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Kiss Me Again: Restoring Lost Intimacy in Marriage

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SEX! SEX! SEX!

So, did I hook you with that title? I hope so because I've got some information that you need to have about sex. I just finished reading a new book by Barbara Wilson called "Kiss Me Again: Restoring Intimacy in Marriage."

WOW!

You've got to read this book. Never before have I read a book with more practical, honest and helpful information about sex than this one. I like information that I can use - straight out of the box - and this book fits the bill.

Barbara Wilson takes the statement we've all heard "Don't have sex before marriage" and explains it not only from a biblical standpoint but also a physiological one and an emotional one. She does a wonderful job explaining what happens inside the brain when men and women become sexually active before marriage and how that plays an important role in the marriage relationship later.

If you have a less than perfect past, have experienced abuse, or even went into marriage as a "virgin" this book is for you. The beauty of this book is that after explaining all these interesting and helpful things the author walks you through the healing process. She really takes you full circle. Now of course that will take effort on your part but I know it will be worth it.

Even if you have a perfect sex life this book is still helpful. It is also a must read for all moms of pre-teens and teens. (I'd even add college students into this mix.) Not everything is applicable to them but it can sure give you some practical talking points for talking to your daughters (& sons) about sex.

The point is that I HIGHLY recommend this book to everyone. God made us to enjoy sex. It's supposed to be pleasurable - even after marriage. To quote a little Top Gun for you Gen Xers - If you've "lost that lovin' feeling" read this book.

There were times I was reading this book that I wondered what I had gotten myself into. It's written by a woman for women, although the author thinks husbands can benefit from it too. I'm still not sure why I chose to review it, but I'm married to a woman and I pastor a lot of women. So maybe it's good that I read this book.

Kiss Me Again is based on the premise that past sexual relationships and experiences before marriage damage the sexual relationship within marriage. Wilson shares her story and the story of others, and provides practical advice on how to break free from the past and re-establish bonds of intimacy within marriage.

I would actually recommend this book for pastors and leaders who work with Christian women. We are called to deal with many of the issues raised in this book. I found some new insights in this book that I will be using. It's helped me to get a grip on some of the practical issues that need to be dealt with before the wedding and after. Churches cannot afford to ignore this issue.

I'd also recommend this book to single women. It gives a preview of the issues that will come from getting physical before marriage. It's not prudish. It's realistic, though, about how sex outside of marriage affects us.

Finally, I'd recommend this book to women who would like to rekindle intimacy in their marriage. There's lots of practical help in this book. It deals sensitively with some very tough issues.

I think this book could also be supplemented with other material from CCEF, or from books like Unpacking Forgiveness by Chris Brauns.

I wasn't sure what to expect when I picked up this book, but I'm glad to see someone dealing with such an important topic that needs to be addressed with sensitivity and Biblical wisdom.

When that spark is lost, the essence of the marriage is as well. "Kiss Me Again: Restoring Lost Intimacy in Marriage" is a guide for relationships that have lost their luster and want to recover that spark that they once had and make the marriage have the allure it had before. With plenty of advice for re-finding those bonds and re-kinding the passion, "Kiss Me Again" is a solid pick.

God's design for us is to wait until marriage before we become intimate with a man--and for good reason. This book was clear to point out that there are consequences to our actions if we do not adhere to this sound counsel. Does that mean there is no hope for our marriage bed if we have sinned in the past? Fortunately, the answer doesn't have to be yes, because God is a god of restoration and healing. Within the chapters of this book there are tools to help you along the way. One of which is a ten-week study guide in the back. This is a combination of Scripture and application questions to help those along this healing process.

If you've struggled with a waining desire for your husband, this might just be the book for you.

I really enjoyed reading this book. I think it is a subject that is not often discussed. I'm glad to see a woman reaching out to see healing in other women.

I think Wilson approaches the subject with understanding, insight, and knowledge. She is quick to give God the credit for the healing she has received and encourages women to allow God to work healing in them. She even provides a guide for small group use. I think this book could be a value resource for spouses struggling with intimacy, as well as those who have a desire to minister to women.

It seems as if the issues around relationships and especially the loss of them are prevalent. When I signed on to do this review, I thought this book was a romance novel. The title says it all: Kiss Me Again! Then, I read it. Not a novel, but very refreshing and novel in its approach.

