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Included in Forbes “Eight Noteworthy Books of 2014” list.

“One of the Best Leadership Books of the Year” — Inc.

“Friedman sets out tests and suggestions for developing skills for integrating work and the rest of life…the message…is worth exploring." — Financial Times

“In 2008, I chose Stewart Friedman’s Total Leadership as the top book in the Personal Development category of our annual business book awards… Friedman [now] builds on his previous work by presenting the stories of six well-known personalities who exemplify the well-integrated life… Then, in the second half of the book, which acts as a workbook complete with exercises, uses their successes and struggles, as points of reference as he teaches us how to develop the necessary skills.” — Jack Covert, 800 CEO READ

“Friedman’s accessible book is a significant entry in the work/life balance category.” — Publishers Weekly

“Recommended Reading for Creative Leaders" — FORBES.com

“In his new book Leading the Life You Want: Skills for Integrating Work and Life, [Friedman] explores the idea that truly winning people over “starts with knowing what you care about, and then being able to express that in ways other people can relate to…’” — Laura Vanderkam, Fast Company

“Friedman gives you tools to help you craft your own approach… a great starting point to learn about leading the life you want.” — Stephanie Denning, FORBES

“In Leading the Life You Want, Stewart Friedman masterfully weaves together six life narratives to show exactly how any of us can live a more richly integrated, meaningful and satisfying life with others.” — Kare Anderson, The Huffington Post

“In his newest book, Leading the Life You Want, Friedman explores the skills you need to be a leader, how to develop them, and how to devote your life to your work without losing everything that's important to you.” — Will Yakowicz, Inc.

"According to this Wharton processor, the 'work/life balance' model is unrealistic. Rather than the two jostling for primacy, he advocates integrating work, home, community and private self." — Qantas - The Australia Way

"[Friedman's] conceptual framework provides a useful way of looking at the work-life issue. It holds out the hope that we don't have to make trade-offs between different parts of our lives; we can combine them." — Coaching Today (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy)

“It seems that everyone has an opinion on work/life balance these days, but Stewart D. Friedman’s Leading the Life You Want isn’t necessarily one of them. Well, it is, but it’s also a lot more.” — Consulting Magazine

“In Leading the Life You Want, [Friedman] profiles top leaders—from Sheryl Sandberg to Michelle Obama, and Bruce Springsteen to former Bain & Co. CEO Tom Tierney—and tells their stories, explaining how their choices enable them to thrive in multiple realms of their lives.” — Dorie Clark, Forbes

“Wharton professor Friedman, building on his excellent study, Total Leadership, uses examples ranging from Sheryl Sandberg to Bruce Springsteen to move from familiar calls to balance competing work and life commitments toward taking steps, instead, to integrate our passions and values across the domains of work, home, community, and the private self." — David Slocum, Berlin School of Creative Leadership

Leading the Life You Want is an action-oriented book...Whether or not you are a Springsteen fan…the way it’s written makes it a good resource that you can turn to time and again for inspiration when you find yourself stuck. Whatever your profession may be, keep a copy of Leading the Life You Want on your office desk or your bedside table." — Legends of Springsteen (legendsofspringsteen.com)

“Stewart Friedman… says the whole work-life balance goal is faulty anyway. He cites Sandberg and Springsteen as great examples of people who have integrated their careers and lives in a way that complements both.” — Teresa Novellino, Upstart Business Journal

“… leadership work-life integration is a universal question. It is a universal challenge. Perhaps it is a universal opportunity. That is not just in the realm of business or just in the realm of a certain kind of a person, and I think these stories really bring that to life.” — Jeffrey Klein, Executive Director of the Wharton Leadership Program

“We can integrate our work and our lives. Friedman offers strategies to achieve what he calls “four-way wins” in four domains… A self-assessment identifies which areas need attention and the book offers practices for each.” — HR Professional

ADVANCE PRAISE for Leading the Life You Want:

Melinda Gates, Co-chair, Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation—
Leading the Life You Want illustrates through compelling biographies the skills you need to…lead a life that truly blends meaning and happiness.”

