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Kiss and Run: The Single, Picky, and Indecisive Girl's Guide to Overcoming Fear of Commitment

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As an older "singleton" who is now contemplating settling down with my serious other, I have been lately struck by intense anxiety and inability to make a decision about the future. I ran, not walked, to get this book when I heard about it. I found it very well-written and even ocassionally funny. It is really helpful to know that I am not alone in finding it hard to make a commitment, no matter how great my guy is and I thought the practical suggestions in the last chapter were very useful. I definitely recommend this book!

This is a great one Elina, it hit the nail on the head in many areas for me. Being able to put into words what I was feeling, I never thought that it was possible, I always thought it was the man who had committment phobia, who would've guessed it could be the woman. That was never discussed before Thanks a lot for your help!!!! Keep up the good work

The information is very applicable to young people searching for answers regarding thier love life. I would recommend this book to many of my friends.

This is the most amazing book. I swear to God I thought there was something so very, very wrong with me until I read this book. NO ONE talks about female commitmentphobia--I think maybe they just label it an anxiety disorder or something. I think many women don't recognize they ARE commitmentphobes and that might be one of the reasons it's so often labeled a male phenomenon. However, if your relationships are CONSTANTLY not working out, you see a pattern in your relationships or lack thereof, or relationships give you insane anxiety, you might want to give this book a shot.

This book gave me hope and made me feel not only normal, but not alone. The book is sprinkled with real life women "confessing" about their relationships and commitmentphobia and it was such a relief just to see some of these women's thoughts in print. So many parts of it were like reading my own thoughts and the most helpful part was actually when the author told people what NOT to say to a commitmentphobe--people have been saying this stuff to me forever and it always sets me off on another anxiety ridden tangent. Nice to know these common sayings/pieces of advice are not always to be taken as gospel truth. Now I know where my commitmentphobia most likely comes from, what behaviors I have that don't get me what I want and what I can do about them.

I am not exaggerating when I tell you what a miracle reading your book was for me. It is somewhat disappointing to hear that commitment phobia will most likely never be something I'll be entirely rid of, i.e., it might rear its ugly head at any time, but at least this will make it easier not to fight it so much when it does. This book has helped me realize how often I self-sabotage because of my fear of commitment and now that I feel like I'm not a completely crazy, I can get to work on some of her suggestions.

I'd give this book to half my female friends, but I think some of them are in denial!

I really enjoyed this book and it helped me immensely. My commitment phobia hasn't gone away completely, of course, but I don't feel so alone anymore AND I know that a lot of my thoughts spring from my phobia. Furman devotes each chapter to a different type of commitment phobe and I didn't find my type until the very last chapter, so I felt a little bored through the other chapters. But once I read the "long distance runner" chapter, I felt like someone had watched me and written about me. The points she makes and the advice she doles out in that chapter and the final chapter were all very helpful.

Perhaps my favorite thing about the book, though, was when Furman debunked several relationship myths, like, "you just know" when you meet the right one, when, really, that's just revisionist history. Great stuff. Definitely check it out if you find yourself sabotaging amazing relationships.

Nothing new. Not worth the time to read nor the money to purchase. Keep looking if you're looking for answers or good advice.

I was disappointed in this book. I have been buying and reading self help books like crazy lately. Some are great at giving me "aha" moments. Not this one. Her test questions are silly---she tries to hard to be entertainng. I want insite not entertainment. I did not learn much from this book.

This was one of the best books I've purchased. I caught myself picking apart the man in my life because I was scared of commitment, and this really helped me gain insight. I'm still a little overly-cautious, but much more aware of my motives and reasoning. I've passed this book along to my single girlfriend that always picks "unavailable" men, with hopes she may see her own apprehensions and ways to overcome them.

I loved this book and thought it would be a great gift for my girlfriends that want to start a light hearted book club!

Great book, fun to read, funny at times. It offers insight and good advice for healthy dating. However, the book also requires some personal reflection, which is necessary, to avoid remaking mistakes of the past. I enjoyed this read.