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Invincible: The 10 Lies You Learn Growing Up with Domestic Violence, and the Truths to Set You Free Hardcover – September 30, 2014
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"I have never shared the fact that I was a child of domestic violence. And, if I had not met Brian Martin, I don't know if I would have. What appeals to me most about Brian's approach is that it is based on empowerment. Our experiences as children living with domestic violence have given us the equiptment—a secret weapon if you will—to overcome all kinds of obstacles in our lives. It means we are not victims, we are victorious."
—Tony Robbins, bestselling author, Peak Performance Strategist
"...Attention-grabbing and revealing, giving us insight into the world of CDV. It will be a valuable tool for our staff and New York City's most vulnerable population—its children."
—Trevor M. Johns, Acting Associate Commissioner, NYC Administration for Children's Services
“Martin’s kindness shines through this book. And though many purported self-help books often have the stench of the obvious—House too cluttered? Throw out stuff! Overweight? Eat less, move more!—Invincible has the air of honesty and hard work, and the feeling of someone who wants to help. It is not easy reading. It is not pleasant reading. But for anyone who grew up in a violent household, it could very well be the most important reading.”
"After reading INVINCIBLE, I was struck by the sheer magnitude of children and adults whose lives are impacted by childhood domestic violence. The stories will touch your heart and make you aware of this huge crisis facing our children throughout the world."
—Marlene Lund, Exec. Director, Center for Urban Education Ministries
“Packed with inspirational stories of those who through courage and compassion have transformed their lives, this is a helpful book for anyone who grew up living with domestic violence. It shows that it is possible to overcome the obstacles of a childhood filled with violence and move forward.”
—Stephen Joseph, author of What Doesn’t Kill Us: The New Psychology of Posttraumatic Growth
“INVINCIBLE can be a catalyst for change in the lives of millions who grew up living with domestic violence as it gives them a compelling roadmap on the journey to heal and attain the lives they were always meant to have. It is a valuable resource that can renew their hope and guide them on the path to reaching their full potential.”
—–Caryl Stern, CEO of the U.S. Fund for UNICEF
“This is a unique book filled with inspiring and positive suggestions for adults seeking to overcome the harmful effects of exposure to domestic violence during childhood. It is solidly based on research findings but written in a straightforward way that is readily accessible to readers. I highly recommend it.”
—Dr. Sandra A. Graham-Bermann, Professor of Psychology and Psychiatry, University of Michigan
“This deeply compassionate book will help people who grew up with domestic violence heal the wounds of their past while providing a clear roadmap for a healthier and happier future.”
—Kristin Neff, PhD, Associate Professor, Human Development and Culture, Department of Educational Psychology, University of Texas at Austin, Author, Self-Compassion: The proven power of being kind to yourself
“INVINCIBLE is poignant, challenging, illuminating, and compassionate – all at the same time. Brian does a fantastic job of illustrating points with real-life stories and a fresh perspective. The book goes way beyond describing the issue; it provides clear insight into the thinking and behavior patterns that result from these experiences. Readers are not alone.”
—Chris Newlin, MS, LPC, Executive Director, National Children's Advocacy Center
“INVINCIBLE will have an immediate impact on our outreach and attempts to create bonds in the communities surrounding our churches, as well as within the existing memberships.”
—Rev. Dr. David H. Benke, Bishop/President, Atlantic District, Lutheran Church Missouri Synod
From the Inside Flap
Today, are there certain things about yourself that you wish weren't true? Many of them aren't. They are lies you learned.
Invincible exposes the lies, reveals the truths, and offers the insight and the skills you need to go from feeling and acting:
Guilty to Free
Resentful to Compassionate
Sad to Grateful
Angry to Passionate
Hopeless to Guided
Worthless to Accomplished
Fearful to Confident
Self-Conscious to Attractive
Unloved to Loved
The truth is, no obstacle you will ever face can compare to what you went through as a child and have already conquered. The author is donating all net royalties to the Children of Domestic Violence Foundation (CDV).
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Top Customer Reviews
You all know that I mostly read Young Adult books and am a pediatrician by trade. Both of these are reasons why I agreed to read this book because domestic violence is pervasive in our society, and I felt this was a topic that really needs to be highlighted. After reading this book, I'm moved and want to share this book with everyone I know-- those who have had domestic violence in their childhood, and those who know people who have. I think even the general public can learn from this book as well.
Brian F. Martin bravely reveals his own story of abuse as he opens up Invincible: The 10 Lies You Learn Growing Up with Domestic Violence, and the Truths to Set you Free. He has become very successful and wants to pass on his story to other survivors. Each chapter is about another lie these children learn to believe growing up with this history and how they can break out of the vicious cycle of abuse. One factor that was key in this book was the fact that children are more affected by the abuse they see done to their loved ones than the abuse they suffer to their own bodies because they are overwhelmed with a sense of guilt that they were unable to "save" others. This resonated with me because I never realized how much worse that was, although the public always seems more horrified by the bruises they can actually see.
I feel like anyone who has dealt with trauma, mild or severe, in their lives will be helped by the good tips in this book. We've all had negative experiences, and although we may not have been directly abused or seen a loved one abused, no family is perfect. I wouldn't be surprised if everyone alive believed one of these lies in their lives.Read more ›
"Happiness is having pleasant thoughts most of the time", but those who were children of domestic violence usually struggle with this. Invincible uses many true inspiring success stories to explain why this is so and how to obtain happiness. I found it very accurate, positive, encouraging, comforting, and helpful. It teaches, "therapeutic experiences do not take place in therapy but in naturally occurring healthy relationships."
I am definitely going to add this to my list of books that I suggest to other women that are making it from a place of abuse and loss of personal power to a path of highest potential. It will help anyone on that road know that they are supported and encouraged to create and connect their happiest life possible.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Excellent book for those who have grown up or are growing up in a home with violence. Great for educators and others to read. Great family resource book!Published 5 months ago by Amy D Zill
This is the best book I have ever read. Usually self help books don't do much for me, but as I was reading this book I felt as though I were reading my own life story. Read morePublished 7 months ago by orffehc
A surprisingly massive portion of the world is populated by people profoundly affected by Childhood Domestic Violence. Read morePublished 10 months ago by RHarmon
This book is beautifully written for anyone exposed or being a victim of Domestic Violence, which was always a silent secret to my ex husband's family- even though they may not see... Read morePublished 14 months ago by Denise Limon
This book was a wonderful education on domestic violence in all it's forms.
I am grateful I decided to read it. I learned a great deal.
A book all human service professionals should read! This book has the potential to begin the healing process for countless adults that were children of domestic violence. Read morePublished 14 months ago by RSK
Another book my kids won't let me go through with them. It seemed like it might help, though.Published 15 months ago by No1