It's A Breakup Not A Breakdown: Get over the big one and change your life - for good! (Paperback)

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Every woman's experienced the Big Breakup. You know the one. And even though it's a devastating natural disaster, after all the mind-numbing, soul-stirring, heart-wrenching pain comes the pleasure: in rediscovering yourself and your amazing life, of relishing in your girlfriends' company, and (eventually) of meeting someone new--someone who would have otherwise gone unmet had you not gone through your breakup in the first place.

Enter Lisa Steadman, author and multiple-breakup survivor, who shows you just how to reinvent your breakup--and your life. No more wallowing, no more "woe is me," no more Sex and the City reruns. With Lisa's help, this celebratory survival guide will help you see your Big Breakup not as a breakdown but as an opportunity to break up with a relationship that's no longer working and move on. With Lisa's Movin' On plan, this breakup promises to be the first day of the rest of your relationship life!

About the Author

Lisa Steadman, known as The Relationship Journalist(tm), studies breakups, dating, and relationships for a living. Her writing has appeared on iVillage.com, TangoMag.com, and MSN. true-life tales of how breaking up with the wrong person is the right thing to do. Lisa has also been featured on numerous radio and television shows espousing the positive side of breaking up. Lisa lives in Los Angeles with her boyfriend, whom she met after successfully surviving her Big Breakup, using the tips and techniques she shares in this book.

Product Details

• Paperback: 256 pages
• Publisher: Polka Dot Press (April 2, 2007)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1598691724
• ISBN-13: 978-1598691726
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.4 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (17 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #173,267 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Funny, Witty, Wise, July 16, 2007

By	Juan - See all my reviews

I've been through many breakups. After one of my very first breakups, with the girl I thought was my soul mate, I was devastated and heartbroken. I can't describe how awful I felt other than to say that it was like having a loved one pass away. It took me a long time to get over that breakup. I wish I would have had this book to help me through those sad and dark times.

After another breakup I made the mistake of not cutting off contact with the ex. We got back together, broke up, got back together, etc. It was an awful emotional rollercoaster with twists and turns that wreaked havoc on my psyche. I wish I'd had this book then to help me through those insane times.

Throughout all my breakups my friends and family were there for me (Thanks guys and girls) but their help lacked something and I always felt like no one knew what I was going through and what all these breakups meant. I didn't feel there was anyone who could guide me though the process and help me get some clarity and insight into my breakups.

All I have to say is thank you. Thank you Ms. Steadman for sharing your wisdom about breaking up and how I can use my breakup experiences to move on UP. I now get it!!!!!!

As the book says, "breakups are significant because the ultimately teach us about ourselves". I now understand that I can use my breakups as an opportunity to learn about what I really want out of dating. I've been challenged to take a negative, a breakup, and turn it into a positive, an opportunity to grow and learn.

Lastly, thanks for the "target rich" environment dating tip. I now have a better idea of what I want in a woman and where we might meet.

Yours Truly,
Juan

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Great Book, September 22, 2009

By	Katie Schaeffer "Kate" (Philadelphia, PA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This is a great girl-power type book for anyone struggling with a breakup. This was definitely not "the big one" for me, but I had a few lessons I needed to learn; a few patterns I need to break, and I think this helped.

3 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Help on Surviving a Breakup , December 22, 2008

By	Rolf Dobelli "getAbstract.com" (Switzerland) - See all my reviews (TOP 50 REVIEWER)    (REAL NAME)

If you tend to endure a breakup holed up in your room in comfy PJs, then getAbstract recommends that you place this survival guide next to your chick flick DVDs, high-priced chocolates and box of tissues. This girl-power book by Lisa Steadman, nicknamed "The Relationship Journalist," reads like a long "You go, girl!" exclamation. Steadman explains that you can use the "big breakup" experience to become more fabulous than before you met Mr. Wrong. All it takes is a little fortitude and a lot of self-focused behavior. If you want to indulge in a cryfest, a new pair of boots or a bit of spoiling by mom, Steadman says, "Do it!" The goal, however, is to emerge from your breakup with a better understanding of what you need and want and how to make it happen. Use your breakup as a vehicle to learn about yourself and embrace your single status as an opportunity to make valuable changes. One gentle caution: Steadman's basic intent is to offer a good laugh, some female bonding and a warm hug, not a serious, therapeutic method of overcoming a trauma.