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If It's A Choice, My Zygote Chose Balls: Making Sense of Senseless Controversy
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48 of 51 people found the following review helpful
on June 10, 2012
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Of course I was going to read this book (I have read it twice so far). Jeremy is my son-in-law and I have a gay son. My first read left me in awe of Jeremy's amazing use of language while presenting a poignant and clear portrait of the gay rights movement. I was a little nervous reading it for the first time, not only for fear of finding typos (that I knew would annoy the heck out of my perfectionist son-in-law), but worried if I would follow it all or maybe find out something that Jeremy felt that I didn't know how to handle. I made it through, laughing and crying and knowing that this is a wonderful book.

The second read gave me much more. Free of the burdens of looking for typos or scary secrets, I enjoyed the read as a book in which the author is advocating decency for everyone; whether it be for the gay man or lesbian woman or the teenager who is bullied on the playground or the African American or Jew who is subtly kept out of some loop.

This book is a must read for human beings who want to learn, laugh, and feel in touch with the goodness that all humans can and should feel and hopefully demonstrate.

Susan Shulman
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23 of 23 people found the following review helpful
on June 5, 2012
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The book was an amazing read and I couldn't put it down. It was well written, funny, emotional and provided an important and logical perspective on this issue. Great job and 5 stars must read.
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16 of 16 people found the following review helpful
on June 13, 2012
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I cannot remember exactly how or when I first came across Jeremy Hooper's blog Good As You; perhaps through a link from the Advocate or Human Rights Campaign or just the trusty old Google. What I can tell you is that it is a rare day that I don't visit his site at least once to read up on the latest slings and arrows that have been tossed in this current culture war. Jeremy's writing coupled with his investigative skills have provided a unique, reasoned and calming voice in the battle for full equality.

But who is this young man who has taken on the anti-gay pundits, whom he refers to as `mo foes, with both wit and reason? In his book, If It's A Choice, Jeremy openly and honestly tells his story. I, who am only 5 years his senior, found that his coming out process was very similar to my own. The awareness, the implications, the fear of discovery, the hiding; these were all what Jeremy, myself, and indeed hundreds of LGBT youth went through and are currently going through. While the steps might be different for some, and not always as humorous, what comes through to the reader is that this is an honest story and it could very easily be your story too.

Through the clever use of chapters taken as an aside to the main story, the "Despite what you may have heard" sections are Jeremy's clever way of confronting LGBT stereotypes with his caustic wit, humor and open honesty. After all, when it comes to the stereotypes who are you going to believe, the anti-gay fear mongers or those of us who are actually LGBT?

Several years ago, I was talking with my Dad about some comments made by the Church in response to marriage equality and homosexuality; I was furious at the hypocrisy in light of the scandal the Church was involved in. "Who were they," I argued, "to make such comments about sin and immoral behavior when all this had been going on for years!" My Dad's response was simply "You know, in my day, these discussions wouldn't have even been possible. Think about how far things have come in such a short amount of time." As with most things, my Dad was right. The discussions and progress made in the fight for full equality have been, not in small steps, but in leaps and bounds thanks to people like Jeremy Hooper standing at the forefront showing everyone that we are all as Good As You.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful
on June 19, 2012
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The LGBT community has been under attack by conservatives and religious fundamentalists since before Adam and Steve had their first chance to shake their groove thing at the first Eden Happy Hour (at which I'm sure God was handing out the microphone for karaoke and welcome everyone in with wide open arms regardless of taste in music, drink or sex). In Jeremy Hooper's smart, witty and deeply personal pilgrimage through closeted upbringing to proud advocate for human equality, he debunks the senseless claims made by the likes of Maggie Gallagher and her NOM cohorts, Family Research Council and numerous other denizens of the "'mo foes" army. His words are carefully chosen: cogent yet calm, targeted yet tactful, intense yet in touch. With each of their claims, he takes their words and peels back the reasons they profess for their bigotry (though they'd have you call it "preservation") and exposes it for what it is: inhumanity. His goal is simple. To love each person as (fill in the blank with whatever god, guide, mother, father, friend) intended and abolish hatred.

See, Jeremy Hooper knows something that the "'mo foes" don't... they can't win their argument. Time and time again the world has seen bigotry fall away as the new generation grows, comes into its own understanding of family and community, strips away the labels of its predecessors and teaches the next to make the next steps even grander.

