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  • Paperback: 312 pages
  • Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield Publishers; Reprint edition (January 16, 2012)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1442200316
  • ISBN-13: 978-1442200319
  • Product Dimensions: 8.7 x 5.6 x 0.9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 4.2 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (22 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #92,605 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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From Publishers Weekly

Clinical psychologist Ley forges into new territory to examine the long-lived, but little-known "hotwife phenomenon." In extensive interviews with couples, Ley discovers educated, successful individuals with strong, healthy marriages in which wives are allowed, and expected, to sleep with other men. These couples demonstrate high degrees of communication and mutual respect while also asserting that the lifestyle, initiated by the wives, has strengthened their marriages. Interviews lead Ley to track the origins of monogamy and the reasons why "female sexuality was constrained in our society and history," including analysis of the term "cuckoldry," the evolution of laws designed to protect the family, and the Madonna/whore dichotomy, alongside the medical and societal costs of keeping women under sexual lock-and-key. Well-written and thoroughly researched, Ley's survey of an evolving marriage lifestyle highlights qualities vital to any relationship, especially honest and consistent communication.
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Consensual nonmonogamy is bursting out of the closet, gaining wider attention from therapists, researchers and the larger public. One particular kind of nonmonogamy, the hotwife/cuckold dynamic, shows how some people express and explore their sexuality by taking a less-trodden path. This book serves as a great introduction – not just in providing some important basic information and a meaningful context, but by emotionally accompanying the reader who might be taking their first intellectual steps in understanding the hotwife / cuckold dynamic or understanding consensual nonmonogamous sexuality in successful long-term relationships. (Richard A. Sprott, Ph.D., executive director of CARAS (Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities))

What is most compelling is not the sexual titillation, found aplenty in this book, but being taken along on Dr. Ley's clinical journey, exploring controversial aspects of sexuality. (Carole Lieberman, M.D., M.P.H., Psychiatrist and Bestselling Author of Bad Boys: Why We Love Them, How to Live with Them, and When to Leave Them)

Well-written and thoroughly researched, Ley’s survey of an evolving marriage lifestyle highlights qualities vital to any relationship, especially honest and consistent communication. (Publishers Weekly)

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Insatiable Wives is an intimate, erudite exploration of the "hotwives" or "cuckold" phenomenon.... The book is well-written and well-researched.... It's engaging enough to be a "beach book" (the cover will get you some odd looks from the next towel over) and substantive enough to serve as an excellent sexological resource after you've shaken the sand from its pages. (Contemporary Sexuality)

Ley has written a valuable and important book. Regardless of what your values and preferences may be, this book is thoroughly engrossing and impressive in its thoughtful, disciplined, informative approach. Western culture and psychological theories have led us to think that no man will tolerate his wife having sex with other men, but this book shows that in fact such practices have existed across cultural and historical boundaries. Some men not only tolerate but positively enjoy the amorous adventures of their wives. The mixture of history and science, anecdote, and interview makes this a truly remarkable book. Anyone interested in the range and breadth of human sexual activity, whether from personal curiosity or professional interest, will find this well-written and carefully researched book to be enlightening and entertaining. (Roy F. Baumeister, professor of psychology, Florida State University)

Very informative and is suitable for individuals interested in the topic of sexuality and the history of sexuality. (Metapsychology Online Reviews)

More About the Author

David J. Ley Ph.D.

Dr. David Ley is a clinical psychologist in practice in Albuquerque, New Mexico. Dr Ley earned his Bachelor's degree in Philosophy from Ole Miss, and his Master's and Doctoral degrees in clinical psychology from the University of New Mexico. Dr. Ley is licensed in New Mexico and Nevada, and has provided clinical and consultative services in numerous other states.

Dr. Ley currently serves as Executive Director of a large outpatient behavioral health agency in Albuquerque. Dr. Ley has been treating sexuality issues throughout his career. He first began treating perpetrators and victims of sexual abuse, but began to expand his approach to include the fostering and promotion of healthy sexuality, and awareness of the wide range of normative sexual behaviors. Insatiable Wives is his first book and won a Silver Medal in the Foreword Magazine Book of the Year contest for 2009. Dr. Ley wrote Insatiable Wives following two years of interviews with couples around the country. He is currently working on a second book, challenging the concept of sexual addiction. He may be contacted at the following address: nmpsychologist@yahoo.com.

