Diane Farr—Numb3rs star, Loveline veteran, and FunnyorDie.com contributor—always took for granted that she could love anybody she chose. But when she, a white woman, fell in love with a Korean-American man, she quickly learned a tough lesson: When it comes to navigating the landscape of interracial love in America today . . . you’re going to step on some landmines. At turns introspective and outrageous, Kissing Outside the Lines is Farr’s unapologetic—often hilarious—look at the complexities of interracial/ethnic/religious/what-have-you love, told through the lens of her own experience of dating, marrying, and creating a family with someone from a race and culture different from her own. Along the way, she exposes the many ways in which prejudice rears its ugly head—whether subtly or overtly—when you dare to love “outside the lines,” and she shares the stories of other multiracial couples from different corners of the U.S. who have made a similar leap. With sharp wit and deft humor, Farr confronts the fears and reservations that come with loving outside of one’s race, and she emerges with a powerful message: Love is love and family is family—no matter what it looks like from the outside.
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“As a journalist I found the reach of Diane's book inspiring and important, but as a wife to someone of a different ethnic background—it was like therapy with laughter. A must-read for all Americans.”
—Lisa Ling, Oprah correspondent and author of Somewhere Inside
“Just because genetic admixture enhances the health of a population doesn't mean it is easy for the human beings who choose to build mixed families to create a sane healthy environment for the children of these unions who themselves must venture in to a world colored by the ancient cultural values of their parents' families and the prejudices of the present day. Diane Farr creates a smart, fun but unblemished look at this reality from the perspective of a woman who has been one of these courageous souls and lives this challenge daily.”
—Dr. Drew Pinsky, MD, Celebrity Rehab
“Farr has three kids and still found time to write a pee-yourself funny examination of inter-racial love. I hate her.”
—Julie Bowen, actress, Modern Family
—Lisa Ling, Oprah correspondent and author of Somewhere Inside
“Just because genetic admixture enhances the health of a population doesn't mean it is easy for the human beings who choose to build mixed families to create a sane healthy environment for the children of these unions who themselves must venture in to a world colored by the ancient cultural values of their parents' families and the prejudices of the present day. Diane Farr creates a smart, fun but unblemished look at this reality from the perspective of a woman who has been one of these courageous souls and lives this challenge daily.”
—Dr. Drew Pinsky, MD, Celebrity Rehab
“Farr has three kids and still found time to write a pee-yourself funny examination of inter-racial love. I hate her.”
—Julie Bowen, actress, Modern Family
About the Author
Diane Farr is a television actress, TV and magazine writer, nationally syndicated columnist, and the author of The Girl Code. She is the female lead on CBS’s most-watched Friday night drama, Numb3rs, starred on the critically acclaimed FX series Rescue Me, and played a supporting role on Showtime's Californication in its third season; and she contributes to Glamour, Esquire, GQ, Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, Jane, Parents, Los Angeles, Gotham, Self, and O magazine.
Farr lives in Los Angeles, CA with her husband and three children.
Farr lives in Los Angeles, CA with her husband and three children.
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12 of 12 people found the following review helpful
By Bookbin
Format:Hardcover
When it comes to love within our families we are unafraid to say who's right and who isn't. And though often those determinations are cloaked in the pretense of other concerns, under close scrutiny we know them for what they are - prejudice.
That's why this is such a needed book; a candid exploration of multi-ethnic/racial/religious/what-have-you love from an author who has fought her way from one side of the debate to the other. Though inter-racial love is hardly a novel phenomenon, the complexities that arise through cultural differences over the full course of a relationship have never been examined with as much detail or entertainment as they are here. As Farr stumbles her way through love, marriage, and childrearing she consults a wide spectrum of bi-racial/ethnic/religious couples and children to help inform and inspire her decisions. Those stories are woven into her own narrative such that by the end of the book, one husband and three children later, we have not only the personal story of an American woman, but also the story of America itself in the 21st century.
A truly eye opening and still much needed discussion on the state of race relations. But also hilarious!