Tom Gardner, CEO, The Motley Fool—
“A much needed surge of inspiration.”

Billie Jean King, sports icon and social justice pioneer—
“Stew Friedman shows how to harness your passions to pursue four-way wins—in your work, home, community, and most importantly, for yourself.”

Neil Blumenthal, Co-founder and Co-CEO, Warby Parker—
“Stew Friedman makes the idea of finding harmony between work and life not only possible, but practicable. A brainy yet conversational guide that offers inspired, effective solutions.”

Herminia Ibarra, Professor, INSEAD; author, Act Like a Leader, Think Like a Leader
“Absolutely wonderful. Read it, and you will be inspired to live and work like never before.”

David Allen, author of the international bestseller, Getting Things Done
“This is a great manifesto for getting it done. Bravo!”

Anne-Marie Slaughter, President and CEO, New America Foundation—
“Stew Friedman stands out as one of the few male voices in the field. He understands better than anyone else how leadership, life, and business can fit together.”

About the Author

Since 1984 Stew Friedman has been teaching at Wharton, where he is the Practice Professor of Management. In 1991 he founded both the Wharton Leadership Program—initiating the required MBA and Undergraduate leadership courses—and the Wharton Work/Life Integration Project. Stew served in the mental health field before earning his PhD in organizational psychology from the University of Michigan. In 2001 he concluded a two-year assignment (while on leave from Wharton) at Ford, as the senior executive for leadership development. Stew is the author of Baby Bust: New Choices for Men and Women in Work and Family (Wharton Digital, 2008) and Total Leadership: Be a Better Leader, Have a Richer Life (Harvard Business Review Press, 2014). The Total Leadership program is used worldwide, including by the 57,000+ students in Stew’s recent Coursera MOOC. He advises many organizations, gives high-energy keynotes, and is an award-winning teacher. The New York Times cited the “rock star adoration” he inspires in students. He was chosen by Working Mother as one of America’s twenty-five most influential men to have made things better for working parents, and by Thinkers50 as one of the “world’s top fifty business thinkers.” The Families and Work Institute honored him with a Work Life Legacy Award. Follow him on Twitter @StewFriedman and tune in to his show, Work and Life, on Sirius XM 111, Business Radio Powered by the Wharton School, Tuesdays at 7:00 p.m. (EST).
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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 256 pages
  • Publisher: Harvard Business Review Press; 1 edition (October 7, 2014)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1422189414
  • ISBN-13: 978-1422189412
  • Product Dimensions: 0.8 x 5.8 x 9.2 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 14.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (35 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #58,080 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Since 1984 Stew Friedman has been at Wharton, where he is the Practice Professor of Management. In 1991 he founded both the Wharton Leadership Program - initiating the required MBA and Undergraduate leadership courses - and the Wharton Work/Life Integration Project.

Stew served for five years in the mental health field before earning his PhD in organizational psychology from the University of Michigan. In 2001, he concluded a two-year assignment (while on leave from Wharton) at Ford, as the senior executive for leadership development. In partnership with the CEO, he launched a portfolio of initiatives to transform Ford's culture; 2500+ managers per year participated. Following these efforts, a research group (ICEDR) hailed Ford as a "global benchmark" in leadership development.

Stew's most recent book is Baby Bust: New Choices for Men and Women in Work and Family (Wharton Digital Press, 2013). He is author of the award-winning bestseller, Total Leadership: Be a Better Leader, Have a Richer Life (Harvard Business, 2008). It describes his challenging Wharton course (originally produced at Ford), in which participants do real-world exercises to increase their leadership performance in all parts of their lives by better integrating them, while working in peer-to-peer coaching relationships and using an innovative social learning site. The Total Leadership program - which marries the work/life and leadership development fields - is now used by individuals and organizations worldwide, including the 57K+ students in Stew's recent Coursera course. The Total Leadership Web site was chosen as one of Forbes' best for women. Forthcoming in October 2014 is his next book, Leading the Life You Want: Skills for Integrating Work and Life (Harvard Business).

