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  • Hardcover: 304 pages
  • Publisher: Gotham (October 11, 2012)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1592407692
  • ISBN-13: 978-1592407699
  • Product Dimensions: 7.8 x 5.3 x 1.2 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (63 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #255,708 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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"It's Complicated (But It Doesn't Have to Be) is as relevant to those seeking love as it is to people who have already found it. This is a great tool for both men and women and is a terrific refresher course for those of us in committed relationships."
—Lisa Ling, award-winning journalist and bestselling author

"Paul is much more than a matchmaker, he's a life coach."
—Oprah Winfrey

About the Author

Paul Carrick Brunson is a professional matchmaker and certified life coach. A former investment banker and business executive with an MBA from Georgetown University, he founded One Degree from Me, a premier matchmaking and life-coaching company in 2009, and has matched over three thousand people on dates, resulting in over three hundred long-term matches. He lives in Washington, D.C., with Jill, his wife of ten years, and their son, Kingston.


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I highly recommend this book for the single, committed, and married.
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It help me recognize to make better decisions in my relationship.
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12 of 13 people found the following review helpful By Glenda on October 21, 2012
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I originally bought this book just to support Paul because I had been following his work for a very long time. I've read numerous relationship books that all seem to exploit women by telling us what's wrong with us and make men seem like flawless beings. As to say if something goes wrong, it must be your fault WOMAN. I very ignorantly thought this book would bring a similar message, but it is COMPLETELY different. It speaks to both MEN and WOMEN in a very realistic way that matches our real lives. It makes you take a deeper look both at and inside yourself, and it makes things apparent that your friends will almost never tell you. I recommend this book to everyone no matter your relationship status.
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12 of 14 people found the following review helpful By aymorj on October 22, 2012
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I purchased this book a few weeks in advance and I was super excited to receive it straight to my Kindle on the 11th. I quickly breezed through each of the chapters, laughing and learning with every sentence. Paul has a way of relating each of the topics to real, everyday experiences that he has witnessed.

Granted, I'm not the appropriate demographic for this book. He didn't write this book with me in mind, but I still could relate it to my life. I am currently single and have not found love yet, but I'm not down about it. This book helped me see that there are numerous ways for me to go out and find other people who are just like me.

You must focus on your appearance, and keep it in mind. Look through your closet and see what kind of clothes you have. Are they all the same, or do you have a variety of styles and colors. If all you have are jeans and T's, then maybe you need to mix in a suit, and maybe some khakis and polos. This will give you a variety of looks for different situations.

Paul also focuses on how you have to break out of your shell and go the extra mile to meet new people. You might live by the notion that true love will just happen to you someday, but how do you expect that to happen if you aren't out meeting new people? Do you expect Prince Charming to just fall out of the sky and land next to you on your couch? It's not going to happen. You need to be confident with how you look, and love yourself as a person; then go out and do something new and exciting to meet new people.

There is so much good advice within these pages. You would be insane not to purchase this book right away. Oh, you already found the love of your life and you don't need to read this? Well, Paul also touches on how you can maintain that lasting relationship. So that is no excuse, click "Buy Now" and enjoy reading it.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By tamiamc on May 27, 2013
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I saw this book advertised on another person's page and decided to check it out based on what I read from small excerpts. It is more than worth it's value. As a single person maneuvering through the very turbulent waters of dating in this century, this book serves as a life raft. It is easy to read, understand, follow and apply. Also, Paul Carrick Brunson is as real and touchable as his words make him seem. For those looking for love, in love, and regaining love, this book is certainly a jewel to have.
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5 of 6 people found the following review helpful By Latoya Fazzy Brunson on October 21, 2012
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Reading this book left me encouraged and determined to evaluate my life. Each character I found myself relating to. It seemed as if chapters 14 and18 were made just me. I enjoyed this book best book I read all year. Definitely spreading the word about this book.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Amazon Customer on May 16, 2013
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Paul C. Brunson explores how destructive mindsets, desires, lusts, and impulses stemming from a slew of factors (past breakups, parental modeling or lack thereof, holding on to dead weight, etc.) lead to a cycle of brick wall relationship experiences. He recommends steering clear of red flags, setting boundaries and verbally communicating expectations at the outset.
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3 of 4 people found the following review helpful By Inspire_24 on October 28, 2012
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This book is a must read for those looking to find love. It covers so many things from how to understand who you are better to how that relates to utilizing those and understanding them in relationships. I have not been in a serious relationship for seven years and have not been on a real date in over a year and a half and I was just ready to give up and just focused on my career, not allowing or being open for love to come in. I also was in standing still mode thinking acting passively about dating. The book deals with that too. I learned that there are some actions I can take and I am taking Paul up on some of the challenges he laid out in the book that are active and see what happens. Either way I am expecting to find love soon. I am in a much better position in many area to do so than I was before. There are many chapters in the book that were powerful but the best chapter was the last. I will continue to Work Hard, Control what I can control, recognize what I cannot and SURRENDER to the process. A Good Read.
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3 of 4 people found the following review helpful By TashBK on October 23, 2012
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Where do I begin...I am so impressed with this book! From the very 1st chapter entitled: Marriage Isn't For Everybody...I was immediately hooked! Talk about your aha moments! I liked that this book goes deep into the psychological aspects of how men and women think which sheds a lot of light as to why men and women often times seem to be on different pages when it comes to relationships. The examples he uses along with the data/statistics he offers to underscore his points are invaluable. This book will definitely keep your interest as Paul offers much insight on a deeper level than most relationship books of late. It made me realize that we do have the tendency to make things more complicated than it needs to be and his words have empowered me to make better dating decisions! I love the homework sections at the end of each chapter...the questions makes you really think about why you think and do the things you do! You have to put in work in order to get what you want so its definitely a great feature!

I definitely recommend this book to anyone who is interested in finding a meaningful and STABLE relationship! It has motivated me to become a better me and to embrace what's to come in my personal life!
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