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Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook Paperback – May, 2000
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Jay starts off by setting the scope of the book. His goal is to provide basic-to-intermediate level ties in terms of both risk and difficulty. He does not cover self-bondage, suspension, complex Japanese "hojo-jitsu" ties, long-term ties, or tying against resistance. This still leaves a pretty wide range of techniques for tying single limbs, "I bet you can't get loose" games, double wrist and ankle, spread-eagle, hogtie, gags and ear muffs, male and female genital bondage, breast bondage, handcuffs, tape, safety issues, and lots of other fun stuff.
Perhaps most surprisingly considering Jay's reputation as a BDSM safety promoter, he evaluates the military-style hogtie using a rope that crosses the front of the throat as only medium risk. I have long advocated modifying the classic hojo-jitsu ties to avoid this, so Jay and I find ourselves on opposite chairs of this particular safety issue. As long as the bottom is closely monitored and not left alone, I agree that the risk from this technique is not too extreme, but it is still something I personally prefer to avoid. Jay includes a "politically correct" version (what I have in the past called the "backpack tie") for we fuddy-duddies.
This is a very handsome and substantial book, at 323 pages, with a *very* sexy cover photo and lots of excellent drawings of knots and prisoners, including gay, lesbian, and het couples. Folks who hang out on soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm and wonder what Jay, Janet, and Sockermom look like will finally have their curiosity satisfied.Read more ›
Jay has done bondage play for years and years and his experience and knowledge shows through here. As with other books Jay has written, this book is full of safety cautions and health risks related to doing bondage.
Among the sections in the book include a little bit of "theory" on bondage, different types of rope that can be used, different ways to do single or double-limb bondage, breast bondage (a personal fave!), spread-eagled bondage, and bondage equipment.
I like Jay's assertion that you don't need to learn a lot of knots to do good bondage. I'm glad to hear that because I don't know very many knots myself!
A well-written and very informative book. Good job Jay.
As someone who has been into bondage my entire adult life, but who relies on a relatively small number of techniques, I thought it might be interesting to broaden my repertoire.
Let's start with the bad news. The language, style, degree of repetition and statements of the stunningly obvious all combine to give the impression that the first third or so of the book was written with ten-year-olds in mind. Harsh? Written from the perspective of the experienced bondage practitioner? Well, allow me to illustrate ...
'Probably the most common reason that bondage is applied to a consenting partner is to restrict, in one way or another, their ability to move.' ... 'A sleepy or exhausted top will find it essentially impossible to remain properly alert.' ... 'It can be dangerous for the bottom to use a knife or other sharp object to cut themselves free if they cannot see where they are cutting.' ... 'The risk level seems to dramatically increase if the self-bound person unexpectedly falls.'
I could go on, but you get the idea.
Being an American book, Wiseman was clearly also looking over his shoulder for law-suits as he wrote, with almost every other page containing something like 'SM play should only be done by people who are adequately informed of the nature of what they are doing and who are mentally competent to decide for themselves whether or not this is something that they want to do.Read more ›
Handbook contains over 200 pages of pure rope and bondage knowledge, written by someone obviously passionate about the topic. Jay's instructions are generally quite clear, although some ties (Japanese Arm-wrap Harness comes to mind) would benefit from a numbered or bulleted list format. The simple line drawings were a perfect accompaniment to the text. These 200 pages are very well written, and structured logically for both an initial read and later references.
This "part 2" of Handbook is the most complete bondage how-to I've seen. It's targeted at novice-to-intermediate bondage enthusiasts, and covers this ground thoroughly.
In his own words, Jay Wiseman has a reputation as an "ultra-safety-conscious person," and this publication won't put that reputation at risk. There are another 100 or so pages preceding the bulk of this book. Before getting to the core topic, Handbook covers basic BDSM terminology, his own credentials, and safety, safety, and more safety. I have mixed feelings about this part of the book. There is enough new material, particularly relating to bondage, to justify reading it. However, most of "part 1" is a repetition information in Screw, SM101, and every other major BDSM book. I feel like Handbook goes to the 50% depth on safety information... not deep enough to be a newbie's first BDSM book, but long enough to give that impression.Read more ›
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There are no how-to step by step illustrations in this book at all that I could see but rather simple drawings of the finished ties from one angle. Read morePublished 2 months ago by Timothy P. Heffernan
I purchased this book with expectations of it having lots of examples of different ties. Would have liked more then were acctaully in the book.Published 3 months ago by nicole fitzsimmons
Words, words, words... terrible drawings. Not what I was looking for.Published 3 months ago by Shayna
Not a book you learn specific ties from, at least not easily. Instead, this is probably the book everyone should start with in addition to one of the full color picture guide... Read morePublished 4 months ago by Remy Levine
Too detailed in everything rope. Quit reading half way through. Gave it three just for a reference material. Boring readPublished 5 months ago by Cinnamon Biscuit