Kid Cooperation: How to Stop Yelling, Nagging, and Pleading and Get Kids to Cooperate [Paperback]

Elizabeth Pantley (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 1, 1996

Would you like to know how to get your children to willingly cooperate? Would you like to eliminate many of your daily battles and end the yelling, nagging, and pleading? Would you like to handle discipline issues with knowledge and authority? During this process, would you like to learn how to boost your children’s self-esteem, feel better about yourself as a person, and even improve your marriage?

This book is filled with real ideas for real families—practical, purposeful things you can do to improve family life. With the tools and skills presented in Kid Cooperation you can achieve the goal of raising happy, confident, self-disciplined children, and enjoy the process!

Product Details

• Paperback: 208 pages
• Publisher: New Harbinger Publications; 1 edition (April 1, 1996)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1572240407
• ISBN-13: 978-1572240407
• Product Dimensions: 6 x 0.6 x 9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (70 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #88,295 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Editorial Reviews

Review

“Here is a book we have long been waiting for, and one that we heartily welcome…I envy any parent who has the privelage of reading it and learning from it.”
—From the preface by Louise Bates Ames, PhD., Associate Director, Gesell Institute of Human Development

“Kid Cooperation gives you the tools you need, not only to encourage compliance, but to create a close, loving, and respectful relationship between you and your child.”
—From the foreword by William Sears, M.D., co-author of The Baby Book and The Discipline Book

From the Back Cover

Would you like to know how to get your children to willingly cooperate? Would you like to eliminate many of your daily battles and end the yelling, nagging, and pleading? Would you like to handle discipline issues with knowledge and authority? During this process, would you like to learn how to boost your children's self-esteem, feel better about yourself as a person, and even improve your marriage?

This book is filled with real ideas for real families - practical, purposeful things you can do to improve family life. With the tools and skills presented in Kid Cooperation you can achieve the goal of raising happy, confident, self-disciplined children, and enjoy the process!

"Here is a book we have long been waiting for, and one that we heartily welcome. I envy any parent who has the privilege of reading it and learning from it." (Louise Bates Ames, Ph.D., Gesell Institute of Human Development)

"Kid Cooperation gives you the tools you need, not only to encourage compliance, but to create a close, loving, and respectful relationship between you and your child." (William Sears, M.D. Co-Author of The Baby Book and The Discipline Book)

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Product Details

• Paperback: 208 pages
• Publisher: New Harbinger Publications; 1 edition (April 1, 1996)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1572240407
• ISBN-13: 978-1572240407
• Product Dimensions: 6 x 0.6 x 9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (70 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #88,295 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

When asked to define myself, the first thing that comes to mind is not the business that that brings in my paycheck, but the pursuit that occupies the majority of my days and the biggest chunk of my heart: Mother. I'm a mom of four wonderful, loveable, magical children. I've managed to create a rich and rewarding career as an author of books for parents, and as a speaker on this epic and important topic. I have the pleasure of writing about the things that bring families more peace, and the fun of chatting with people every day about our children and calling it work. I travel around the world to share what I know, and learn many new things from other parents on my journeys. I have presented at many conferences, hospital parenting programs and other events. I'm the author of nine parenting books available in 24 languages -- showing that parents are the same, no matter where in the world they live or what language they speak. My email box is filled daily with reader mail from all over the world -- my virtual pen pals. I have several new "No-Cry" parenting books in the works.

You can get more information, pictures, articles, contests, and more, at my web site: http://www.pantley.com/elizabeth

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

120 of 122 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Life changing! A "must have" book for all parents! June 15, 2001

By Gaye Ward

Format:Paperback

Parenting would have to be the most difficult (yet rewarding!) job in the world. Of all parenting challenges, discipline is probably at the top of most parents' list. Every parent wants to raise kids who are responsible and caring people. But HOW on earth are we supposed to achieve this? Often the only blueprint we have for discipline comes from our own parents, and involves methods such as spanking and shouting, which are neither effective nor respectful to children.

Thank goodness for Elizabeth Pantley and her wonderful book Kid Cooperation: How to stop yelling, nagging and pleading and get kids to cooperate! I must admit to being somewhat sceptical when I come across claims such as those in this book title. "If it sounds too good to be true then it probably is", rings in my ears. However, I am DELIGHTED to be able to say that this book not only lives up these claims but MORE.

In Kid Cooperation, Elizabeth Pantley shares parenting skills that are LIFE CHANGING! I do not say that lightly! This book will change your life! The wonderful thing is that the skills outlined are easy to learn and implement, they actually WORK, and probably most importantly in my opinion, they are kind to and respectful of children. Elizabeth's style is very readable, positive and not at all preachy. She allows you to determine areas needing improvement in a way that leaves you feeling both hopeful and positive.

The first chapter comprises a quiz to determine your current discipline style. Are you permissive, democratic, balanced or autocratic? (I erred on the "too democratic" side!) The good news is that, whatever your current style, you CAN find help in this wonderful book.

