Customer Reviews

It's A Breakup Not A Breakdown: Get over the big one and change your life - for good!

5 star:		(16)
4 star:		(2)
3 star:		(0)
2 star:		(2)
1 star:		(0)

 

 

I've been through many breakups. After one of my very first breakups, with the girl I thought was my soul mate, I was devastated and heartbroken. I can't describe how awful I felt other than to say that it was like having a loved one pass away. It took me a long time to get over that breakup. I wish I would have had this book to help me through those sad and dark times.

After another breakup I made the mistake of not cutting off contact with the ex. We got back together, broke up, got back together, etc. It was an awful emotional rollercoaster with twists and turns that wreaked havoc on my psyche. I wish I'd had this book then to help me through those insane times.

Throughout all my breakups my friends and family were there for me (Thanks guys and girls) but their help lacked something and I always felt like no one knew what I was going through and what all these breakups meant. I didn't feel there was anyone who could guide me though the process and help me get some clarity and insight into my breakups.

All I have to say is thank you. Thank you Ms. Steadman for sharing your wisdom about breaking up and how I can use my breakup experiences to move on UP. I now get it!!!!!!

As the book says, "breakups are significant because the ultimately teach us about ourselves". I now understand that I can use my breakups as an opportunity to learn about what I really want out of dating. I've been challenged to take a negative, a breakup, and turn it into a positive, an opportunity to grow and learn.

Lastly, thanks for the "target rich" environment dating tip. I now have a better idea of what I want in a woman and where we might meet.

Yours Truly,
Juan

Recently, I had the really big big one---the break up that tore my heart apart. Stocked full of deception, betrayal and more drama that a mini series, I was at my darkest moment when I came upon Lisa's book. From the very first page saying 'Congratulations!' on my breakup, I was hooked. I never really thought of my horrible experience as an opportunity to turn my life around, but it really is! Lisa's charming and funny narrative and working points truly helped heal my soul. I'm having my Movin' On Party' soon and look forward to a happy, healthy heart--ready for a good man to enter next time!

If you tend to endure a breakup holed up in your room in comfy PJs, then getAbstract recommends that you place this survival guide next to your chick flick DVDs, high-priced chocolates and box of tissues. This girl-power book by Lisa Steadman, nicknamed "The Relationship Journalist," reads like a long "You go, girl!" exclamation. Steadman explains that you can use the "big breakup" experience to become more fabulous than before you met Mr. Wrong. All it takes is a little fortitude and a lot of self-focused behavior. If you want to indulge in a cryfest, a new pair of boots or a bit of spoiling by mom, Steadman says, "Do it!" The goal, however, is to emerge from your breakup with a better understanding of what you need and want and how to make it happen. Use your breakup as a vehicle to learn about yourself and embrace your single status as an opportunity to make valuable changes. One gentle caution: Steadman's basic intent is to offer a good laugh, some female bonding and a warm hug, not a serious, therapeutic method of overcoming a trauma.

I can go on & on & on about this book! I am still recommending this book from two years ago when it felt like MY BIG BREAKUP!! Was dating someone for almost a year. My instincts where SO right on TARGET! I considered this guy my best friend and GREATEST lover of my life! He wasn't getting divorce, and was caring a relationship with his co-worker who also happened to worked down the plaza from him and i believe theres more females.I wanted to crawl into a hole and die!! Make a long story short, Im a stronger person today and "she" is still dating him! I could not put this book down! I didnt have the "booho friends" to surround myself with but this book alone was the only thing that gave me a good night sleep, empowered, build my confidence, gave me hope that I was going to get though it!!It was basically pasted to me because I didn't have the strength to deal with this hurt myself!I had to read this book on my lunch break because I was crying in my car b/c that was the ONLy time I could show any emotion regarding this due to working and having to put a fake smile on my face!You know what I mean! If you read this book I reassure you that you will not need anything else but THIS BOOK! As a matter of fact, when the jerk still tries to contact me,..i have referred back to this book as my crutch and to remind myself that I am a diamond and I SO didnt deserve what i got in return! This book has humor in it but right on target and too the point and it doesn't beat around the bush!!Lisa personality,caring, wisdom just shines though her book! And for the cherry on this cake, Lisa is just as genuine and loving as her book! I had the GREAT opportunity to personally say thank you to her. Its SO refreshing to know that your getting a great book BUT also a GREAT person/author BEHIND this book! Buy it and read it,..it will change your life & you will feel empowered!!

This is a great girl-power type book for anyone struggling with a breakup. This was definitely not "the big one" for me, but I had a few lessons I needed to learn; a few patterns I need to break, and I think this helped.

I've heard good things about this book so bought it to try and help recover from my Big break up. While the general concepts look great, the book is most clearly written for women, and frequently goes on the attack of men. As a guy trying to deal with the emotional turmoil of a big break up (yes, guys have feelings too!!!), I found this book very insulting and sexist. It could have quite easy covered the exact same material without constantly putting "him" down. I just couldn't get past the feeling that I was the villain whilst reading this book.

If you are a guy looking for help dealing with a painful break up, I suggest avoiding this title. I suppose women will like it. Though be warned that this book tends to spread hate towards men. Apparently that helps women recover from a break up?

I read this book during a particularly nasty break up and at the time I felt like there was no moving on, but Lisa's book changed all of that. Since surviving "the big one" I am no longer missing my ex, but enjoying my new outlook on life.

We have all been there, broken up and almost broken down. Lisa Steadman's book "It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown will make you laugh as well as cry - maybe at the same time. Lisa is masterful, like a great friend, she helps help you go beyond the pain, and gives you the tools to heal your broken heart. Even more, it's all about being a better you and having better relationships! Read it!

-D.E. Boone
Creator of Legs Talk: A Modern Girl's Dating Tale

I really like this book. It makes a lot of sense. If you are going through a breakup in your relationship buy this book. Read it and you will feel so... much better about yourself. Every girl needs a pick me up and this book will provide you with it. Turn a bad experience into a good one.

When I picked up this book, I was not sure it would help. I could not put it down! Lisa knows the steps and provides the tools to help get you through a break up. She knows where you are in your recovery and encourages and helps you make the steps to get not just over your Big Breakup, but how to make sure you make better choises in the future. I was amazed how much she helped me. I am a better person and find myself looking forward to her emails. I would encourage anyone that is stuck with feeling like they will never find the right mate to read her book and do her homework and look forward to the Fabulous Future she tells you that you deserve! It's true!