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It's Not Him, It's You!: How to Take Charge of Your Life and Create the Love and Intimacy You Deserve Hardcover – December 20, 2010

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About the Author

Dr. Laura Berman is a bestselling author and renowned sex therapist, as well as America's leading expert in female sexual health. She is the founder and director of the Berman Center in Chicago. Dr. Berman has appeared in the pages of nearly every major US magazine, including Glamour, Elle, and Ladies' Home Journal, as well as in the New York Times and USA Today. Dr. Berman writes a weekly column for the Chicago Sun-Times and has a daily talk show on Oprah Radio. In winter 2011 Dr. Berman will host a TV talk show on Oprah Winfrey's OWN network.
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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 256 pages
  • Publisher: DK Publishing (December 20, 2010)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0756671876
  • ISBN-13: 978-0756671877
  • Product Dimensions: 8.1 x 1 x 9.6 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 2 pounds
  • Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (16 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #641,953 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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I loved this book, and I know other women say Berman's books are too graphic, but I happen to be a "visual woman" and I love them precisely for that, specially because you find there real women, real men and not only young men, but also old men who still look great.

This book will help women to master balance not only in their sexual lives, but also in all other areas of our lives because sexual life is connected with every part of us. I do agree with Dr. Berman when she says that owning your sexual life is so empowering and liberating. If you know and own your sexual life, your sexual power; you can be really happy, really free, really powerful and absolutely 100% sexually satisfied. Having said that, I also think that having a great sexual parter and/or lover really helps alot. This is a book about selfworth, power and balance. We need to respect, love, and appreciate a real strong loving man, but we need to love ourselves even more!!! A must read for every woman!
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The back cover says: "Break out of bad relationship patterns and take control of your love and sex life. Looking for romantic and sexual fulfillment, but missing the mark time and time again? Not to worry - help is on the way! Renowned relationship therapist and New York Times bestselling author Laura Berman shows you how to break out of bad relationship habits and achieve lasting romance and sexual satisfaction. Identify the damaging patterns of thought and behavior that prevent you from finding love and realizing the full potential of your relationships. Overcome self-blame and self-doubt. Feel confident in the bedroom, and bring romance and intimacy back into your sex life. Then take the reins of your love life and create the relationship you want."

After reading the whole book, I look at it as a reference guide to relationships. I have to disagree with another reviewer, because I think it would be helpful for single people or those in long-term relationships. There are little quizzes with each section to help you assess your issues with each particular area. The pictures are pretty graphic; if you don't want to see women naked from the top up, don't get this book. It is very tastefully done, however, and not offensive in itself, as these pictures are included as illustration and to help the reader with their own intimate times.

I haven't seen any other books like this and found it interesting and potentially helpful. Adults only!
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By vhw on March 23, 2011
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This is a good book. I learned a lot from it. I would have liked to have known beforehand that it does have sexually explicit photos in it. I was a little surprised by them when leafing thru with my son present. A good self-help book.
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This book is for every women who has a open mind and would like to learn about herself. This book will also give you insight about who you really are and how to change some of your behavior patterns. And you will learn to love yourself and life again.
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ABC's for a healthy relationship...thank-you Dr Berman for a well rounded, practical book that will assist many
relationships - glad I got it before Valentines day :)
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How surprising to find individuals who object to illustrative photographs in a book trying to give insight and help on intimacy issues which Dr Laura Berman is wonderful at being spot on about. From her appearances on Oprah, Dr Oz, you name it, and all of her writings beginning with For Women Only, this wonderful therapist is uniquely gifted and insightful to illuminate our lives further with "It's Not Him It's You" in the basic responsibility of all of us in any good therapy, learn to take responsibility for your issues, and choose to learn to love your self as the title goes on "How To Take Charge of Your Life and Create the Love and Intimacy You Deserve." Good psychotherapy is a genuine need for most of us and I have benefitted from every book and every appearance of Dr Berman I have been privileged to take in and appreciate her invaluable insights about. Love her and I love all of her profoundly beneficial work. She speaks loud and clear to me and I highly value her opinions, teachings, help and insights. You'll enjoy, have fun, and be blessed bunches. This is a gifted compassionate woman.
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This book makes you think about how you treat your mate. It shows you that arguments aren't always the mans fault....it also helps you understand how men and women think!
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I love this book and I love this author. What guy wouldn't appreciate the title of this book? On a more serious note, she teaches readers how to take full responsibility for everything in their lives including their relationship.
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