Don't Let Jerks Get the Best of You / Advice For Dealing With Difficult People [Hardcover]

Paul Meier (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: May 1993

Dr. Paul Meier takes a look at how selfish humans are. Through light hearted episodes, Dr. Meier sheds light on how individuals act as jerks, how to become aware of manipulation, and identifying our own "jerk" tendencies. Don't Let Jerks Get the Best of You! provides laughs while at the same time showing ways to take control of our lives and build relationships with confidence, trust, and joy.

--This text refers to the Paperback edition.

Product Details

• Hardcover: 249 pages
• Publisher: Thomas Nelson Inc (May 1993)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0840775962
• ISBN-13: 978-0840775962
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.6 x 1.1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 15.2 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 3.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (20 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,476,101 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Paul Meier, M.D., is a nationally recognized psychiatrist and founder of the Meier Clinics. He is also the best-selling author or coauthor of more than 70 books, including "Love Is a Choice," "Happiness Is a Choice," "Mood Swings," and "Love Hunger." He holds an M.D. degree from the University of Arkansas College of Medicine and completed his psychiatric residency at Duke University. He also holds advanced degrees in human physiology and biblical studies. Dr. Meier was one of the original founding members of the Focus on the Family Physicians Resource Council (PRC).

Customer Reviews

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24 of 25 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Jerk-reversal made easy, February 11, 2000

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Duston Barto (Hickory, NC) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Don't Let Jerks Get The Best Of You Advice For Dealing With Difficult People (Paperback)

This book was given to me 4 years ago and I never read it until a few weeks ago. I wish I had read it sooner! I work in retail sales and it has really helped me in understanding how to work with Jerks and to eliminate jerk-isms within myself. Within the covers Dr. Meier covers the spiritual ramifications of jerkism and how your relationship with God (geared more in a Christian sense) can help you destroy selfish behaviour and relationship-crippling activities. Meier not only gives us a beautiful autobiography of his own fight with the jerk within but gives many clinical cases of jerk-ism defeated (from both internal and external sources). I would reccomend this book to EVERYONE as it will do nothing but improve your relationship with your fellow man. This book can also help abuse survivors to truly survive in all ways and help one overcome fears and heal deep emotional scars left by even the most destructive of abuse. This is a must-have for any household.

15 of 16 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Great Basic Starter Book, August 22, 2005

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Ruth Natello "[e-mail]" - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Don't Let Jerks Get The Best Of You Advice For Dealing With Difficult People (Paperback)

A great book to get one started on the road to recovery from being a perpetual "victim". Lot's of tests and activities to help ascertain if the reader is invloved with "jerks", i.e. users/abusers. Also there are exercises to help one discover their own unhealthy propensities.

The book helped change my life when I found myself in an unhealthy friendship, but was unable to understand how I had gotten myself into such a jam. I bought this book to try to understand why I was always getting "used". It was not until half way through one of the tests in this book that I realized that the person it was describing was my own parent. I had always thought something was wrong with me, but my eyes were finally opened, and my life was changed for the better forever, and now I can see Narcissists from a mile away. It also helped me deal with my own narcissitic tendancies I learned from my parent. I am now a healthier happier person, who is also safer and saner for those I love. The book is priceless, especially for Christians, but is also for anyone who wants to discover spiritual wisdom and growth.

I would also highly recomend another great book, "Boundaries" by Cloud/Townsend. I loved the revelation that God has well defined boundaries and He wants me to have them too!

15 of 17 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This is a great read and very helpful, June 10, 2003

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Gail (Phoenix, AZ United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Don't Let Jerks Get The Best Of You Advice For Dealing With Difficult People (Paperback)

I have read several of Dr. Meier's books and this is one of the best. It is an easy read and very funny in the right doses. I had a real jerk as a father-in-law and a bigger jerk for a husband. I wanted to try and understand why they acted the way they did. This book was very helpful in allowing me to be at ease with their behavior, knowing when I was acting in a co-dependent manner, and to know that their behavior was not going to change. I could recommned any book written by Dr. Meier and Dr. Minirth. They have written several books together. I could also highly recommend Restoring Margin to Overloaded Lives by Richard A. Swenson,M.D. If you buy this one get the workbook to go with it.