That's why this is such a needed book; a candid exploration of multi-ethnic/racial/religious/what-have-you love from an author who has fought her way from one side of the debate to the other. Though inter-racial love is hardly a novel phenomenon, the complexities that arise through cultural differences over the full course of a relationship have never been examined with as much detail or entertainment as they are here. As Farr stumbles her way through love, marriage, and childrearing she consults a wide spectrum of bi-racial/ethnic/religious couples and children to help inform and inspire her decisions. Those stories are woven into her own narrative such that by the end of the book, one husband and three children later, we have not only the personal story of an American woman, but also the story of America itself in the 21st century.
A truly eye opening and still much needed discussion on the state of race relations. But also hilarious!
11 of 11 people found the following review helpful
By Aries4
Format:Hardcover|Amazon Verified Purchase
As a white Hispanic married to a Korean-American (born in the US to Korean parents), I related with a lot of the fears and concerns expressed by Farr. I feel lucky that my husband's family and my own never expressed (overtly or not) any concerns about our relationship-in fact, they were extremely happy for us. But we still get the odd look/stare when we are out and about, or when strangers see our beautiful mixed son, who happens to look more like his father, and wonder if I am the nanny (and this is in the DC area!). It was so amazing to hear about other couples whose courage, love and determination were what pulled them through in crazy times. Plus her sarcastic and hilarious tone made this book so easy to read, I had to recommend it to my friends. I look forward to her next book.
9 of 9 people found the following review helpful
By aishebahl
Format:Hardcover
Throughout my fun read I was either deeply thinking or chuckling my ass off.
There is no middle ground here.
Hilarious as it is profound, this book hit me on the head.
There is no middle ground here.
Hilarious as it is profound, this book hit me on the head.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
4.0 out of 5 stars
Insightful, Human, and funny
I read this book chiefly because I greatly appreciated the skill Diane Farr showed in creating the character Megan Reeves for Numb3rs which I started watching in its entirety... Read more
Published 1 month ago by Querious George
5.0 out of 5 stars
Lovely Book
I really enjoyed reading the book and felt connected to the story. It was interesting to see how the characters dealt with and overcame the adversity of race issues. Read more
Published 3 months ago by MB
5.0 out of 5 stars
Why Can't We All Just Get Along?
Ms. Farr's book is a quick read and discusses race in a way rarely found. Her personal experience as an Italian/Irish American married to a Korean American is just one part of the... Read more
Published 4 months ago by FLRL
4.0 out of 5 stars
A Fast Read
This is a really excellent quick read for those in interracial relationships. Witty, funny and self-effacing. Read more
Published 10 months ago by Thomas Kuo
5.0 out of 5 stars
Interesting, Funny, and Well-Written - The Total Package
Even though I'm not currently in an interracial relationship, this book was so well-written and interesting that I couldn't put it down. Read more
Published 14 months ago by L. Hodgkinson
4.0 out of 5 stars
very good
the author is not only pretty, she also is very smart. i am a korean married to an American man and i could not have done a better job describing my own culture. Read more
Published 15 months ago by skinny sam
5.0 out of 5 stars
Excellent, but minor misunderstanding
I picked up this book and finished in a couple of hours. Funny and educational. I highly recommend this book just to understand what the mixed-culture family means in America. Read more
Published 15 months ago by SCHUNG
5.0 out of 5 stars
Funny!
So far so good! I am in an interracial relationship and I love reading about this sort of thing and hearing other folk's experience. Cannot wait to finish it!
Published 20 months ago by Robin M Thomas
5.0 out of 5 stars
Loved Loved Loved
For someone in an interracial relationship, this book was insightful, funny and informative. I related to not only the different couple stories, and how their families reacted to... Read more
Published 21 months ago by Stephani Allen
5.0 out of 5 stars
Just a wonderful book
Just a wonderful, honest book for the ages. I really like her way of writing and how honest she is with everything. It really shows there could be a happy ending to all of this. Read more
Published 22 months ago by WC
