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Intended for Pleasure: Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriage

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Six months after we were married, I was wondering if all men wanted sex ALL the time. It seemed like it was exhausting work with no equal payoff for the wife. Then we got this book for a belated wedding present. The problems we were suffering emotionally and technically were addressed in this book, maybe clinically, but factually. This book turned us around 180 degrees. We have had an excellent relationship ever since, and yes, women were intended to have orgasm(s) during intercourse, although some physiologically may need something different. That, I assure you, is not our problem now, and it is directly due to this book. Thank you to the Wheats!

The beginning of the book is fairly dry as it discusses anatomy, but once you get passed that there are exciting tips. My husband learned that I may not have an orgasm every time and it's OK. He also learned that intercourse is not the most pleasurable part for me. I learned ways to help my husband last longer and, in general, how to be more sexually pleasing to him. Great information for brides on pg. 161. If you're engaged, wait until the week before your wedding or you may be too tempted to wait.

I bought this book and "Intimate Issues" at the reccomendation of a female friend who said that she wished someone had told her about them before she got married.

When I recieved the books I immediately dove into this one, it's an easy read, seperated into chapters so that you can read what intrests you. Technique, STD's, dysfunction, God's purpose for sex, etc. etc. it's not like the stereotypical Christian sex book... Ed Wheat gives the reader a good idea of how exciting and fulfilling sex can be in marriage. There's also a chapter on the honeymoon night and having sex for the fisrt time.

This book is esspecially helpful for men who might feel they can't sexually satisfy their wife, there is an extensive section on a "cure" method for pre-ejaculation and also a section on teaching him the intricacies of a woman's body and how to last longer so that he can please her. Ed feels very strongly that it is a man's job to please his wife... I was happy when my finace borrowed this book from me and claimed he had read the whole thing!

This is the best book I have ever read in regards to marital love and sex. Ed and Gay Wheat have taken and educated, "no-hype", direct approach to married sexual fulfilment. This is not a book for those seeking anything other then satisfied, commited sexual fulfillment. I encourage every couple to purchase this book before marriage and this would certainly be a great shower gift before the wedding. Parent's this is a wonderful book to help explain all the things you were uncomfortable telling your children all along.

I purchased this book before my honeymoon in hopes of ithelping my wife and I get the maximun enjoyment out of sex in ourmarrige. The first few chapters are rather dry and cold speaking mostly of anatomy and the like. After that there are some excellent tips to making sex very enjoyable and not discouraging, especially if its your first time. These chapters helped me tremendously in finding out what God intended for sex and pleasing my wife. All the tips he gives in these chapters are very long and tedious. If you think you have these problems prepare yourself for some fun but hard work. Lots of practice sessions with total vulnerability with your partner. And probably with some disappointments. It can be tedious reading but stick with it, it is helpful. Some of the commentary is very clinical and dry, but helpful when you apply it. I really saw the heart of the writers, which is to help and instruct people to have the most fulfilling sex life as possible. END

... here's my review:

Intended for Pleasure gives a lot of good, basic, explicit advice on both a marital sexual relationship, and the technique of lovemaking itself. It avoids couching the facts in poetic language which is one of its strengths. It also does a good job of addressing myths and wrongheaded attitudes which need to be dispelled. I know that it motivated me to do some self examination of my character. I realized that I had a lot of unhelpful pride that I needed to let go before my wedding night.

The main weakness of the book is that the author sometimes fails to fully explain some of the actions he refers to. It's kind of like a Julia Child cookbook where she refers to a complex procedure without ever explaining what it is. In a book like this it's a good idea to be completely descriptive at all times. Once something has been explained, then you can refer to it by a general reference.

The illustrations are only marginally helpful. I'm not advocating the inclusion of Hustler type photographs, but something more detailed than line drawings would be more educational.

The author also sometimes gets badly sidetracked. For example, he includes the procedure for doing a pap smear in the basic anatomy section. What on Earth would a reader of this book want with that information? I suspect he let his fascination with medicine interefere with his purpose in writing this book.

All of that being said, however, this is overall a very good book on the subject. I would recommend it to any Christian couple who is going to be married within a month or so.

This book is very cool, easy to read, and is a life saver. Especially if you have never made love, and you are getting married, it respectfully gives you an overview and important tips to make your first ime with your spouse memorable. It respects the sanctity of marriage, and values love and respect within your marriage. And it also talks about sex not only for young people, but for older adults as well. God will bless you through this book! Buy it here cuz they have it cheaper than where I got it! ;)

My fiancé and I are reading this book together before we get married. It has been very helpful to both of us, we wanted a Christian based book on God's design for sex in marriage. We also wanted input on what to expect the wedding night to be like since we're virgins, it has a wonderful chapter that talks directly to engaged/newly weds about that first night. We would highly recommend this book to other couples who want a biblical view of sex in marriage.

After listening to Ed Wheat's tapes for newlyweds and then reading this book with my new wife we have found many useful things to apply to our marriage and sex life. We have however found several severe errors in his teachings.
Dr. Wheat takes a very mechanical approach to sexual pleasure in marriage especially for the woman. Even as another man I can see it is too obvious that his very logical and systematic approach to sex is flawed. It is not as simple as if you do step 1, 2, and 3 then orgasm will occur. The female body AND mind are much more complex than this! He also goes into such detail in areas which do not apply (PAP smear?) to the general reader, and fails to mention that there are some very common physical problems many women experience which prevents sexual intercourse on the wedding night - often requiring minor surgery.

We found Dr. Wheat's book VERY useful, however it did fall short of giving couples a complete and realistic picture of sex in the Christian marriage. It is definitely worth the money and a book to review many times over the years; however, it should be read with a very open mind and not taken as being the only way for things to be.

After 15 years of marriage and many attempts to improve my marriage in many ways, I found this book to be one of the most helpful. I wished I had read it a long time ago. My husband and I have gone leaps and bounds in our relationship since. I would also recommend "Solomon on Sex".