Everyone experiences conflict and, at times, feels overwhelmed. When we remain calm and centered, see clearly what the conflict is about and where it is coming from, address the conflict creatively and assertively, and create what we need without expecting or depending on others to change, the result is personal, relational, social, and spiritual transformation. As we master the skills of conflict resolution this transformation comes more easily to us and we are able to support others in resolving their conflicts. Just Conflict helps readers gain greater confidence about their capacity to name, address, and resolve whatever conflict arises so that, when they discover issues in any relationship, they are able to say, “Oh, it’s just conflict.” These tools help the reader become more adept at knowing what is missing for them when conflicts emerge and to make the choices which get all parties what they need. It is the ability to construct justice out of turmoil which makes conflict just. Dr. Robinson is the Executive Director of the Center for Creative Conflict Resolution and a pastoral counselor who has provided psychotherapy for individuals, couples, and families experiencing high levels of conflict for 30 years. More information can be found at JustConflict.com.
I am a psychotherapist and the Executive Director of the Center for Creative Conflict Resolution in St. Louis. It has long been a source of curiosity for me that so many people are so afraid of conflict when, by resolving conflict, we create what we need and we strengthen our relationships with others. My observation is that, while we all resolve conflicts every day, we discover from time to time conflicts which we don't trust we can resolve. We flinch. We back away and we try to ignore the conflict. It doesn't go away.
It is my goal to help people see what they are already doing to resolve conflict and to build on their successes to become more masterful at addressing the conflicts that arise over and over in our most significant relationships.
