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The Language of Tears

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It gives you a new perspective about crying. About all the different types of tears there are, of when and why we cry. The emotions that crying evoque. How we view tears and what we make out of them depending on the circumstances. But most important, it gives you a good idea of how to "read" tears, therefore you learn the language of tears.

There are 10 total chapters to this book, but only one chapter that has any potential at all to "change your life" as the author promises will happen to you once you finish his book or, at least, his introduction.

That one chapter is Chapter 8, "Crying and Personal Transformation." In it the author advises the reader to stay with the feelings that evoked the tears, to make new connections to them, and to deepen the effects of what you lived through.

All the other chapters are fact-driven bits of trivia, written like an almanac or database on the subject of tears, none of which are engaging for any length of time, let alone helpful to the promise of changing your life. Most pervasive were the author's observations on fake tears and on tears for the purpose of manipulating others.

To get to the really deep meaning of tears, you need only read Chapter 8.

In this intriguing study, bestselling author Jeffrey Kottler provides insightful and surprising answers to questions such as: Why do we cry? How are tears interpreted in different cultures? When is crying therapeutic and when does it become self-destructive? This text challenges conventional attitudes toward tears and shows how valuable they can be.

This brings out my feelings that I have tried to express many years