Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook [Paperback]

Jay Wiseman (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: May 2000

If you can tie your shoelaces, you can create an erotic masterpiece! From the author of SM 101 comes this compendium of sensible, sensational advice about how to tie up your sweetie, or get tied up yourself. Everything from simple hands-behind-the-back experimentation to immobilizing spreadeagles and hogties - all presented with Wiseman's trademark humor and responsibility. Simple and easy-to-follow, with no complex knots and plenty of illustrations to guide you on your way to bound bliss.

Editorial Reviews

About the Author

Jay Wiseman (Jay Joseph Wiseman)(born 1949) is an American BDSM writer and speaker. In 1991, Wiseman started the Greenery Press publishing house with his partner Janet Hardy, author "Lady Green" of The Sexually Dominant Woman. The publishing house grew to the point of publishing several titles a year, and they hired two other employees. As of 2006, Wiseman has written 11 books and dozens of articles in magazines from Playboy to Redbook.

Product Details

• Paperback: 324 pages
• Publisher: Greenery Press (May 2000)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1890159131
• ISBN-13: 978-1890159139
• Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 6.1 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (37 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #289,214 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

117 of 120 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Lots of ways to get "All Tied Up" for the Evening, May 11, 2000

By 

Todd Hawley (San Francisco CA) - See all my reviews
(REAL NAME)   

This review is from: Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook (Paperback)

This handbook is exactly that, a "reference book" for those who want to learn more about this aspect of BDSM play. Until now, there were "bondage" sections in books like SM 101, Screw the Roses, etc but Jay has devoted an entire book to this activity.

Jay has done bondage play for years and years and his experience and knowledge shows through here. As with other books Jay has written, this book is full of safety cautions and health risks related to doing bondage.

Among the sections in the book include a little bit of "theory" on bondage, different types of rope that can be used, different ways to do single or double-limb bondage, breast bondage (a personal fave!), spread-eagled bondage, and bondage equipment.

I like Jay's assertion that you don't need to learn a lot of knots to do good bondage. I'm glad to hear that because I don't know very many knots myself!

A well-written and very informative book. Good job Jay.

82 of 83 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This books really stands apart., June 15, 2000

By A Customer

This review is from: Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook (Paperback)

Frankly, this subject has always scared me a bit, so I've tended not to try it extensively in my kinky life. However, Jay Wiseman's book has allayed many of my fears, but also introduced new perspectives. Some of what Jay writes supports what many have said about bondage-what's safe, what's not, etc. But Jay also refutes some "age old" adages, and some may find this controversial. He backs it all up with solid research and long experience in the paramedic profession. After that, the book is rich with techniques, illustrations, and references for everyone, novice to "old rope." I've also had the privilege of watching Jay demonstrate and speak, so I can safely say that this book should be read by everyone in the bdsm scene, even if it's not their particular passion.

82 of 84 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Fit to be Tied, May 2, 2000

By 

Philip the Foole (Spokane, WA USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook (Paperback)

Jay Wiseman's "SM-101" has earned a well-deserved place on most BDSM reading lists. So I have *really* been looking forward to reading his new book dedicated to erotic bondage. I was not disappointed.

Jay starts off by setting the scope of the book. His goal is to provide basic-to-intermediate level ties in terms of both risk and difficulty. He does not cover self-bondage, suspension, complex Japanese "hojo-jitsu" ties, long-term ties, or tying against resistance. This still leaves a pretty wide range of techniques for tying single limbs, "I bet you can't get loose" games, double wrist and ankle, spread-eagle, hogtie, gags and ear muffs, male and female genital bondage, breast bondage, handcuffs, tape, safety issues, and lots of other fun stuff.

Perhaps most surprisingly considering Jay's reputation as a BDSM safety promoter, he evaluates the military-style hogtie using a rope that crosses the front of the throat as only medium risk. I have long advocated modifying the classic hojo-jitsu ties to avoid this, so Jay and I find ourselves on opposite chairs of this particular safety issue. As long as the bottom is closely monitored and not left alone, I agree that the risk from this technique is not too extreme, but it is still something I personally prefer to avoid. Jay includes a "politically correct" version (what I have in the past called the "backpack tie") for we fuddy-duddies.

This is a very handsome and substantial book, at 323 pages, with a *very* sexy cover photo and lots of excellent drawings of knots and prisoners, including gay, lesbian, and het couples. Folks who hang out on soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm and wonder what Jay, Janet, and Sockermom look like will finally have their curiosity satisfied. This is definitely must reading for anyone interested in learning how to tie up their partner(s.)

Highly trained professional stunt perverts may find that they are already familiar with some of the basic techniques. Still, I recommend this for every bondage enthusiast's library.

If nothing else, it is handy to have on the bookshelf to "try out some of these ties" with your partner.

Your Humble Jester,

Philip the Foole

Tap for release? Hmmm, I've never tried that. - Ancient Kung Foole Proverb by Jay Wiseman