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Excellent Book, November 9, 2003
This review is from: The Inner Male: Overcoming Roadblocks to Intimacy (Paperback)
I read this book years ago and still pick up my tatterd old copy and re-read this great book. Mr. Goldberg gives a realistic appraisal of the dynanamics of male/female relationships. This book really explains in depth the underlying causes of breakups and the suffering that follows. Also there is an excellent chapter on what type of relationships to avoid and learning the history of potential partners to predict the future of the relationship. This is not a woman bashing book in any sense and women would be well served to read this great book..It really gives the nuts and bolts of what happens in relationships and how/why they go wrong. Considering the almost 60% divorice rate...its well worth the time to read.
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GOLDBERG'S RE-THINKING OF HIS 1976 BOOK, September 28, 2011
Dr. Herb Goldberg, (born 1937) is a professor emeritus of psychology at California State University, Los Angeles and a practicing psychologist in Los Angeles. He has also written books such as
Hazards of Being Male: Surviving the Myth of Masculine Privilege (Signet),
The New Male (Signet),
What Men Still Don't Know About Women, Relationships, and Love,
What Men Really Want (Signet), etc.
He wrote in the Preface to this 1987 book, "The original 'Hazards of Being Male' was a child of the seventies, a relatively innocent period for those of us who believed that opening up about the inner experiences of men and women could significantly improve and transform both the male/female relationship and the separate experiences of both... This book will attempt, with greater psychological emphasis, to recognize and explore the manifestations of what I call the 'gender unconscious,' as well as the conscious aspects of gender conditioning that continue to shape our experience."
Here are some additional quotations from the book:
"Women will be better able to understand men's obsession with sexuality when they grasp the irrational nature of their own obsession with commitment." (Pg. 53)
"To say that marriage is a feminine institution and men are doomed to appear inadequate within its structure is not ... an attempt to blame women. Marriage is an event that requires internalized development---capacity to communicate, to express feelings and needs. None of these are areas of usual strength and competence for the traditional male..." (Pg. 62)
"Traditional relationships are power struggles. At the beginning of the relationship the battle is between opposing needs and orientations." (Pg. 66)
"No one person is actually exactly like any single type described. Many 'liberated' people, in fact, embody characteristics of several of the types." (Pg 186)
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