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Kill Your Self: Life After Ego [Kindle Edition]

Dogo Barry Graham
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Book Description

"You might as well take your socks off... because they'll be knocked off anyway by the writing of Dogo Barry Graham. Little diamonds of Zen blasted into your mushy brain to pry your eyelids open."
- Tricycle: The Buddhist Review

No, this book doesn't advocate suicide - it teaches something that takes a lot more courage: that we are always enlightened, and must take responsibility for realizing our enlightenment. It invites us to meet life on its own terms, wherever we are, whoever we are, right now, killing our false sense of self by seeing through it to our true nature.

This is Zen for real life, in the world of relationships, jobs, dirty dishes, teacups and toilets. Zen master Dogo Barry Graham eschews traditional institutions and dogmas and insists instead that we trust in ourselves. Zen is not a system of belief, or a theory about the meaning of life. It is beyond philosophy, beyond religion. It is the gateless gate to freedom from suffering.

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"You might as well take your socks off... because they'll be knocked off anyway by the writing of Dogo Barry Graham. Little diamonds of Zen blasted into your mushy brain to pry your eyelids open." 
- Tricycle: The Buddhist Review

Product Details

  • File Size: 1105 KB
  • Print Length: 166 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 1466247584
  • Publisher: Cracked Sidewalk Press (September 27, 2011)
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B005NP03GS
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #572,457 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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5.0 out of 5 stars Drawing from our Zen ancestors January 29, 2014
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Early in my Zen journey I came across the Dogen Zenji quote: To study the Buddha Way is to study the self. To study the self is to forget the self. “What in the world was he talking about?” I thought.

This book, KILL YOUR SELF: Life After Ego, does just this -- it’s a study of the self. Dogo Barry Graham tells us not what we want to hear, but what we need to hear in this 2014 world. Drawing from our Zen ancestors, it’s a practical and useful book for today, whether you are new to Zen or have a few years under your belt.
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5.0 out of 5 stars A great start December 9, 2013
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Nice introduction to zen and why it can help...definitely worth 're-reading the parts that I couldn't quite grasp. Clear writing style.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Accessible and relevant April 20, 2014
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A wonderful combination of bite-sized teachings and longer, more expansive sections that explore topics in greater detail. Dogo Barry Graham has a direct and compassionate approach to his teachings. This was one of the most accessible and personally relevant Zen resources I've ever discovered.
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5.0 out of 5 stars quintessential book. April 19, 2014
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A quintessential book about zen teaching. A book to share, a book to read all over again and consult in your everyday life. Dogo Barry Graham is brilliant from heart to Zen !
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5.0 out of 5 stars On the Ego November 16, 2012
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My habit is to highlight particularly insightful passages in books I read---however with this book, the practice was abandoned as soon as I reached a quarter of the way through, for its impracticality. I was highlighting near every passage.

This book has a quiet and unexpected immensity and directness to it. Highly recommended.
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5.0 out of 5 stars A Stellar Introduction to the Basics of Zen Practice January 16, 2014
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This book has proven to be quite helpful to me over the past couple of months. Graham is very clear about down-to-earth, realistic applications to anyone's life right now--as is, currently, without the purchase of a designer meditation pillow or a subscription to Tricycle magazine. His short, concise musings on life and zen principles are refreshingly irreverent, witty, reassuring, and poignant.

As a person who doesn't subscribe to any particular religion, I appreciated lines like, "Ecstatic, agitated, calm, impatient, bored, rapturous--whatever comes up, just acknowledge it and return to the breath. To return to the breath is to return to life, your life, this moment," and "There's not much Zen practice going on anywhere, especially in Zen centers. There's not much spiritual practice going on anywhere..."

Most importantly, though, after having read this book, I understand the importance of appreciating and loving myself, just as I am, in this moment--without agonizing over the future, my career, my publications, my writing routine, my skin, my wardrobe, my "self." Before zen, nothing is good enough. After zen, all is good enough, because all beings are inherently valuable, but also, things haven't changed, but you've changed. You've been shown how to view the same home movie of your own life in a different way: not completely detached, with indifference, but in a way that allows yourself the space to realize there is a movie playing onscreen, but it's only a story.

Highly recommended!
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More About the Author

I'm a Scottish novelist, journalist, poet and Zen monk currently based in Portland, Oregon. I'm the author of more than a dozen books, including THE BOOK OF MAN (an American Library Association best book of the year), THE WRONG THING (a finalist for the SPINETINGLER MAGAZINE best novel of the year in the Legend category, even though I'm not a legend), WHEN IT ALL COMES DOWN TO DUST (a MYSTERY PEOPLE best book of the year) and KILL YOUR SELF: LIFE AFTER EGO, an Amazon Kindle bestseller in the Zen category. Three of my novels and a collection of my stories have been translated into French and published by 13E Note Editions. The French magazine PREMIER called me "a white trash Buddhist monk" with "an uncompromising vision, but also full of tenderness and compassion, that makes him one of the most touching and interesting authors of his generation."

My journalism has appeared in magazines and newspapers internationally. I'm currently a columnist at THE BIG CLICK.

I witnessed two executions in Arizona, invited each time by the prisoner, an experience described in my collection of memoir and reportage, WHY I WATCH PEOPLE DIE.

Visit me at my website,, on Twitter @BazNoir, or on Vimeo To get on my mailing list, go here:


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