It Just Hasn't Happened Yet presents a new angle sorely needed in the Self-Help/Relationship genre--one that counteracts the tired; clichéd messages women typically field e.g. "You're too picky! You're too needy! You're too neurotic, which is why you aren't married." It Just Hasn't Happened Yet emboldens, rather than blames and encourages women to stay true to themselves, rather than changing to appeal to someone else. It asserts that single women are smart, sexy, cream-of-the-crop "catches" that will eventually get "caught". They aren't screwed up and they can stop berating themselves for being single. They're fabulous as is; it just hasn't happened yet. Now that's self-help!
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Karin Anderson, Ph.D., is an associate professor of psychology and counselor education at Concordia University Chicago. Her edgy perspectives on single adulthood have been featured on CNN.com, WGN, and Oprah Radio, as well as on many blogs, e-zines, and radio shows in major markets. She speaks to both academic and general audiences on women's identity development and family dynamics. Anderson's website, AuthenticallyMe.com, is a forum for women exploring ways to maintain their identities in the midst (or in spite) of their most intimate relationships.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful
By R. YOUNG
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This book was like having a conversation with an older sibling, or someone who has gone thru the singlehood process ahead of you. While not rocket science, the author articulated various elements of singlehood that is most uncomfortable. I appreciated most the resounding theme ending every chapter -- that I'm single, sassy and an A-list friend. When I attempt to down myself, this mantra pops into my head. I thought this was good book, with much humor and yet serious enough to reassure many single women that this is a state of being not of our own doing, but just is. And, it doesn't mean there's something wrong with a single woman. Would highly recommend!
5 of 5 people found the following review helpful
By Hollan
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Karin Anderson's book is really different. She doesn't give you one single solitary piece of advice about what to do on a date, or how to relate to the guy, or admonish you for being needy and super clingy. Instead, she glories in all the mistakes you make, in all the bad choices, the silly behavior, and the way we obsess about the mysterious ways of men.
Then she tells you to just get the heck over it because there isn't anything wrong with anything that you are doing, it just hasn't happened yet.
As far as self-help dating manuals go, this book is unique. The perspective it offers is one I hadn't really considered before, and in this world of regurgitated information, a new perspective is something that really appeals to me.
The idea that "It Just Hasn't Happened Yet" is one that makes rational sense and gives us girls a break from picking apart our every failed relationship and the extreme self-bashing many of us to engage in to explain our single status.
The book will appeal to the woman who is tired of looking for love in every nook and cranny, tired of feeling like she's falling short because she isn't married, and tired of wondering why she's still single.
Then she tells you to just get the heck over it because there isn't anything wrong with anything that you are doing, it just hasn't happened yet.
As far as self-help dating manuals go, this book is unique. The perspective it offers is one I hadn't really considered before, and in this world of regurgitated information, a new perspective is something that really appeals to me.
The idea that "It Just Hasn't Happened Yet" is one that makes rational sense and gives us girls a break from picking apart our every failed relationship and the extreme self-bashing many of us to engage in to explain our single status.
The book will appeal to the woman who is tired of looking for love in every nook and cranny, tired of feeling like she's falling short because she isn't married, and tired of wondering why she's still single.
6 of 7 people found the following review helpful
By K. Lambie
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As single women, we read book after book telling us about what we need to change in order to snag a partner. We have friends and family members that are so concerned that our happiness should be found in a romantic relationship that they offer their love by telling us what we are doing wrong or what we should be doing more of in regards to dating, even when we don't solicit it. We somehow are being told that our self-esteem should be found not in who we are, but what we should or could be doing. But, frankly, it's all discouraging as well as just down right depressing. But, after reading, "It just hasn't happened yet" I finally felt like someone understood me. After reading it, I was greatly encouraged and it gave me hope that there really is someone out there for me who will take me and love me AS I AM. Anderson, wove her voice throughout the book in such a non-forceful way which made it an easy read. I found myself inspired and validated while reading it, which feels SO good! Finally!!! Some words that stick out to me to sum up this book, would be, authentic, uplifting, and fair.
2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
By Tricia C
This book is a MUST read for all of us "single" girls out there! WOW, I finally found a book that I can relate to, not another "how to" guide on finding the man of your dreams. I get enough of that from everyone else!
By Stace
This book is a fun, easy and smart read. It was a bit tongue and cheek, which I loved. As I read the book, I found myself nodding my head to some of the reasons Karin expounded on that people assume are why we are single. The book is very relatable and refreshing. I appreciate knowing i'm not the only one who is made to feel like an alien by my married friends and family! Thanks, Karin, for reminding that I'm not too picky and there's nothing wrong with me - it just hasn't happened yet!
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