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Lady in Waiting: Becoming God's Best While Waiting for Mr. Right, Expanded Edition

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It has been asked before why a male would read such a book as LADY IN WAITING. My answer to the question is that I am sincerely interested in how the female mind works and what women expect out of a relationship. Of course, I'm often curious as to how correct books like this are concerning what men are really like (or should be like). I've read several books like this and I must say that so far LADY IN WAITING is the best.To begin with the book has a Biblical core, it's written with the Book of Ruth as it's foundation. Many books like this don't have such an indebth Biblical basis. Granted there are a few things one could argue about (I think Ruth's uncovering Boaz's feet wasn't an act of purity, but was actually quite radical and scandlous), but overall the authors are right on the money.Secondly, the book gives a positive view of men and is usually correct about the role of a man in life.Finally, this book doesn't offer false hope. Many books similar to LADY IN WAITING promise that if a women follows such and such steps, she will eventually catch her man. LADY IN WAITING offers no such promises. It is implicit in reminding the reader that only in God can a women be completely made whole, not in a husband and clearly illustrates that not all women will are meant to be married. An enjoyable and informative read, one that females will probably get even more out of than a young bachelor like myself.

I first read this book when my husband and I were still in a dating relationship, before our marriage. The teachings in this book helped me to keep my focus on the most important relationship in my life--my relationship with Jesus. We women can have a tendency to allow our fellowship with the Lord to lapse when we meet a special man and the Lord begins to take second place in our lives. This book was a powerful reminder to me that even AFTER you meet Mr. Right, it's my relationship with my Lord that must still take precedence. This book helped me to keep my mind, heart, AND body pure for my husband-to-be. Now that I've been married five years, the lessons learned from Debby and Jackie are still applicable today. I have a wonderful husband (a real Boaz!) but even a great marriage has growing pains. When I find myself in times of discouragement or dissatisfaction in my marital relationship, I remember that it's not my husband's job to fulfill me, it's the Lord's job. It never fails that when I do a spiritual checkup, I discover that it's really my relationship with Jesus that needs the tune up and when I start giving Jesus my devotion once again, my discouragement always disappears, confirming what Debby and Jackie are teaching with this book--only Jesus can make us whole. If more women realized this principle, there might be fewer divorces among God's people.

For any woman searching for Mr. Right this book is a must. This book encourages the reader to give up their search for the man of their dreams and begin looking to God to fill the void in their lives. It isn't until we as women realize that only God can fill our deepest longing that we are truly able to find happiness when God brings "His Best" into our lives. Will you trust God to provide for you the joy that only He can give? The authors of the book set great boundaries for starting a relationship and going through the stages until marriage. Letting him pursue you is a big encouragement in this book. The loving advice given in this book will truly change the way you look at dating relationships. Instead of frantically searching for "the man" to marry, allow yourself to wait on God. He will prove faithful! Will you trust your creator and lover of your soul to provide for this desire of your heart? If it is God's will for you to marry, He has someone very special in mind. Don't settle for second best. God wants you to find joy and fulfillment in your relationships. This book tells you how!

I found this book while exploring the Amazon for books on Christian dating. I've already read Joshua Harris' books (I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Boy Meets Girl), When God Writes Your Love Story (Eric & Leslie Ludy), I Gave Dating a Chance, Getting Ready for the Guy/Girl Thing, etc. And all of these are very good books, but most are not on "my level." The first 4 seemed to be written for those at the "marrying age", and being 16 I do not feel I am qualified to be at that stage in life. The last one (I believe) is written for the pre-teen; the girl/boy who hasn't the slightest clue how to even speak to a member of the opposite gender.

But Lady in Waiting is different. Debbie & Jackie address the female crowd of singles; those who are not in a dating relationship. Many times reading even a Christian book on dating can get you down. I used to think & pray, "I agree with everything they're saying. When's it my turn, Lord? Why am I not in a relationship with a guy now? Where is Mr. Right?" But Lady in Waiting has been teaching me about Ruth. How she used her free time as a widow for God's glory; not wallowing in her own self pity.

I have a new resolve to become the lady God wants me to be. After all, if I want God to send me a man after His own heart who loves me as I am, I need to become someone worthy of such devotion.

So, if you're sick of waiting, read Lady in Waiting.

I read Lady in Waiting several years ago while still in my early teens. I have refered back to it many times since then trying to grow my relationship with the Lord while I wait on my future husband. I agree that our ultimate goal is to be satisfied completely with Christ and His cross, but that is something we as humans won't be able to completely attain until we are in Heaven with Christ. Strive for contentedness yes, and find your significance in Him, but it's ok to long for a husband. Don't dwell on it, but to deny and ignore the longings of your heart to me is almost like denying and ingnoring the One who placed them there in the first place.

In short, this is a great read and a great example of how to mold your life after the One who gave you life. Strive for holiness, but rely on the One who is holy to make you holy, and wait on His timing for your future husband, He will send him when you both are ready.

