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Insight Into Adoption : What Adoptive Parents Need to Know About the Fundamental Differences Between a Biological and an Adopted Child --- and its Effect on Parenting

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This book does a great job of telling the reader about what really happens in the adoptive process.

In my own family (2 adopted siblings), I know that if adopted kids' issues are not addressed in a healthy manner, the issues can become time bombs just waiting to explode. I wish my parents had had access to this book when my siblings were younger. I think it would have helped both my parents and my siblings realize what was going on and how to address issues unique to the adoption process.

This book is not techie - it is very straightforward - like you're talking with someone over the dinner table.

Very helpful book...

Anyone who is touched by adoption should be reading this book. Adoptees, hand it to your parents and let them see that some of those annoying things you do are related to the fact you are adopted, then apologize!
For adoptive parents: this should be handed out as a guidebook when you adopt, there is so much you can do to educate yourselves and prepare, this is a great start!
As an adult adoptee I found myself splattered throughout these pages, and grinning or wincing as appropriate. There were a few times I wished I could hand it to my Mom and say- "see, it wasn't your fault, you did all you could". I am sending her a copy!
For birthparents: it might help to read this before your reunions, giving yourself some real insight into the patterns of behavior you may encounter, and know they have real base for existence.
For adoptees: I am one of those people who is tired of hearing others blame their parents for their adult behaviors, I think if anything, this can help us recognize some of our own negative patterns and maybe strive to overcome them.
There is joy and pain in this book,laughter, and maybe some tears, but that is life, and we all benefit from living it. Enjoy!

This book is a must-read for all potential adoptive parents. You can't possibly know the questions to ask your adoptees as they go from babyhood through adolescence because you have no idea what they are thinking and feeling. This book will prepare you for anything and everything.

I am a birthmom of 39 years ago. I have met my son's adoptive parents. They are fine people who have raised him with all the right spiritual and moral values. I have sent this book to them and hope they will read and perhaps be able to understand and learn from it.

Barbara raised both adoptive and biological children so has seen life from their very different perspectives. She is truly able to advise and counsel on the experiences all families deal with in adoptive families.

Finally!

A real-world mom offering real-world answers for anyone involved in adoption - birth parents, adoptees and adoptive parents alike.

This book is very straightforward - not techie - like you're talking with someone over the dinner table. The author raised both biological and adoptive children so can relate to both sides of the story.

I wish this book had been available when my adoptive siblings were younger. I think it would have greatly helped us to understand why my adoptive brothers felt and acted the way they did.

Refreshing, insightful and a worthwhile read!

I wish books like this were required reading for every adoptive parent. Every child is unique and every adoption is unique but this book helps to define the issues that adoption creates. Our adoptions were finalized years ago but as we approach the teen years this book was a great review and reminder for me as a parent.

Wonderfully informative & warmly inspirational; professionally written, and with a great deal of love; a must read for anyone personally touched by or professionally involved in adoption