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This describes my husband 100%, October 7, 2007
This review is from: The Irritable Male Syndrome: Understanding and Managing the 4 Key Causes of Depression and Aggression (Paperback)
This is one of the few books of this nature where I have read every single page. It describes my husband to a T-for-testoterone. While my husband insists that there is nothing wrong with him, and the rest of the world is against him, I have been able to encourage some of the diet changes: a multi-vitamin (for zinc and B-vitamins), and cutting back on artificial sweetener.
When I sent an e-mail to the author, I did get back a thoughtful referral, although the referrals are to expensive places that are out of state. But it's helpful to have this book, because I can cite it to health and mental health care professionals, "see, what he does is on page 42, and 43, and 44 ..."
I agree that it does go on and on before getting to the helpful information in the back third of the book. My guess is the publisher wanted to get it up to a certain page count. I get the picture with one or two examples, but I would rather have more information, than less information. So this is not a major detraction, and the book was VERY helpful in articulating what I see to be true.
Now if I can only figure out how to get my husband to agree to get help. I am not ready to issue a divorce ultimatum, but if the angry blowups continue, what else can I do? At least I'll have some informed suggestions to make when the time comes.
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9 of 10 people found the following review helpful:
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Why Men Become Curmudgeons, July 23, 2006
This review is from: The Irritable Male Syndrome: Understanding and Managing the 4 Key Causes of Depression and Aggression (Paperback)
AARP Bulletin tipped me off to this book. What an eye-opener! The author, a psychotherapist, observed that 80% of his patients in the 40 to 55 year range suffered from this irritability. He attributes it mostly to hormone changes, but also to their stage in life/career/etc.
He recommends that both partners learn to focus on the other's needs rather than on who's right and who's wrong.
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28 of 37 people found the following review helpful:
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Ladies! - It's HIM, not YOU! Read this book and quit feeling so alone!, September 15, 2005
This review is from: The Irritable Male Syndrome: Understanding and Managing the 4 Key Causes of Depression and Aggression (Paperback)
Yes, you heard me. It's HIM! NOT you! (So go ahead you angry men with IMS, flame away.) WOMEN - Quit blaming yourself. That is a woman's nature. To look inside ourselve to fix another's flaws. To listen while another beats us down verbally and criticizes and eventually believe it and attempt to find solutions for problems that are not our own. Let me explain my situation.
Everything changed between my sweet husband and I about a year ago. He became argumentative, irritable, moody, aggressive...and all of this AT A DROP OF A HAT! And to top things off, according to him, I was to blame. I began seeing a therapist believing that yes, maybe I was, maybe I was the cause of his stress, his mood swings, his irritable, this general hostility that I felt every time I was around him.
Then one day I was speaking my sister who mentioned this book and how she was convinced her fiancé had "Irritable Male Syndrome" a sort of male equivalent to PMS and I had to laugh...until I bought the book for myself; and it read it one evening with tears streaming down my face. It made sense, it's so obviously hormonal. Women recognize this in each other and in ourselves, but not our men.
This book has saved my sanity and may save yours. Ladies, if the husband you once had a loving, warm, open relationship with now treats you with utter hostility and constantly tells you he is the way he is because you don't do this or you don't do that or because you nag or you're a b!tch, even though deep down you know this is not the case, get this book. It will make you realize that you alone are not in this problem. It will help you understand the changes your man is undergoing and how you can help him help himself.
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