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Product Details

  • Paperback: 178 pages
  • Publisher: IVP Books (July 30, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0830833935
  • ISBN-13: 978-0830833931
  • Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 6.3 x 0.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 7.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (13 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #563,441 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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"Every Christian couple contemplating marriage can profit from this highly personal and thoughtful address." (Cornelius Plantinga Jr., president and Charles W. Colson Professor of Theology, Calvin Theological Seminary)

"Jim and Sarah Sumner's book provides a biblical model for marriage, enabling you to strengthen your relationship's foundation. They show you that marriage is a covenant and a commitment, not just feelings and emotions. They teach you how to get together on the vertical, so that things will go well on the horizontal. This emphasis on the primacy of the spiritual is refreshing." (Barry C. Black, Ph.D., chaplain to the U.S. Senate)

"Matching faithful, Christ-centered scriptural exposition with honest, down-to-earth sharing, the Sumners show how marriage minus role-play becomes relationally real. This is a truly health-giving read." (J. I. Packer, author of Knowing God)

"Just How Married Do You Want to Be? delivers the best of both worlds--an insightful, fresh, biblical framework for marriage along with real-world application. Jim and Sarah's straightforward honesty is compelling, raw and powerful. This is a great marriage resource not simply to read but to reflect on and study." (Jud Wilhite, senior pastor, Central Christian Church, Las Vegas, and author of Stripped: Uncensored Grace on the Streets of Vegas)

"Jim and Sarah Sumner have written perhaps the most honest marriage book we have ever read--an honesty born of the real-life pain and struggle of two people with very different backgrounds and personalities. The really good news is that they have looked straight into the heart of those differences and discovered that Jesus is the one who makes marriages work. Here is a marriage book without syrupy formulas or platitudes that tells us the truth that Jesus works through flawed vessels to create something beautiful." (Frank James, president, Reformed Theological Seminary--Orlando, and Carolyn James, author of The Gospel of Ruth)

"Sarah and Jim's book has theological depth, and is a great and timely teaching tool for changing the way people think about marriage, Christ and the church." (Chuck Colson, founder, Prison Fellowship)

"Just How Married Do You Want to Be? is the memoir of a marriage--riveting, honest, self-revelatory and full of evidences of the grace and mercy of Christ--and a reexamination of the meaning of headship in marriage. Readers will walk away from this book with a vivid memory of the fascinating courtship and marital journey of Jim and Sarah Sumner, and with important new insights related to a biblical theology of marriage. I highly recommend this book." (Dr. David P. Gushee, Distinguished University Professor of Christian Ethics, McAfee School of Theology, and president, Evangelicals for Human Rights)

"We each read Sarah and Jim's book in one sitting . . . and since then we have gone back and reread several passages that we found especially helpful. One of the things that we love about Just How Married Do You Want to Be? is that it contains profound biblical theology that is incredibly practical. We believe you will find this book to be an enjoyable read that has the potential to change your marriage." (Greg and Julie Nettle, senior pastor and worship leader, Rivertree Christian Church, Massillon, Ohio)

"'More than ever' is our response to Jim and Sarah's literary question, just how married do you want to be?--and we're celebrating fifty years of practicing oneness!" (Stuart and Jill Briscoe, authors and speakers on "Telling the Truth")

About the Author

Jim Sumner is on staff at NewSong Church in San Dimas, California.

Sarah Sumner (Ph.D., Trinity Evangelical Divinity School) is dean of the A. W. Tozer Theological Seminary in Redding, California. She is also an author and speaker who travels both nationally and internationally to address church congregations and institutions of Christian higher education. In addition, she is a consultant who addresses businesses and nonprofits on the subject of leadership and organizational health. Dr. Sumner is the first woman to earn a Ph.D. in Systematic Theology from Trinity Evangelical Divinity School. Her formal training includes a B.A. from Baylor in Education, an M.A. in Theology from Wheaton College, an M.Div equivalent from Trinity, and an M.B.A. from Azusa Pacific University. For nine years Sumner served as a core teaching pastor at New Song Church in San Dimas, California. For almost thirteen years she worked primarily as a faculty member in the Graduate School of Theology at Azusa Pacific University.