The remaining chapters contain the gems of wisdom which fulfil the claims on the front cover!... Chapter 2 teaches the keys to successful parenting - take charge; think; when you say it, mean it; use skill. Chapter 3 covers cooperation and how to achieve it in your home. Chapter 4 discusses punishment versus discipline. Chapter 5 teaches ways to build your child's self-esteem. Chapter 6 is all about sibling relationships. Chapter 7 deals with parent anger. Chapter 8 discusses ways to look after yourself and the relationship with your parenting partner. Chapter 9 consists of some common discipline questions with several suggestions on how to deal effectively with each. Each chapter ends with a very helpful "reminder page", which can be copied and placed in appropriate spots around the home. This really makes learning the new skills manageable!

Throughout the book, examples of situations and dialogue (some from the author's own family experiences) make understanding easy. Many readers will see themselves and their kids in the examples (I know I did!) Elizabeth makes it simple to identify ineffective parenting AND to replace it with techniques that actually WORK. I have personally used many of the skills taught in this book with my own child and am thrilled to report the improvement in harmony in our household. Some examples which have been particularly useful to us are the "5-3-1-go" (when leaving a playground for example), making objects talk (great for things like teeth cleaning time!), and using happy faces and sad faces on a daily chart.

I thoroughly recommend this book! My ONLY complaint is that I didn't get it when my child was younger! Read more ›

90 of 92 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars A Must-Read for ALL Parents! January 17, 2005

By Busy Mom VINE™ VOICE

Format:Paperback|Amazon Verified Purchase

I wish someone had given me this book when I was pregnant with my two sons. This is a book I plan to buy for my moms' group ~~ I cannot remember the last time I was so enthused about buying a book for other people ~~ this book is definitely a must-read for all parents. I suppose I could share my copy with my friends, but no way. This book is my copy ~~ it's going to help me in the future as well when my two sons travel even further down the path to growing up to be adults.

If you are planning to have kids, this book is a good read for you too. If you are a parent and tired of yelling and nagging your kids to do what you want them to do or not to do ~~ this book is for you.

Most parenting books tend to be on the dry side ~~ more factual than helpful. This book is honest, written with humor and the author shares her insights and personal stories about her three children and how she deals with certain situations that comes up in the midst of raising children. Mrs. Pantley admits that there are times when she fears for her sanity ~~ kids are kids! And not only does she share her stories, she also gives practical and kind but effective suggestions on how to achieve what you want done ~~ without hurting your child's feelings and without you losing control of the situation (whatever that may be). Also, at the end of each chapter, she outlines the main points for you to remember.

This is an incredibly helpful resource in parenting right now. I read this in three days and outlined major points that will be helpful as I deal with two toddlers right smack in the middle of the terrible twos. I am positive this book will help me in the future when they're starting school, becoming teen-agers and so on.... This is a practical guide with wonderful insights on how children behave and why they behave this way.

I am grateful that there is a book like this one out there. I only wish I had discovered it sooner!

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45 of 45 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars The only parenting book you'll need! March 25, 1999

By A Customer

Format:Paperback

The minute I saw this book on the shelf I had to have it. I wanted to stop yelling, nagging, pleading and get my kids to cooperate. Who wouldn't? I have three children and have been using the many ideas in this book since I purchased it a year and a half ago. Each time I read it - either cover to cover or just glancing over the great reminder pages - I gain more useful ideas to help me be a successful parent. As my children enter new stages in their life and new parenting challenges are faced, I have the confidence to tackle them head-on by using the techniques that I have learned in this book. I have recommended Kid Cooperation to all my friends and I highly recommend it to you as well. I can't imagine what my family life would be like if it wasn't for this first rate parenting book. It is a must have for every parent.

40 of 40 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars REALLY! How to stop yelling, nagging and pleading! October 9, 2003

By A Customer

Format:Paperback

An easy read packed with incredible, realistic ideas. Ii isn't boring like so many parenting books, but written in a conversational tone that's fun to read. But what's most important is that the ideas REALLY WORK!

Each concept is clearly explained and examples are given -- the "wrong" way is demonstrated, it can be humourous, but it's amazing how many times I saw myself in them, such as "Kids! How many times to I have to tell you to put your toys away before dinner? You now the rule, yet every day you come to dinner and I see the room littered with toys. Before I put any food on the table, I expect to......" (Don't lecture. Me??) Then the book gives you the better way. (Make it brief.) "Kids -- the rule is, toys put away before dinner."

Each chapter has a summary page to copy and post on your refrigerator to help remind you of what you want to remember.

What's best is that Kid Cooperation gives you multiple ideas, since the author is a mother herself and knows that no one idea will work every time nor will it work with every kid.

I'd definately recommend this book if you want to be more calm and stop yelling and nagging your kids.