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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 243 pages
  • Publisher: Gefen Publishing House; First Edition edition (May 1, 2014)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 9652296260
  • ISBN-13: 978-9652296269
  • Product Dimensions: 1 x 5.8 x 8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 14.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (17 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #393,937 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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The always provocative and insightful Rabbi Shmuley argues convincingly that men need to lust for, not just love their women. This book will restore lost passion to your relationship. --Mehmet Oz, MD, Professor and Vice Chair, Surgery, NYP/Columbia Hospital; host, The Dr. Oz Show

Only Rabbi Shmuley is brave enough to say aloud what we women in long-term relationships secretly yearn for the most: to be desired. Kosher Lust is a how-to marriage saver, a start-tonight passion igniter, replete with Shmuley s trademark candor, spiritual wisdom and humor. A must-read. --Lisa Bloom, New York Times bestselling author of Think and Swagger

Who better than an orthodox rabbi to tell you that lust is not only good, it s sanctioned by the Bible. That s right: it s kosher. Shmuley Boteach can add another notch to his calling card. He is not only the love rabbi, he is the lust rabbi now, as well. --Alan Colmes, Fox News Radio

The great virtue of Kosher Lust is that it will push readers to re-evaluate their relationships in a constructive way, allowing couples to explore the positive role lust can play in their lives. It is Rabbi Shmuley at his best! --by JOEL B. POLLAK, breitbart.com

About the Author

Shmuley Boteach is one of the worlds leading relationship experts and values and spirituality exponents. He is the author of twenty-six books, which have been translated into eighteen languages, and his columns, TV, and radio appearances are regular staples in media all over the world. Rabbi Shmuley has debated and discussed Jesus and Christianity with leading Christian scholars for more than twenty years, and his columns on Judaism and Christianity have appeared in the Wall St. Journal, Jerusalem Post, Huffington Post, Washington Post, London Times, Guardian, and many other leading publications. Rabbi Shmuley was labeled a cultural phenomenon and the most famous rabbi in America by Newsweek magazine, and is regularly listed as one of the ten most influential rabbis in the United States. Rabbi Shmuley lives in Englewood, NJ, with his Australian wife Debbie. They have nine children. Follow him on Twitter @RabbiShmuley.

More About the Author

Rabbi Shmuley Boteach is one of the world's leading relationship experts and spiritual authorities. His twenty-one books have been bestsellers in seventeen languages, and his award winning syndicated column is read by a global audience of millions. He is the host of TLC's award-winning Shalom in the Home and was Oprah Winfrey's love, marriage, and parenting expert on Oprah and Friends. He served for eleven years as rabbi at Oxford University, where he built the Oxford L'Chaim Society into the University's second largest student organization. Today, Newsweek calls him the most famous rabbi in America. The winner of the highly prestigious London Times Preacher of the Year award, Rabbi Shmuley is also the recipient of the National Fatherhood Award and the American Jewish Press Association's Highest Award for Excellence in Commentary. He lives in New Jersey with his wife, Debbie, and their nine children.

Customer Reviews

One of the best relationship books I've read.
chris meehan
The principal reason for the breakdown of marriages, he writes, is that they are built “not on lust but on love.” Nothing could be further from the truth.
Mordechai Bulua
Now- it does seem he's aiming this mostly at Orthodox Jews, which I am not.
Cissa

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14 of 15 people found the following review helpful By Amazon Customer on May 14, 2014
Format: Hardcover
“Kosher Lust”, a controversial title to say the least. Not one you expect from a “real” Jewish orthodox seriously religious rabbi. Yet, while Rabbi Boteach has become controversial specifically for publishing such titles and showing up in the mass media, he not only is a real orthodox rabbi, he is a real chassidic rabbi.

As for the controversial title, he’s clearly trying to reach a wide audience and using the shock value to do so. It’s certainly not a traditional technique, but it worked well enough that the book caught attention and we made a purchase.

This book is perfectly acceptable for a modest and religious or secular audience, presenting it’s ideas in a clean and modest way, and has a message of equal value for religious and secular readers. People of all or no religious faith can benefit.

The author starts with a startling and frightening premise… Houston, we have a problem with marriage:

- Divorce rates have been at 50% for 50 years!
- Married couples are now less that 45% of all households!
- There are more help books for marriage, marriage advice TV shows, marriage therapy, etc, available now than any time in history… yet marriage isn't working to the point that marital success is now a minority situation.
- The average duration of a marriage today is 8 years!
- 53% of children are now born to unmarried parents (averaged across all communities)!

These are all US statistics. In many other places the statistics are WORSE! In Norway and Finland, it’s 30% worse. In some South American countries, it’s 50% worse!

As the author says, it seems the only people who want to get married nowadays are same-gender oriented!
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By chris meehan on July 1, 2014
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One of the best relationship books I've read. No fluffy stuff Completely different way to look at relationships. Almost impossible to do all of it, but it's definitely a wake up call. He is an incredibly deep and brilliant thinker. I'm a new fan . I've loan the book and she loaned ir someone else, and then someone else. I cant get it back!!
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5 of 7 people found the following review helpful By jhubby on July 8, 2014
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I found this book disappointing in the way that only books with great and exciting beginnings can be. In the first half of the book, Shmuley Boteach makes and demonstrates the valid and excellent point that lust is required to sustain a marriage, and drive out the cozy and numbing familiarity -- not love. He promises that later, he will show how to return the lust to a relationship, despite the familiarity that already exists.

He devotes an inordinate number of pages to describing the transcendental orgasm, a return to Adam and Eve, a return to Eden, a sublime unification of souls and body and spirit and and .... and pretty much describes something that is so far out of (what I am guessing is) human experience, that it is a bit hard to relate to. So, on to the secret formula for lust.

There isn't really one. After a whole book, Shmuley Boteach essentially tells you two things: (1) the monthly period of separation mandated by Jewish law -- a topic and theme that he has already capitalized on in great length in Kosher Sex and Kosher Adultery -- is vital; and (2) that one shouldn't cheat on one's spouse -- not even in one's thoughts -- but rather one should reserve all of one's erotic energy for one's spouse. Isn't that simply a reformulation of the problem? I WANT to lust after my spouse. I WANT to palpably desire my spouse. But after having been married for two decades, raised children together, bought houses, owned cars and paid bills, HOW do I reintroduce that lust and desire? Is the answer simply through a monthly separation period and firm anti-adultery controls on my brain? Then I want a refund.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Rico on July 22, 2014
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Very insightful in explaining what lust is all about. What it is, where it comes from, how it's formed, what are it's parts. I like how Boteach differentiates between love and lust, and goes on to explain the need and place for lust within a relationship. I might not fully agree with his argument about the prominent place lust holds but I do appreciate the painstaking detail with which he approaches the subject of lust.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Agent on August 20, 2014
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Surely, Marcel Proust would again quote, "The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new lands, but in seeing with new eyes". I feel an immense gratitude towards our author and innovative teacher of peace for opening up his well of spring for all the world to access.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Harriet on July 31, 2014
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This should be required reading for every married person, and equally required for those contemplating marriage.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By T. Nonamaker on September 12, 2014
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Absolutely love this book! Spoke to my heart and brought more inspiration and love into our relationship.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By P. Morgan on September 20, 2014
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I think that every couple should read this book!
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