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Intimate Communion: Awakening Your Sexual Essence

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I am still reading this book and cannot wait to share how I feel about it! My husband and I have been married for thirty years, and we have run the gamut of emotions and experiences as lovers and best friends in that span of time. We want to continue to grow in our relationship and David Deida's book is about the intimate communion we all want in our relationships. I dare to say, as I read this book, and watch the news or an "intelligent" talk show about relationships, I see how David Deida's insights could make a difference in understanding and moving FORWARD to resolving the male/female issues in our culture. Oprah, here he comes - a man with tremendous and unusual insights, teaching us how to live in true harmony with the sexes! This book (as well as his other books) truly and deeply respects the feminine as much as the masculine. The points are well-made while honoring and UNDERSTANDING men and women. Thank you, David Deida. The future looks encouraging!

Oh Yeah!.... Absolutely!..... That explains it!.... No wonder!.... Of course!.... Right!.... Oh.....yes, that's what I want! are just SOME of the things I felt and thought as I read about this brilliant, yet elegantly simple three stage relationship theory. To see myself and my relationships, past and present, in the pages before my eyes was 'enlightening'...to say the least. To read about another possibility in relating with the opposite sex, a way of understanding, honouring and respecting our differences.... and gifting each other with these differences, made me yearn for the third stage. As a woman, I have never felt so deeply seen, heard and understood. David Deida and 'Ophelia' are committed to a 'intimate communion' - a relationship I have always dreamt about. A relationship I have somehow always known about, deep in my heart, yet could never really grasp.

After fighting for my independence, after finding out that instead of waiting for the outside (usually a man) to give me the love I wanted or even 'craved', that I could give it to myself. After realizing and owning my co-dependency and 'working on myself'. After finally creating and still living in a 'new age' '50/50' 'inter-dependent' relationship, I still feel something missing. David Deida is shining a light - a way or path towards more fullness, wholeness and peace. If you are interested in conscious loving, breaking FREE from the constraints of life and getting the LOVE you so deparately want, buy and read it now!

An exceptionally clear and insightful book. The author seems to have a gift for cutting right to the heart of every relationship issue, especially in the context of each individual's spiritual growth. This book, more than any other, has informed my current perspective on relationships, and has proven quite helpful in creating the context to discuss masculine/feminine issues between myself and my partner. We have been using Deida's suggestions with great success for some years now, and our relationship has blossomed in ways we never thought possible, due to our increasing faith in honesty and full expression of each of our gifts. I recommend the book highly to anyone who's at a place of questioning how one can reconcile one's sexuality with one's spiritual path.

Wow. I ran across this book about a year ago when I accidentally went to a "tantra" workshop by a woman who taught Deida stuff and this was the "prerequisite" to read before the class (although I didn't know this before showing up for the class and had never heard of David Deida). I had arrived the night before the workshop, borrowed the book and spent most of the night drowning myself in David Deida. A light immediately went on and I knew the truth of what he was saying.
I tried out one of the concepts the next week at a desert campout where 2 guys were building a big structure. Normally, I'd have jumped in and helped the construction. But his teachings stopped me and instead, I just unobtrusively brought them snacks and water throughout the day and made sure they were not dying in the desert heat. To this day those 2 guys will get a big grin and introduce me as the one who saved their lives in the desert.
From there, I found out about an ongoing group that taught Deida work and continued in active practices, reading and listening to his work. Fast forward 1 year to today and I'm now with my soul mate that I met almost exactly a year after I discovered Deida's work. He naturally has male essence and just looovvveees how I deal with him. He feels bigger and stronger when he's around me and he even attributes his long sought after weight gain, to his body literally filling out to be the bigger man that he's become since he's met me!!! In a way, I feel like Deida's training teaches women how to be muses to their men.
Something about your whole energy changes when you start doing this work and I'm a very different person now than I was a year ago. I'm more tolerant towards men, easier to get along with, enjoy sex more, find it easier to "let go" of slights that I wouldn't in the past and I'm more creative about solutions to relationship issues. I don't seem to expect as much from a partner, but always get way more than I could have hoped for. Rather than "needing" something and him giving it to me by obligation, I can create a "space" for him to step into, give me what I want and get what he wants at the same time- all without him knowing that I've even done anything at all. It's almost magical.
I can't recommend Deida enough. His teachings definately fly in the face of what society would consider appropriate. Some of it feels downright insulting and disgusting until you try it and find that your man responds in ways that you always thought only guys in romance novels respond to women. I now have the lover that I always wanted, but never thought really existed. I'm totally living a romance novel life and its incredible. Thanks again David Deida!

Things weren't working and I couldn't put my finger on why?

This book gave me the opportunity to see these differently and to open to a whole new way of being in relationship.

It was refreshingly liberating.

Great philosophy here: an excellent guide to gender motivation and energy polarities. David Deida is brilliant, with a visual style of interpreting the realms of transpersonal psychology.

I've given this book 4 stars only due to poor editing - it becomes redundant after the first few chapters.

Saturate your mind with Deida's work at his `Blue Truth' site, or visit `Integral Naked', where you can watch some of his workshop videos and interviews for free!

The ideas in this book are as basic as they are ground-breaking. Reading it, I had so many past situations flash before my eyes and explode in complete understanding. If I had only known! How obvious! The book is not one that will teach us to "communicate" or "manage conflicts". It enlightens you on the underpinnings of our masculine and feminine natures and you understand why things are happening. While there is no road map to solving problems, if you understand why, you are 90% there. It amazes me how many of my past relationships and skirmishes fit so easily into the context of masculine/feminine. I understand myself better and that leads to acceptance. I understand HER better and that leads to acceptance and some pretty simple ways to repair. I wish every child learned these concepts. How much happier we'd all be. How much less confused by the opposite sex. How much more appreciative of the opposite sex.

Consider also reading "Getting To I Do" by Pat Allen. Hers is a more concrete "how to" book, but it addresses most of the same issues and in a much different way. It will round out the theories.

This is a great book because it simply lays out the structure in men and women. The book helps the awareness of men and women change from confusion to understanding. Its appearent to me that in our culture both sexes has a misunderstanding in dealing with each other and even themselves. Me as a young man, this book has helped me to better understand myself and my counter parts.

This was the first book on relationships that really helped me understand my intrinsic qualities for showing up in an intimate relationship. I've always thought my natural tendency was as the more masculine. But practical applications for really getting in touch with my full expression and high truth helped me see the feminine qualities that I'd been denying for fear of being discounted or oppressed. I've read this book again and again because of it's insightful content. If you'd like to experience a deeper understanding of your authenticity and how you show up in relationship, this book is for you. I highly recommend it as a source for experiencing your ultimate expression in relationships with yourself and your beloved.

I have read this book, highlighted this book and reread it. I have loaned it to friends and refer to it. I think that the simplicity yet unconventional way of thinking about it is wonderful. So many books have been written on men and womens relationships and tend to follow the same kind of line. This book actually points out the different male and female essences we have within us and how to work with them. It points out why we react to certain things, why we are interested in certain people and why we have conflict someitmes. I work in a male dominate environment, the men attracted to me are trypically weaker and I am not interested. This book helped me realize that this is the case becasue at work I have my male essence dominate, but when I leave my female side takes over and wants a strong man. A man who is there for me. This book helped me see how others view me and why others react the way they do. I really have grown from this book in embracing different parts of me and accepting them. I recommend this completely.