"No, It's Not Hot In Here" , A Husbands Guide to Menopause [Hardcover]

Dick Roth (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 10, 1999

In a survey of menopausal women, it was found that what most of them wanted from their partners was understanding and support. However, many men are unsure of what they can do to help. This book offers an informal guide for partners of menopausal women.'

Editorial Reviews

Review

At last, a guide for men about menopause that answers their biggest question: 'What can I do to help?' -- Susan M. Love, M.D., Author, Dr Susan Love's Hormone Book

Dick Roth has written a book that I have long looked for to recommend for my patients on the topic of menopause. "NO IT'S NOT HOT IN HERE" is accurate, informative, humorous and a must for everyone in their mid-life phase. It's not just for men, but for women as well. -- H. Thompson Mann, M.D., Internal Medicine, Gold Medalist 1964 Olympics, Former World Record Holder

In an engaging, expository, and conversational style, Roth tells us everything we need to know without bogging down in polysyllabic scientific stuff or psychobabble. I highly recommend this book not only to husbands but also to wives, partners, and friends. -- James A. Autry, Author, Confessions of an Accidental Businessman

Roth has given couples a much-needed gift: a way for husbands to understand their spouse's menopause. I highly recommend this clear and concise guide. -- John Gray, Ph.D., Author, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

Sensitive, caring, and wise. In addition to understanding the woman in your life, you will learn a lot about your own changes and how you and your partner can find common ground as friends and lovers. I wish I had read it when my wife was first going through the change. -- Jed Diamond, L.C.S.W., Author, Male Menopause

This is a great book! Dick Roth has taken one of life's significant challenges and turned it into a great growing and relationship-building experience. The content is thorough, readable, and helpful. But even more important, Dick's example of seeking to genuinely understand his partner teaches a process that can empower couples to solve this or any other challenge in life. -- Roger and Rebecca Merrill, Authors of, First Things First and The Nature of Leadership

This is a very informative, insightful read, but what profoundly touched me about this book was its sincerity and depth of caring. If every husband would only love his wife this much. -- Dr. Stephen R. Covey, Author, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

This is the book I have wanted for years. I hope every menopausal woman buys at least one copy for her sweetheart. And men -- don't think menopause won't affect you. If you live with or love any woman under the age of 60, menopause will change your relationship. The advice and information is kind, loving and superbly helpful. I smiled, cried, laughed and found myself in every page. This is a 'must-have' book. -- Susun S. Weed, Author, Menopausal Years: The Wise Woman Way

With pristine clarity, an enjoyable sense of humor, terrific information with excellent references, and a compassion born out of direct experience, "NO IT'S NOT HOT IN HERE" is very, very highly recommended a Must Read for both men and women. -- W. Brugh Joy, M.D., F.A.C.P., Author, Avalanche and Joy's Way

From the Publisher

Dick Roth was at peace with the world, his life changed as his wife began going through menopause. With the tenacity of an athlete training for the Olympic Games he searched for information to assist him in understanding what was happening and how he could help. "NO, IT'S NOT HOT IN HERE" is the result of that search and five years of supporting his wife during her prolonged menopause process.

The words of Donna de Varona best express how Dick approached the work:

"Dick Roth and I kept a childhood promise to each other . . . to win an Olympic Gold Medal in swimming during the 1964 Tokyo Olympics. As young teenagers, we held the world records in the 400-meter individual medley and were both expected to win . . . . To cope with the pressure of expectation, Dick and I would motivate each other by making bets such as, if you break a world record I will too; if you will win, I will win -- however I could never have imagined the lengths (no pun intended) to which Dick Roth would go to keep a promise.

"Olympic record books rarely mention the fact that hours before Dick's Olympic final, he came down with acute appendicitis. Doctors warned him of dire consequences if he refused an immediate operation but he chose to risk everything rather than forgo a chance at winning an Olympic Gold Medal. His ability to handle pressure and pain inspired me to make good on our promise. I will always treasure my relationship with Dick, especially because we shared something that all should experience . . . friendship and support while in the pursuit of excellence.

"It is no wonder Dick has taken on another task of monumental proportions in writing a book about menopause. It is an honest and intimate account of his and his wife's journey through the emotional and frustrating minefield of myths, misconceptions, and research on a subject few want to deal with or acknowledge. Couples in menopause should read this book. It's full of answers, feelings, and common sense." Donna E. de Varona Chair, Organizing Committee, Woman's World Cup Soccer Former ABC Executive and Emmy Award Winning Broadcaster Two times Olympic Gold Medalist, Tokyo 1964

North Star Publications is pleased to offer this informative work to the forty million women and their families who will experience the effects of menopause over the next decade.

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 196 pages
• Publisher: North Star Publications (MA); 1 edition (January 10, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0965506738
• ISBN-13: 978-0965506731
• Product Dimensions: 9.3 x 6.2 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 14.1 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #235,180 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #26 in Books > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Personal Health > Women's Health > Menopause

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28 of 28 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Hubby's handbook, December 28, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: "No, It's Not Hot In Here" , A Husbands Guide to Menopause (Hardcover)

This is not a heavy, scholarly work of medicine or psychology...I read it in a couple of quick evenings. Roth explains what goes on during menopause, but does an even better job sketching out the large unknown areas surrounding this poorly understood transition. He describes a variety of "treatments" available to menopausal women but makes a strong case that, since menopause is a natural (and possibly valuable) process, it isn't an illness that requires treatment in most cases. He puts most of his energy into suggesting ways for husbands to understand and help their wives during this transition...all simple common sense, but clear and welcome just the same. Thank you, Dick Roth.

21 of 21 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars What an eye-opener!, February 16, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: "No, It's Not Hot In Here" , A Husbands Guide to Menopause (Hardcover)

My fiance has entered into 'instant menopause' to use her terminology, after a hysterectomy. We wrestled with HRT and its risks, but neither of us knew what to expect on the personal relationship side. Dick Roth's book clarified this whole situation for us instantly! We have actually turned her physical discomforts and the annoying everyday 'stuff' into a new form of entertainment. This is a Must Read! It takes only a few hours and will transform a potential disaster into a real benefit for you and your lady.

9 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Women need to read this, May 27, 2004

By A Customer

This review is from: "No, It's Not Hot In Here" , A Husbands Guide to Menopause (Hardcover)

I'm guessing this is one of those books women buy for their husbands who, of course, will never bother to read it. BUT...I found it very enlightening to get some understanding of how men might react to menopause. For example, in a comment about hot flashes, the author says it's important to realize "she's not doing this on purpose." Whaaa? It never even occurred to me that my hubby might think I was intentionally bringing these symptoms on or could simply wish them away! This one phrase was worth the price of the book, because it put a lot of my husband's insensitive responses into perspective.

Though this might not have been the author's intention (and truly, he seems to have a much higher opinion of men's ability/desire to support their partners during menopause than I do) this book helped me tremendously because I have stopped taking my husband's lack of understanding personally. I can see now that it's very difficult for a man to emphathize with a physical change he will never experience.

But Dick Roth manages to do it, and if your husband DOES read this book, I hope you appreciate how lucky you are.