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It Ends with You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction Hardcover – February 28, 2003

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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 224 pages
  • Publisher: New Page Books (February 28, 2003)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1564146499
  • ISBN-13: 978-1564146496
  • Product Dimensions: 9.3 x 6.3 x 0.8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 15.2 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (7 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,400,743 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 35 years' experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, The Ten Smartest Decisions a Woman Can Make After Forty and Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the "Dr. Romance" blog, and the "Happiness Tips from Tina" email newsletter.
Dr. Tessina is CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for LoveForever.com, a website designed to strengthen relationships and guide couples through the various stages of their relationship with personalized tips, courses, and online couples counseling. Online, she's known as "Dr. Romance" Dr. Tessina appears frequently on radio, and such TV shows as "Oprah", "Larry King Live" and ABC News.
Connect with Dr. Tessina online:
Dr. Romance Blog: http://drromance.typepad.com

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Format: Hardcover
Doctor Tina Tessina's new book tackles a problem that is difficult to live with. Dysfunctional families do cause life long problems for their members. It leaves them with emotional baggage that is very difficult to dispose of.
I know this is true because I live in such a family. The exact details of my problem will not be revealed in this review. But I think it gives me a greater understanding about what Doctor Tessina is trying to achieve than most.
The book explains in easy to understand language about the problems faced by people raised in a non-caring and sharing environment. There are two important aspects of the human psyche that need to be addressed by those damaged by a dysfunctional family. These two aspects are, self-awareness and self-acceptance, together they form the basis of human dignity.
Guidance on how to achieve self-awareness and self-acceptance is well documented. I found the exercises most valuable and relevant to my needs. I am sure that other people in my situation would find them just as useful.
Once a person has accepted who they are and learnt to love themselves, they can relate better to others. The book shows in some detail how to achieve this. If the steps set out in the exercises are practiced regularly I am confident they will bring about positive changes.
To develop as an individual you need to learn new skills, to be shown your deficiencies, your strengths, how to plan ahead, become aware of yourself and be in control. Mastering all of these tasks is impossible without some form of guidance. It Ends With You - is the perfect tool to guide those wanting to grow away from dysfunction, and embark on the path to realizing their true potential. That is a well balanced, loving and caring person.
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Does everyone have a 'wounded child' in their psyche? And is it really necessary to undergo years of analysis to exorcise these leftovers from childhood? Psychologists are moving away from long, drawn out therapeutic interventions in favor of a much quicker method of helping dislodge dysfunctional patterns to make way for healthy relationships and happy lives. And Prozac and Paxil aren't necessarily part of the picture.
Tina Tessina, PhD, provides a road map for those who are ready to face and change the patterns that prevent happiness and fulfillment in their lives. It Ends With You, Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction, is a self-help tome that makes relatively quick work of years of therapy that some endure on an expensive couch.
Like a fruitful meditation, It Ends With You is a guided visualization through one's past history and into a healthier future. Tessina understands that each of us is in charge of our own mental health, and helps readers find the reigns to take control of their happiness and their lives.
"The task for all of us is to rise above the issues and wounds of childhood," writes Tessina. "Becoming truly adult, autonomous, able to govern ourselves and our responses to those around us."
Tessina takes readers on a journey that examines family patterns that persist for generations, mapping the positive and negative trends to help recognize the habits we've unconsciously brought into our own lives from childhood. She helps us recognize negative habits of thinking and behavior and replace them with positive routines that lead to healthier outcomes. She calls it "recreating yourself."
Tessina uses the weather to help readers identify and understand emotions - comparing sadness to a rainstorm, happiness to a clear, sunny day.
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Still suffering from your miserable childhood? According to author Tessina, you can learn to get past all that - at any point in your life -- by finally understanding yourself and how you have been affected by your early experiences. This book shows you how to stop repeating old and painful patterns with a series of questions, insights, and easy and organic exercises. Use instead of or along with a therapist or to help you decide if you would benefit from therapy.
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I wanted to write my own review to temper the glowing and perhaps overly positive reviews preceding mine which led me to buy this book. The book is good, yes, but only if you have little-to-no exposure to other, similar literature dealing with adult children of alcoholics or the roots of codependency (for example). The exercises in the book are useful if you've never kept a journal or practiced another form of self-awareness discovery. Otherwise, you may find them boring and obvious.
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