Barbara Wilson, author of Kiss Me Again: Restoring Lost Intimacy in Marriage, says that many married women genuinely want to feel more desire toward their husbands. But while sex before marriage was hard to resist, now resisting seems like all they do. In her new book, she shows how couples can suffer for years from the "invisible bonds" of previous relationships without even knowing it. Hidden emotions of distrust, shame, and resentment can sabotage even the most loving marriage.

In the book, Barbara shares her own story of healing and renewed desire, helps women forgive themselves and their husbands for past choices and shows readers how to break free from "invisible bonds" while helping couples reignite the passion that they thought was lost, and all from a biblical perspective.

With assessment tools, write-in exercises, and gentle guidance, Kiss Me Again offers a biblical plan for rekindling the closeness and passion women long for in marriage. Because no past is beyond the reach of God's healing touch.

Just from reading some of the questions, I was opened up in ways I did not expect. I invite you to visit the Random House website and purchase Kiss Me Again if you desire the passion in your marriage that you thought was lost.

This book was provided for review by the WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group.

Kiss Me Again, Restoring Lost Intimacy In Marriage by Barbara Wilson explores the question of why marriage can seem like the end of intimacy and sexual desire instead of the beginning. Ms. Wilson uses her experience counseling and speaking to answer that question.

Following the Biblical principle of bonding through sex Ms. Wilson shows how you bond to each person you have sex with and how the bonds you have formed in the past can be a challenge to your marriage.

Through many personal examples, some of her own and some of the ladies' she has counseled, she covers sexual history issues to help you on the road to healing.

The book is mostly book form but also includes some "workbook" type sections so you can record your own thoughts.

Ms. Wilson has "been there, done that" and speaks from personal experience. She isn't afraid to lay out the details of her past in the hopes of helping her readers heal. There's lot of good information in this book and I recommend anyone struggling with a loss of intimacy in their marriage read it. It is set up as a ten-week study and I like that format. It gives you time to think about what you're reading and work on things a bit at a time.

This book deals with a difficult discussion topic - your sexual history and its effect on your marriage. If you find yourself wondering why your sex life is not what you think it should be (or know it should be), grab this book and a pencil. This is not a "light reading" book. This book will challenge you and cause you to come on your knees before God, letting Him heal you and change you.

This book is a great book for counseling women who are struggling in their marriages or who are having sexual issues. Barbara takes women step-by-step through the healing process, and encourages them with the Word of God. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who is struggling in this area.

This book is absoultely amazing!! I am so thankful that Barbara Wilson followed the Lord's leading and wrote this book. What am I so excited about? Well, in a nutshell - healing! Healing from past sexual sins. Healing from hurts. Forgiveness, both for myself and those who abused me.

Kiss Me Again is a short, 12 chapter journey for restoring any lost intimacy in your marriage. Your past sexual sins play a huge part in how you react to your husband and your marriage. This book gets you on the right path to deal with your sins and how to get past them and to find forgiveness.

*I received this book from Waterbrook Multnomah for free in exchange for my honest review.

Many married women yearn for physical and emotional closeness with their mates yet shun intimate advances. This was Barbara Wilson's feelings in her marriage. She writes out of her own experience with a great deal of compassion. Wilson lost her virginity at age 18. It was not a positive experience for her and she internalized the idea that sex was for a man's pleasure and that he used women to get it. She protected herself with barriers to intimacy that remained even into her second marriage.
In our time, most couples (including Christians) have sex before marriage. Wilson argues that these sexual encounters establish bonds that remain. Because of sex from the past emotional and physical dysfunction is all too frequent. The good news is that God can heal your wounds and restore your marriage, no matter what your sexual past.
The first part of the book helps the reader understand how sex from the past affects one's marriage today. The second part of the book deals with healing, taking the reader through specific steps to restoration of intimacy in the marriage. Practical exercises, tools and a study guide actively take the reader through the process. It begins with making a life map, a reflection on the events of your past. Wilson walks the reader through the process of determining where healing needs to take place. She uses many reflective questions with plenty of space to write a response.
A woman's response to sex is complex. It is more than just a physical act. God intended that it unite the souls and bodies of two people. The bonds remaining from sex outside of marriage leave scars and cause future intimacy problems. Wilson was healed of these scars and shares the steps she took to allowed God to it.
If you love your husband but you don't want to make love with him, this book is for you. There is healing available. God wants to heal your marriage.
This book is written for women but husbands can benefit from reading it too. The husband can help his wife feel safe and loved as she is healed and opens up to greater intimacy.
This book was provided for review by the WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group.