"What should you ask someone before you get seriously involved?" Eve Eschner Hogan wondered while she was starting a long-distance relationship with her future husband, Steve Hogan. Intellectual Foreplay is designed to spark stimulation and interest through intimate communication. "Like its physical counterpart, [it] can build excitement and desire--or quickly reveal a lack of compatibility, saving you months, or even years, of developing a relationship that isn't going to work," say the authors.
It's an interesting concept: questions to ask to determine compatibility or just get to know a lover or potential lover better. The book starts with "Who Are You?" questions covering a myriad of topics, such as self-esteem, values, hobbies, trust, romance, spirituality, health, and time management. Other sections include "Where Did You Come From?" (past, family, friends, education, and intelligence), "Where Are You Going?" (money, work, and future), "Can We Live Together?" (home, household responsibilities, food, bathroom, pets, vehicles, garden), and "Where Are We Going?" (vacations, holidays, children, wedding, and sex). Some questions will strike you as significant and others as unsubstantial--choose the ones that intrigue you. Tips for using the questions productively are peppered throughout the book. For example, figure out your top 20 "non-negotiable" questions and answer them yourself before asking them of a partner. It's an interesting spin on relationship deepening, and will certainly spark conversation. --Joan Price
Not really worth it. Just a bunch of questions to ask. I was looking for more a book that was set up to say "if you want to know more about this, then ask this," or... Read morePublished 6 months ago by polarbear
My girlfriend ordered it on my account without telling me. Ironic actually when you think about it.Published 6 months ago by Nathan Bailey
Lots of good questions that let you know much about that important person in your life. I use it almost every day. Gives you a firm foundation.Published 6 months ago by D. Alford
A good book. All couples should have work through some of these questions before becoming engaged.Published 7 months ago by Jeannie
No matter how much you think you know about your significant other... IF you are Ready for a SERIOUS relationship... THIS IS REQUIRED - prior to any commitments!!! Read morePublished 13 months ago by Joni
Should be required reading for all couples considering co-habitation and/or marriage. There were things in here that we wouldn't have thought to discuss on our own, but sure... Read morePublished 13 months ago by SLG521