Get this book. Right now it doesn't matter if you agree with him or me. What matters is that you read it.

If you don't agree with the freedoms desired by the LGBT community, read it to understand this intensely personal story and how the argument against the freedom to love has affected HIS life. Read how the hurt has shaped him and countless others.

If you do agree and you believe we should all be free to love that one amazing person that we've dreamt about, read it. You'll remind yourself why we dream in the first place. Just read it. And think about what it means to want, to love, to be a human being.
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful
on June 23, 2012
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Jeremy is a terrific writer; the book has just the right balance of personal & political. His ability to trade anger for rational thought is admirable. This should be a handbook for people (me included) who know that marginalizing any group is just fundamentally WRONG, but who have difficulty putting these feelings into such specific--effective--arguments.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful
on June 19, 2012
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Whether you are gay or you know someone who is -- and especially if you think you don't know someone who is -- this is a book for you. Hooper blends personal stories with principled arguments into a compelling narrative, punctuating very serious, rational arguments with puns and heartwarming (or, sometimes, heartbreaking) stories. As I read, I regularly would find myself laughing and tearing up in the space of a few sentences. Whether you support gay rights or not, Hooper's honesty and humor will draw you into the book, leaving you craving more.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
on July 5, 2012
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In "If it's a Choice," Jeremy Hooper has bravely told a very personal and powerful story of coming to fully embrace the human being that he is -- the perfections and the less than perfect, the happy memories and the not so happy ones, the fears, the exhilaration and the triumphs. His story is not unlike the stories of many, if not most gay men growing up in a less than accepting society. But where most of us are merely happy to now have those growing years behind us, Jeremy has dedicated himself to the noble effort of working toward a society which more quickly accepts and embraces natures broad spectrum of human diversity.

In "If It's a Choice," Jeremy has not only documented the path that his life has taken, but also offers a blueprint that the rest of us can use as we attempt to collectively coalesce into an effective force to bring about that noble end of a more tolerant world. A world (in part) where LGBT children are met with the same hopeful embrace that to often is reserved only for those who meet all of a less enlightened society's narrow, preconceived and intolerant concepts.

"If it's a Choice," is well written, engaging and hopeful. This book is not just for LGBT persons and our allies, but also for anyone who might be on the fence as to why they should care -- care at least enough to not vote against us. Social change is never easy and is always met with resistance. But when we stand up and tell our stories, or we stand up and rebuff the misinformation, or we merely stand up to be counted -- that's when we become part of the solution. Jeremy Hooper has not only done all of those things with this book and with his dedication to advocacy, but he offers guidance for the others of us to do so as well.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
on August 20, 2012
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Jeremy Hooper's book, "If It's A Choice..." made me laugh, made me cry, but mostly made me cheer and gave me hope for my son's future as a gay man. As a parent of a gay child, it's difficult to hear the vitriol and hurtful words that speak out against equality for the LGBT community, and not take it personally. It's easy to get sucked into the ugliness of it and become discouraged when people imply that my son deserves less than anyone else. Jeremy Hooper's book showed me the importance of being courageous enough to be an advocate for the LGBT community in such a way that empowers people to speak fearlessly and respectfully in support of equality. It is my greatest hope that my son will one day reap the benefits of the voices that continue to demand equality for the LGBT community. A special thanks to Mr. Hooper for leading the way.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
on August 14, 2012
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This book was recommended to me by a close friend who has been helping me deal with the grief my gay son has been getting from some of his relatives. This book has really made a difference for our family, some people who were negative, after reading this came and hugged him and have become his advocates.
I know it is a cliche that it is easier when you know that others are going through what you are going through, Jeremy articulates so well and it really feels like the arguments he makes will win for you. I recommend this excellent book to anyone who needs reminding that we are all so similar, any differences we have are insignificant in the grand scheme of life.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
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As a gay man myself, I sometimes find it difficult to explain myself to people who are not, and who often have a whole lot of preconceived notions about the subject. Like Jeremy, I have a blog, and try as I might, I feel like I fall short in the education of my readers. Also like Jeremy, I tend to write in a colloquial style, which I find wins more friends and potential converts. Jeremy is better at it than I am. There are places in the book where I rolled my eyes a bit, but likely because I'm fairly like-minded, and saw the pun or joke coming.

All in all, it's a great effort, and I wish Jeremy Hooper much success.
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