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Kill Your Self: Life After Ego (Zen for Real Life Book 1) [Kindle Edition]

Dogo Barry Graham
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Book Description

"You might as well take your socks off... because they'll be knocked off anyway by the writing of Dogo Barry Graham. Little diamonds of Zen blasted into your mushy brain to pry your eyelids open."

--Tricycle: The Buddhist Review

No, this book doesn't advocate suicide - it teaches something that takes a lot more courage: that we are always enlightened, and must take responsibility for realizing our enlightenment. It invites us to meet life on its own terms, wherever we are, whoever we are, right now, killing our false sense of self by seeing through it to our true nature.

This is Zen for real life, in the world of relationships, jobs, dirty dishes, teacups and toilets. Zen master Dogo Barry Graham eschews traditional institutions and dogmas and insists instead that we trust in ourselves. Zen is not a system of belief, or a theory about the meaning of life. It is beyond philosophy, beyond religion. It is the gateless gate to freedom from suffering.

Editorial Reviews


"Forget The Power of Now. This is the book you want. A really powerful shot of Zen told by a writer who knows what he's talking about. As much essential reading for the beginner as for the master."--Tony Black, author of His Father's Son and The Last Tiger

"Wonderful, eye-opening...packed with a-ha moments...The book is presented in a 'take-it-or-leave-it' style. It isn't preachy. It doesn't want you to do this or that. It just is. And it's so refreshing. Couldn't recommend it more."--J. David Osborne, author of Low Down Death Right Easy

Product Details

  • File Size: 1116 KB
  • Print Length: 166 pages
  • Publisher: Cracked Sidewalk Press (September 27, 2011)
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B005NP03GS
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  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #582,078 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Drawing from our Zen ancestors January 29, 2014
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Early in my Zen journey I came across the Dogen Zenji quote: To study the Buddha Way is to study the self. To study the self is to forget the self. “What in the world was he talking about?” I thought.

This book, KILL YOUR SELF: Life After Ego, does just this -- it’s a study of the self. Dogo Barry Graham tells us not what we want to hear, but what we need to hear in this 2014 world. Drawing from our Zen ancestors, it’s a practical and useful book for today, whether you are new to Zen or have a few years under your belt.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A great start December 9, 2013
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Nice introduction to zen and why it can help...definitely worth 're-reading the parts that I couldn't quite grasp. Clear writing style.
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3 of 4 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars On the Ego November 16, 2012
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My habit is to highlight particularly insightful passages in books I read---however with this book, the practice was abandoned as soon as I reached a quarter of the way through, for its impracticality. I was highlighting near every passage.

This book has a quiet and unexpected immensity and directness to it. Highly recommended.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Accessible and relevant April 20, 2014
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A wonderful combination of bite-sized teachings and longer, more expansive sections that explore topics in greater detail. Dogo Barry Graham has a direct and compassionate approach to his teachings. This was one of the most accessible and personally relevant Zen resources I've ever discovered.
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Should be required reading in schools. If for no other reason than to counter the mandatory brainwash dogma every child receives before, during, and after "education."
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5.0 out of 5 stars quintessential book. April 19, 2014
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A quintessential book about zen teaching. A book to share, a book to read all over again and consult in your everyday life. Dogo Barry Graham is brilliant from heart to Zen !
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2 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A Stellar Introduction to the Basics of Zen Practice January 16, 2014
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This book has proven to be quite helpful to me over the past couple of months. Graham is very clear about down-to-earth, realistic applications to anyone's life right now--as is, currently, without the purchase of a designer meditation pillow or a subscription to Tricycle magazine. His short, concise musings on life and zen principles are refreshingly irreverent, witty, reassuring, and poignant.

As a person who doesn't subscribe to any particular religion, I appreciated lines like, "Ecstatic, agitated, calm, impatient, bored, rapturous--whatever comes up, just acknowledge it and return to the breath. To return to the breath is to return to life, your life, this moment," and "There's not much Zen practice going on anywhere, especially in Zen centers. There's not much spiritual practice going on anywhere..."

Most importantly, though, after having read this book, I understand the importance of appreciating and loving myself, just as I am, in this moment--without agonizing over the future, my career, my publications, my writing routine, my skin, my wardrobe, my "self." Before zen, nothing is good enough. After zen, all is good enough, because all beings are inherently valuable, but also, things haven't changed, but you've changed. You've been shown how to view the same home movie of your own life in a different way: not completely detached, with indifference, but in a way that allows yourself the space to realize there is a movie playing onscreen, but it's only a story.

Highly recommended!
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
2.0 out of 5 stars This book was interesting but not very consistent in its ...
This book was interesting but not very consistent in its treatment of practicing Zen. I also found the author to be very critical of people and he really had a lot of complaining... Read more
Published 3 months ago by Sarnage
4.0 out of 5 stars Accessible
Dogo Barry Graham's short little book is an excellent look at Zen thought from what seems like a "real" person. Read more
Published on January 9, 2012 by Chris La Tray
5.0 out of 5 stars Zen for your life, right now.
Dogo Barry Graham has written a very valuable book on the actual practice of Zen in this life, your life, right this instant as you read this. Read more
Published on December 13, 2011 by Stephen C Gay
5.0 out of 5 stars This is a great book that will speak for any spiritual practioner that...
This is a great book that will speak to any spiritual practioner that wants to get beyond their own BS to look at life as it is. Read more
Published on October 29, 2011 by John Hinton
5.0 out of 5 stars A Clear Explanation
Reading this book is like having a conversation with a wise friend over a cup of coffee. The prose flows smoothly and provides a practical, non-mystical explanation of Zen practice... Read more
Published on October 24, 2011 by R Gallo
1.0 out of 5 stars Nonsense
I don't know what this nonsense is, but it isn't Zen. Abounding in gross distortions of actual Zen teaching - starting with the title. Read more
Published on September 29, 2011 by to2911
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