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Read either this or "Love and Respect", January 18, 2010
This review is from: The Language of Love and Respect: Cracking the Communication Code with Your Mate (Paperback)
Read this book if you haven't already read "Love and Respect." Or read this book if you have read "Love and Respect", but still don't "get" it.
Otherwise, skip this one, and keep practicing the Love and Respect principles you've already learned. The principles are fantastic and biblical and effective.
This book is helpful to teach you those principles, but it is very repetitive of the original material in "Love and Respect." However, Eggerichs does elaborate in this book with real-life testimonies from those who are working this out.
I recommend picking just one of the two books to read, but not necessarily both. Unless you're clueless about how relationships work between men and women. Then get them both.
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16 of 16 people found the following review helpful:
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Holy Grail for Marriages!, January 5, 2010
This review is from: The Language of Love and Respect: Cracking the Communication Code with Your Mate (Paperback)
Never fear, Dr. Eggerichs second book The Language of Love and Respect is a perfect mix of make-you-think realizations and real-life applications. Now, I must admit, I didn't read his first book, titled Love & Respect, so I was worried that I be a little lost. However, the beginning of the book dedicates itself to summarizing the book's key elements in a suffice manner. Basically, men and women speak different languages: men in respect, women in love. Men see hurts as disrespectful, women see them as unloving. Then you delve into the meat of the book, the how-tos. These include tangible points that I feel you can mold to fit your own marriage.
From avoiding the "crazy cycle" to talking to your spouse in the "Jesus way" I feel like this book is jam packed with the tools to mend any marriage, in any stage. I also think his emphasis on unconditional love in a marriage really hits on why communication is so important.
Dr. Eggerichs contribution to couples everywhere is this little treasure. Pick it up for a little marriage helper in 2010!
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12 of 12 people found the following review helpful:
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The Language of Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, January 25, 2010
This review is from: The Language of Love and Respect: Cracking the Communication Code with Your Mate (Paperback)
I was really excited to see this book on my list of books to review. I have been having a hard time communicating with my husband and needed some help. Learning how each of us loves was just what I needed. I found that the way that he shows me loves motivates me to show him love and the cycle continues but when I don't feel loved I stop that circle and it can take days to get back on track. This book gave me some wonderful things to help me and him work through this cycle quicker.
The energizing cycle is one example Dr. Eggerich gave as a visual to work through this cycle. He used the acronym COUPLE as a way to remember how to get through the steps(womens view)
C-Closeness . I want to be close to my husband it makes me feel secure
O-Openness I want to talk not just short answers open up to me
U-Understanding. Don't try to fix me just understand what I am going through
P-Peacemaking. Tell me your sorry.
L-Loyalty. Remind me that you love me. That I am your one and only
E-Esteem. Honor and cherish me
MENS view
CHAIRS
C-Conquest. Recognize and thank him for his desire to work
H-. Hierarchy. Thank him for his motivation to protect and provide for me
A-Authority Acknowledge his desire to lead, he is the head of the household
I-Insight. Listen appreciatively to his ideas and advice ---this one was hard for me to learn
R-Relationship Value his desire for you to be his friend and stand shoulder to shoulder to him
S Sexuality respond to his need for you sexually
I found that when I started to understand him I was able to love him and by doing this he was able to love me. It did take a while but this book works.
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