"Lady in Waiting," a remarkable book with powerful insights will touch every woman's heart. Debby Jones and Jackie Kendall created a masterpiece that focuses on putting God first in one's life. "Lady in Waiting," designed for any age, accurately examines problems and concerns women in today's society face. Every woman rushes to get things done as quickly as possible. With "Lady in Waiting" one learns how to slow down, wait for God to answer prayers, and in return, be rewarded with a sense of pride. Patience, the most difficult quality to develop and apply in the fast-pace world of today, seems to be the primary focus of Jones and Kendall's book as well as lives. The authors reveal that when women have patience when dealing with challenges in life; they get more accomplished. It captivates women moving them to their inner cores. The strong Christian values and beliefs are evident throughout the book as the women praise and glorify God. The authors wrote "Lady in Waiting" from a second person point of view. The point of view, containing many rhetorical questions, makes women stop and realize their priorities in life. Many spiritual books have been written which also agree that patience, the key to life's happpiness, must be found in every relationship. "Lady in Waiting" stands out from other similar novels, however, due to the authors' decision to direct the book primarily to women. Although men and women are completely different in expressing emotion, every woman faces the same emotional drama in life. "Lady in Waiting" has influenced a variety of people including pastors, youth leaders, single and married women, high school and college women, and career women. The amazing impact of this magnificent book will last forever in a woman's heart. As Jones and Kendall honestly and accurately evaluate the struggles women face in the 90's; they soothe the soul with God's miraculous word. The Bible-the women's only source of data-displays biblical truths. Although the women only use one key source, the Bible, and many quote, thoughts, stories, and inserts of other women; the book helps develop the reader into an independent, secure woman of God. The authors answer all of women's typical questions and concerns about issues such as, reckless abondonment, diligence, faith, virtue, devotion, purity, security, contentment, conviction, and most importantly, patience. The authors style of simplicity and the profound literary tactic of emotionally involving the reader, are incredible. The wonderfully written passages of elegance leave no room for argument, as they accurately secure women in the awesome power of God. The authors creatively wrote the book clearly in order to influence all women. Personally, I agree with Jones and Kendall about the importance of remebering God is the only one who can give us total security. Women depend on husbands and fathers as their strong-hold in life, but the only one who is always there for us to be our true strength is God. I have strong beliefs and morals in life as I walk with God daily. The influence of the authors values persuade me to stay true to myself and not waver in my beliefs, but influence others as I have been influenced. "Lady in Waiting" is definitely the best book I have ever read. The authors' extraordinary book actually had the strength to emotionally move me and make me feel replenished after reading this delightful book. I feel I have learned more about the wonders of God and His plan for me in developing my love relationships. I highly recommend this wonderous book to all women who want to find God's perspective on life.

I was introduced to Lady in Waiting a few years back and I was intrigued by the idea of "reckless abandoning to Jesus" because it focused on ways a woman can become better and more appealing based on how she relates to God. However, under careful reading I noticed that the book is very legalistic in how women are to approach their relationship to God. The book falsely conveys Ruth as being rewarded and approved by God only for performing ideal tasks and behaviors. Lady in Waiting promotes a guilt-driven works oriented standard to live up to in order to gain God's acceptance and maybe His reward (i.e. a husband) if He chooses to. The book is just not biblical based because many of the scriptures taken from Ruth(the book from the Bible)are wrong, twisted or out of context to fit the authors own ideas and objectives. It also seems like the authors neglect to reveal how through relationships good or bad, God is still able to move. Also that even if we fulfill this formula by becoming... (Lady of Purity, Faith) we may still not be liked, desired, or acceptable to people even if we are them "perfectly". We can not make ourselves holy only God can that is the purpose of having a relationship with Him through Jesus Christ. Also they try to subtly endorse the notion that Jesus can replace a woman's natural desire to be with a man. This may work briefly, but in the long run if it was truly the case, go back to Genesis and see that God Himself when He was with Adam saw it's not good for man to be alone and that's why He created a helpmeet. God never promotes the idea of Him being our partner until someone comes along to "take His place". I think that idea is diluted and pathetic. We are to worship God in truth and spirit. Lastly, the book weakly carries out its points and overly spiritualize concepts to the point of confusion.

This book has made an absolutely amazing impact on my life. As a Christian single woman facing the pressures of society, I began to buy into the notion that finding a husband would make my life complete. Debby Jones and Jackie Kendall have written a book that is easy to understand, with many applicable Scripture references and personal antecdotes. After completing a study of this book, I have come to realize only God can complete my life and that singleness is a blessing, not a curse!

A friend gave me this book as a gift, as she continued to watch me struggle bouncing from relationship to relationship and freely giving myself when I shouldn't. This small 181 page book, allowed me to search into my soul & find what God was looking for: the true me...a Lady in Waiting.
It's been five years since I was given this book, and I am now happily married and I have found my prince in shining armor. I gave my alabaster box to the Lord and he gave me the gift of true love. Praise God!

This is a MUST read for all young women!!

A good book for single women of any age. I read it when I was 19 and still find it applicable today. For any woman feeling down that there is no man in her life, and most women can admit to that without shame, these words are refreshing and uplifting. They highlight the joys of singleness--yes there are joys! This book helped me realize that, as well as reclaim my independence and my value as a single women. There are few things God can use as much as a willing, single woman. Read it!