ambivilence and confusion that come with infidelity. He does this in an extremely thoughtful, honest and straightforward way. Until I read this book, I thought my marriage was doomed. I would have never believed that infidelity would actually serve as a turning point to a stronger, more intimate relationship with my husband. No matter what the circumstances, there is a lot of thoughtful wisdom in this book. I would also recommend this book to therapists who are treating couples dealing with infidelity. Tell your clients about it. It is a great resource.

This book saved my sanity and has given me back my confidence and self esteem. As I read it, I felt as if I could have written it. It is very balanced and easy to read without a lot of psycho-babble. I also liked it because it is written for both the "involved" partner and the "discovering" partner. I recommend this as the first book any partner should read when faced with this incredibly painful situation. I am still in the very beginning stages of recovery but this book helped restore my sense of hope in the future, whatever the outcome.

This book is a must to read for the discoverer of infidelity. It shows that it happens to others and that we are not to blame for our mates infidelity. I blamed myself for not fulfilling my husbands needs, but with reading this book, I have discovered that he walked out on me and his family to have his affair and that I did not create his problem. Keep reading and do the journaling, it will help you build your self confidence up. The books give hope to putting your marriage back together and gaining the trust that has been lost. THANKS FOR SUCH A GREAT READ.

This book really helped me. After recieving it, I found that I could not put it down, and read it quicker than any other book I've picked up. It really helped me to step back from my situation and look at our relationship in a more matter-of-fact way, and to understand my spouses infidelity with a clearer head. The book has also provided me with some insights regarding myself that I have brought to my therapist's attention. My husband is reading it now, and we plan to discuss it after he is done. I think it has been a terrific tool for us to use in rebuilding our broken bond.

As someone in the middle of the problem with no end in sight, this book has been read by my husband and myself. We both found it very helpful. When one is in trauma it is hard to concentrate and the text is very clear. Chapters are summarized. On one page the author states he now believes empathy is even more enduring and valuable than romantic love. He outlines steps to begin building an empathetic relationship - once the affair is ended. It is a book you can return to over and over and my copy is full of yellow highlights.

When I was convinced that my husband was having an affair - I bought this book. When he finally admitted it, I was already half way through the book and it helped me deal with the actual "announcement". I am sure I would not have handled it in the same manner without the guidance and the reassurances in this book. I am hopeful now and am beginning to breathe again.

I think this book is great, it addresses the children involved in infidelity much more than any other book I have read. It also explores how people can react when you confide in them. I honestly think this is the very first book people should read upon discovering an infidelity. It can act as a great guide post keeping the situation from getting any worse than it already is. Pretty quick read, and VERY helpful.

This book is very insightful. It explains how both parties in a relationship are affected by infidelity. It describes all the emotions that are felt during these times and lets you know that these feeling are normal and to be expected. Each chapter has a recap which is very helpful. The book also tells how to deal with your marriage or relationship and how to rebuild or end. It helped me to be quite strong and gave me a lot of direction. I highly recommend it to both the discover and the discovered.