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42 of 43 people found the following review helpful By Scandalouswomen on July 24, 2010
Format: Hardcover
Giving sociological, biological, and historical evidence, a controversial new book reveals how being scandalous might just be your nature - and how you've been tricked into believing it isn't!

Any attempt to review Dr. David Ley's "Insatiable Wive - Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them" is met with fierce quandries. Should it be approached from a clinical stand point so the importance of the book's message isn't overly sexualized? Or should it be written in the hot nasty style such subject matter conveys in people's minds? Should we highlight the interviews with real couples who live a cuckolding lifestyle or do we concentrate on the historical theories and facts as to why some women - many women - aren't hardwired to be monogamous?

Writing for The Examiner, Sadie Smyth describes Insatiable Wives as an in-depth look at the psychological, biological and sociological forces that impact the decision-making process of men who find sexual and psychological fulfillment in the knowledge that their wives maintain relationships with other lovers, as well as the motivation behind the women's choice to do so. In other words, it seeks to explain why many women in relationships sleep with other men and why their boyfriends and husbands love them for it! The book also highlights in detail the resulting female sexual empowerment that arises within the not oft-spoken of dynamic of cuckoldry. That empowerment, as the book details, is often tied just as closely to economics as it is to sexuality.

Ley explains that female sexual freedom throughout the history of the world ties directly to the economic independence enjoyed by women in society. So, among the Inuit for example, where women could pursue sex with other men, the women traditionally oversaw the family's economy.
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15 of 17 people found the following review helpful By Avid Reader New Zealand on February 22, 2010
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A very well constructed,well written,non judgemental approach of this facinating aspect of human sexuality.The author takes us on a voyage of discovery into an area of sexuality seldom explored. He approaches the subject with a refreshingly open mind and uses his extensive background in psychology to make this a very informative and enjoyable read. Highly recommended reading.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful By Sandra Roberts on January 7, 2014
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This book was recommended to me by friends. It has a lot of great research, but the structure is confusing. There is repetition in different paragraphs (so that I thought I'd already read them) and I was left with the sense that the cultures are not as homogenous or as easily separated as he implies. I feel that his background as a psychologist has poorly equipped him for what is essentially an anthropological work.

That said. It covers an extensive range of topics and information and is probably worth struggling through for that reason.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful By Markian Rekshynskyj on January 29, 2013
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A good way to get to know yourself as well. You are normal.
AND YOU MAKE LIFE HAPPEN. Enjoy being human.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By PAUL J GARNET on March 11, 2013
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Want an interesting look into a life that few would ever imagine? Then read this book. I thought it provided an unbiased objective look into an unconventional lifestyle which is certainly not for everyone. It showed how all conventional wisdom could be defied in these couples who some seem to develop more open, loving, and communicative relationships.
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4 of 5 people found the following review helpful By emil on August 26, 2012
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Very good book. Among description of present actual cases there is also a very erudite historical review involving known historical personalities of past several centuries, presenting their erotic history, much of which would be unknown and surprising to an average reader. I happen to be a kind historical buff so a number of these stories I have already ,at lest partially, known, and I was impressed with the knowledge and
accuracy with which the author has presented them. In summary, a very interesting reading stuff.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Steven Forward on April 15, 2014
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This book offers incite into an area that most fear to tread. It is informative, compelling reading. I normally don't read much , but when my beautiful wife suggested this I tried it and couldn't put it down. A must read if you think you can do this lifestyle.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By John Colwell on April 15, 2014
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While our sexual natures are quite variable, this book presents the outer fringe. Few people will find the lifestyle presented attractive enough to seriously desire it. Nevertheless, the description of sex clubs is elucidating albeit rather depressing. While sex in general and even illicit sex can be beautiful, the lifestyle presented here is boring in the extreme.
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