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5.0 out of 5 stars
Fun, exciting and useful, September 24, 2001
This review is from: Irresistible Attraction: Secrets of Personal Magnetism (Paperback)
I didn't know if I would like this book or not when I first saw it. I didn't want to read a book that was a Cosmo-get 'em in bed book. This was a pleasant surprise. Since Irresistible Attraction, I've read other books by Kevin Hogan but this remains my favorite for a lot of reasons. Every page is filled with fun, respect for women, lots of well researched information about relationships and sometimes a tongue in cheek atttitude that is very fun! Hogan and LaBay share fascinating research about body language and non-verbal communication. I learned so much about body language I feel I could be a commentator on television. Some of the more interesting facts I discovered included: 1)When meeting someone you are likely to start off on the right foot if you keep that person to your right side. The research behind this was truly amazing and once you learn this, you wonder why no one ever figured it out before.
2) The first impression really is important and in fact you should try to make a great impression on everyone you meet.
3) People with different colored eyes expect to be looked at in different ways and for different lengths of time.
4) People should dress themselves with colors that match their eyes for a great impression.
5) Men and women's body weight influences how people perceive their personality. I thought people would like you for who they are and they do but people assign better characteristics to you if you are thinner!
6) Women are deeper and more complex beings than men! (I knew that all the time.)
7) Physical appearance is far more important to men than women.
8) Clothing styles help you state who you are and helps other people see you for what you are stating.
9) In the first few seconds of meeting someone, everything matters alot and carries over into the relationship.
10) First impressions are difficult to change.
11) There are lots of specific cues and clues that makes us more and less attractive to others. This book is like a Bible for making it easy for people to love you. I also agree with the other reviewers that sometimes the book veers off of the interpersonal dimension into the business dimension, but even that works. This book is fun, exciting and really useful!
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59 of 66 people found the following review helpful:
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"Not Much Happens Until 2 People Are Attracted to Each Other, December 8, 2002
This review is from: Irresistible Attraction: Secrets of Personal Magnetism (Paperback)
"Not much happens in an intimate relationship until two people are first attracted to each other," says Hogan. How true! Think about it. Would you even want to be around that special person in your life, if you were not attracted to them? And what about them makes them attractive to you? Have you even thought about it? Then, Hogan asks, "Are YOU irresistible?" We are all so caught up in how others are attractive to us, that we can forget about the other half of the equation: ourselves! How do I take what I have and make it into something more, something magnetic? That's what this book answers for us. And the answer is going to be different for everyone, but this book gives tons of credible advice that will work for most of us. Fascinating: the evolutionary information inserted in chapter two such as why taller men are more attractive to women. The facts are presented in an easy to read, sometimes humorous fashion. A lot of authors take themselves way too serious, not Hogan. This book is fun and informative. The chapter about body language was probably the most eye-opening stuff I've read in a long time. How close is too close to stand? What about eye contact? Gestures? How do I spot discomfort? What can I do to make them feel more comfortable? Who thinks about this stuff? Well, we all should, obviously, and our dates would go much smoother! Hogan's reminder about positive expression is a great tip. How many times have you been on a date, and ended up being that person's shoulder to cry on? And you just met them fifteen minutes ago?? This is not just a book about how to have a great date. The authors delve into how to determine long-term needs, wants, desires, values. They help you ward off disaster with many how-not-to tips. This book is great for anyone not in a relationship who wants to be, AND great for anyone in a relationship who wants to remain attractive to their mate, and maybe even become more attractive to them!
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51 of 57 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Valuable to Anyone, March 25, 2006
This review is from: Irresistible Attraction: Secrets of Personal Magnetism (Paperback)
This book is valuable to anyone because of two points that jumped out at me when I recently read "Irresistible Attraction" for the second time.
First, you'll find that many principles and behavior patterns are useful all day, every day. Because people are people...whatever the setting. Second, you'll benefit even more from specialized tips you can apply in specific situations.
Based on both scientific research and real-world testing, this book gives you far more strategies that you can absorb and apply immediately. The value comes from using the information, not from just learning about it.
One way to benefit the most is to select a few behaviors and patterns whose benefits you want most. Keep this book handy while you're making habits of those initials behaviors and getting the results you want. Then select a few more actions and apply regularly. Repeat for as long as you want more positive results.
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