About the Author
Cassandra Dixon is a New York State Certified Social Worker. She earned her undergraduate degree at Cornell University and later continued her studies at Columbia University to earn a graduate degree in Social Work. She has worked extensively with youth on Long Island and in New York City. This is her first publication.
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Play #1 - My love is the sh**.
The key to mastering the game is the belief that this statement is actually true. Just think, how often have we been angry with our partners for thinking that they are "God's Gift"? Mind you, don't front, sometimes we believe it too, if our actions are any indication of our beliefs. If we believe that our love and our "stuff" are commodities, we are less inclined to give it up to just anybody. Let's face it, some people we get involved with are not men we see as part of our future. After all, some people are for having fun, others for dating and still others for long term commitment. Men think this way. It is okay for us to think this way too. When we adopt this frame of mind, we are less inclined to spend a lot of time dealing with heartache, versus living and enjoying life.
I have had the nerve before to tell someone that they will never forget me or be able to get me out of their system after they have been involved with me. The funny part is that I believed it when I said it. I have since loss regular contact with this person, but he does tell me that I am on his mind quite often. Although he is now in a long-term relationship, he feels that we have some unfinished business to attend to since our relationship was never consummated. See, ladies, everyone will not run if they are not able to hit it. They will remember you and think of you for years to come.
Likewise, I have a girlfriend who was told by her ex that he is in her system, has become a part of her. While this line seems corny as hell, for some reason, she can't deny it. No matter how many other men she gets involved with, she can't help but compare them to him. While we hate this practice with the men that we date, we can't help but be flattered when they compare the next female to us.
I believe that this principle is a matter of positive thinking. If you believe that your stuff is gold, you treat it as such and demand that others do the same. If they want it, they know that they must step to you correctly or be dissed. Anyone would be willing to have a part, if not the whole, of someone who is that bad. The key to mastering this is believing it yourself. I don't mean that you proclaim yourself as having the ill na na, but recognize the power that your feminine sexuality has and use it to your advantage without allowing yourself to be used up and disrespected.