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on June 10, 2014
I read all the reviews on amazon, among others. I decided to get the book to read with my 10 year old daughter. It does have cartoon graphics to illustrate each chapter, but there is nothing "sexy" about those (you can find them online if you search). It does discuss homosexuality, birth control, abortion, as well as menstruation, puberty, etc, etc. everything.
So, this is a very personal decision, but I decided that a book this thorough would be the perfect guide to use with my kid. Because, next year she will go into 5th grade and they will start teaching a class on a watered down version of these topics. Also she is already hearing random stuff at school and after school. Who knows what exactly, and from which kid(s). So I decided that I'd rather go through all these topics with my daughter BEFORE she learns "the truth" from someone else. Plus, when will I talk to her? When she is past puberty and too "embarrassed" to talk? Now is a good time. She still listens to me :)
So, I sat down with my daughter and explained why I got this book. I told her it's highly controversial because people have different beliefs. I said we should not talk about this at school, but the reason I am going through it with her is because I know she will hear bits and pieces out there, and I don't want her to feel confusion, embarrassment, or fear. I want her to feel like she can come to me any time and I will listen and help guide her. She was happy that would talk and had lots of questions as we approached each chapter.
I did NOT hand over the book. I keep the book, and explained that it's not for her friends to see. Their parents can decide how to educate their kids. We need to respect each other. :) I acted naturally through this conversation.
So approaching controversial topics may seem tough, but we are still going through it, and it's amazing how many questions she has, and how open and comfortable she felt. for instance: homosexuality... We read the chapter and then I asked her what she thought, before I spoke. I explained to her our beliefs as a family, and we talked a little about politics and religion. She is 10, so I kept it light. Whether I said homosexuality is wrong or right is not the point here. The point is that this is an opportunity to sit down and discuss it with my kid. By reading the book, we are not saying "go do it". It's also to me an opportunity to discuss privacy and respect.
With the pic of the girl looking at herself in the mirror... My daughter giggled, and I said, "well, don't you look at yourself? In private? It's good to know your body. To look for moles, changes, etc. It's natural to be curious, but it is a private act. And all the book is illustrating is, this is a natural act that everyone does." We only read a chapter at a time, and we find that each discussion brings up other discussions such as skin cancer, health, hygiene, etc.
Sorry this is a long review and I am not claiming to be a writer. I won't go into how I handled each topic, because maybe it's overkill, but already five other friends have bought this book. We see this book as a tool, and funny that my friends and I don't necessarily see eye to eye one very topic. We decided that we prefer to go over every topic, especially the super controversial ones... because if We don't go over these with our kids... Who will??