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How to Keep People from Pushing Your Buttons

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The premise of this book is that events or people don't make up you angry or upset, it's what you think about them that does. WIth this in mind, Ellis and Lange lay out a simple approach that you can use to keep on a more even keel. The essence is that you can challenge your own thinking, which often has at its root some sort of irrational belief in the way things should be. Then replace those beliefs with more rational ones. It is a non-manipulative, ethical approach. You can practice this technique on "small" problems and gain confidence that you will handle larger problems better.

Not every method works for everyone however, this work is excellent for getting you into the ballpark of greatly turning down the mental noise from our own and well as others, pushing our hot buttons! It's simple and straight to the point and surprising how well these techniques work for each and every occasion! I should have negotiated a cut for the amount of times that I've recommended this book to my clients!

All the best and thanks Dr. Ellis!

I have borrowed this book from the library and was so impressed by the ideas that I decided I need my own copy for reference. I found it very helpful and applicable to the most difficult situations in my life. I feel much calmer after reading it and using techniques it offers.

This book is a classic! I found it helpful not only in my personal life, but in my professional life as a teacher and a legal professional.

I've read quite a few self-help books over the years but none helped me with my thinking the way this one did. I wish I had gotten this book years ago it would have saved me a lot of angst. It wasn't written recently, but it is a classic I would recommend it to anyone who is serious about looking honestly at themselves and are willing to change their thinking.

Excellent read very helpful to me personally and in my profession as a substance abuse counselor. The book was bought used and in better condition than expected. Shipped Quick highly recommended Seller.

This is a really excellent book. Also extremely funny. It might change your life. At the very least you will find some of your friends and acquaintances in here. You will realize that you, not they, are sane. Enjoy.

Albert Ellis is the famous originator of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy. This new approach to psychology aims to educate the client to: (1) analyze their emotional thoughts, (2) challenge these troublesome beliefs, and, (3) replace them with more rational ideas. This approach works well with lesser psychological conditions such as anxiety, anger, depression and neuroticism.

This book is aimed specifically at fear/anxiety/worry. It has plenty of exercises you can work through to help you learn the approach. Ellis teaches that there are three ways that worriers thinking can go wrong: catastrophic thinking, absolutist thinking and rationalization. Next we learn about the "ten nutty beliefs that we use to let people and situations needlessly push our buttons."

While I found this book interesting I began to rebel when I found that I had to learn ten false beliefs that can send me astray. To be fair Ellis does say that only the first four are the most common, but the whole thing had started to feel a bit like preparing to sit an exam. I felt that these ten specific beliefs could have been the subject of a separate book.

Another possible criticism is that this book contains absolutely no reference to experiments to demonstrate that this approach works. If you are the type of person that needs evidence to prove an idea to you this may not be the book for you.

This book is a great help for many who need to understand what's triggering your response to certain situations.

I recommend this book for everyone

This continues in the theme that Albert Ellis built his career on. It endoreses rational cognitive therapy self administered. Briefly, it is not what happens but how we think about what happens that determines how we feel and how we behave. Get control of the thinking and you can minimize the extent to which other people can set us off and control our behavior. Generally good message