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A must read for any married couple!
AJ Longacre
I've read a number of marriage helps from both sides of the camp and can say I saw myself in eye-opening ways in these pages more than any other.
Deborah Shore
Also, Headship as a biblical metaphor is unpacked very clearly and concisely.
Melissa

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16 of 16 people found the following review helpful By Michael Ralston on May 9, 2009
Format: Paperback
My wife and I have a traditional arrangement: she's a full time stay home mom, I work 50+ hours per week in a very male field (cop), 3 kids with one home schooled, whole family is very into our evangelical Quaker faith. HOWEVER, we are not traditional "people" : we have never fit well into the traditional gender role idealogy, because we are VERY egalatarian in everything we do (one of the #1 reasons we love the evangelical Quaker church). So when we hunted for marriage books over the last 15 years of our marriage, we were always frustrated and disappointed with male domintated materials. This marriage book is the first book we have read that we can feel comfortable with most of the ideas presented. It is a breath of fresh air for us, and all the concepts are rooted in scripture. This book will (help us) improve our marriage like nothing we've read before. If your marriage is not the common heirarchial type and you have been frustrated with marriage books for a loooooong time, this is THE ONLY book for you.

I mean c'mon- the author stories alone are worth it! She is a female bible scholar (very rare), and her pastor husband was a stripper BC?! You can't beat THAT marriage match for variety and challenge to the your readers. As a former beer truck driver/bounty hunter/and cop for over a decade, I need stuff that REALLY cuts to the heart of things.

Of course, this book will be a difficult read for those who MUST HAVE the old tradtional Christian marriage model.
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22 of 24 people found the following review helpful By Deborah Shore on September 22, 2008
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I've read Sarah's other two books, and at this point, I think you could call me an outright Sumner fan (it's great to hear from her husband this time too). Let's see... I purchased my second copy halfway through the book and my third copy the day after I finished.

Since I come from the vantage of having absorbed Sarah's heftier volume on "Men and Women in the Church," I'll be interested to see how well others without that background or inclination follow the simpler delineation of theology in this volume. Here Sarah reframes the egalitarian side as the "diplomatic" model, the complementarian side as the "business" model, and her own, boldly, as the "biblical" model. I think this is wise and will prove helpful for mass distribution. A lot of people I know would be scared by the unfamiliar words and would assume they won't be able to "get it." So her vocabulary choice effectively removes an obstacle for many. Also, by calling her own model the "biblical" one (I happen to agree), she avoids the potentially overwhelming feeling of "pick and choose" that would greet those couples unfamiliar with theology (the anxiety factor). They are still free to pick and choose, of course, to discount her ideas and turn to others, but she simply presents her case as what the biblical answer is. For that, I give this presentation a hearty "brava" for its creative simplicity.

On the practical side, I'm thankful for Jim and Sarah's abandoned honesty. I've read a number of marriage helps from both sides of the camp and can say I saw myself in eye-opening ways in these pages more than any other. Their discussions of marital expectations, hot button issues, and so forth really hit the mark.
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12 of 12 people found the following review helpful By Melissa on September 7, 2008
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This book is incredibly honest and you can tell that Sarah and Jim aren't trying to write a book to look awesome to the world. It is deeply theological. Most marriage books are informed through psychology (which is great), however I find it incredibly refreshing to look at marriage theologically and meditate on the implications of oneness and being members of the body of Christ. Also, Headship as a biblical metaphor is unpacked very clearly and concisely. It deepened my understanding even after reading Sarah Sumner's Men and Women in the Church. Great book and worth the read.
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12 of 13 people found the following review helpful By Jody Wiley Fernando on September 7, 2008
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[Disclaimer: Given that I'm not very well versed in the egalitarian-complementarian wars, I'm not exactly sure what I think of Jim and Sarah Sumner's new book Just how married do you want to be? While I suspect I fall more to one side than the other, I don't have enough cold hard facts to strongly defend my position, so I approached this book with a bit of both skepticism and intrigue.]

What initially intrigued me about the Sumner's book is that it is written by a female with her Ph.D. and her former male-stripper husband. Talk about an unlikely couple from which to learn about marriage! Regardless of their theological interpretations of gender relationships, surely they have some deep insight into relationship by virtue of being able to stay married! They did not disappoint. With candor and at times painful honesty, they explore how they have transversed their differences to pursue oneness in marriage. While Sarah details how her pride and selfishness prevented pursuing oneness with her husband, Jim discusses how his background his background and temper affected their relationship. They speak in specifics, exploring how their attitudes, issues, and expectations affect one another and how they have learned to respond differently.

Just how married do you want to be? includes a fairly thorough examination of the texts which speak of women submitting to men and men being the head of the wife. I'm have zero training in Greek translation, so I can't speak to that, other than saying they make an intriguing argument for one in midst of trying to understand these passages.
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