Stew's other publications include the widely-cited Harvard Business Review articles, "Work and life: the end of the zero-sum game" (1998) and "Be a better leader, have a richer life" (2008), and "The Happy Workaholic: a role model for employees" (Academy of Management Executive, 2003). His Work and Family - Allies or Enemies? (Oxford, 2000) was recognized by the Wall Street Journal as one of the field's best books. In Integrating Work and Life: The Wharton Resource Guide (Jossey-Bass, 1998), Stew edited the first collection of learning tools for building skills for integrating work and life.

He has advised many organizations, including the U.S. Departments of Labor and State, the U.N., and two White House administrations. He gives high-energy keynotes, conducts interactive workshops, and is an award-winning teacher. The New York Times cited the "rock star adoration" he inspires in students. He was chosen by Working Mother as one of America's 25 most influential men to have made things better for working parents, and by Thinkers50 as one of the "world's top 50 business thinkers." The Families and Work Institute honored him with a Work Life Legacy Award in 2013. Follow him on Twitter @StewFriedman. Tune in to his show, Work and Life, on Sirius XM 111, Business Radio Powered by the Wharton School, Tuesdays 7:00 PM EDT.

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11 of 12 people found the following review helpful By Kare Anderson VINE VOICE on October 10, 2014
Format: Hardcover
Frankly I found the exquisite mix of stories, lessons and suggested exercistes stunning and with such depth t hat I have a much underlined book now. Friedman shows how striving for work/life balance often leads to more stress, Instead, he offers an approach in which you can see how to make each part of your life add richness, meaning and even sometimes productivity to the other parts. He suggests that, “If you reduce psychological interference, you increase your ability to focus on what matters when it matters, and you minimize the destructive impact conflicts can cause between, for instance, work and family.”
A key to reducing that cognitive dissonance, according to Friedman, is to “know what matters (being real), help others (being whole) and challenges the status quo (being innovative).

In Leading the Life You Want, Friedman shares practical life-integrating exercises to hone your skills for being real, whole and innovative.

With each engrossing narrative, Friedman weaves in universal lessons from these remarkable individuals, Julie Foudy, Bruce Springsteen, Tom Tierney, Michelle Obama, Sheryl Sandberg, and Eric Greitens.

Some of my favorite lessons include those described in these sections:
Be Real: Act with authenticity, align actions with values, be your values everywhere.

Be Whole: Clarify expectations, manage boundaries intelligently, act with integrity, help others.
Be Innovative: Challenge the status quo, embrace change courageously, act with creativity.

Ultimately you may find your life has what From Smart to wise co-authors, Prasad Kaipa and Navi Radjou, calls a noble purpose and become what Serve to Lead author James Strock dubs a servant leader.
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8 of 9 people found the following review helpful By Xi-yong Fu on February 11, 2015
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Recently, I sat in a lecture by Prof.Friedman at an event organized by Sino-American Pharmaceutical Association - Greater Philadelphia (SAPA-GP), one of the non-profit organizations for bio-pharmaceutical professionals. The topic was not scientific per se, however it is deeply relevant to all who pursue a professional life AND a personal life. Professor's lecture was based on the concept laid out in "Leading the life you want". Although I read his other books before, his new lecture triggered me to buy this book again -- it was totally worth it!
I was a student of Prof.Friedman's while attending Wharton School of Business. Prof.Friedman teaches a similar course at Wharton and it was one of the most popular elective courses among over 200 offered.
As you open the book, you will be asked to think, record, and articulate some simple questions about your current life: what you really care in life, who you really care about, what event changed your live, and whether you are content with what you have in life. Simple but hard questions for many. Then you will be asked to shared it with those important people in our lives. I shared mine with my wife. She said she learned something new about me!
One of the beauty of the book is that if you follow the steps laid out in the book, you will get the undiluted Wharton experience, page by page. I read both the sister book "Total Leadership" and this new book "Leading the life you want". The concepts are similar, but the structure is different. "Leading the life you want" is fundamentally a reader's book, assuming no benefit of group discussion and very little guidance. The instruction is more detailed and progress more incremental.
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13 of 16 people found the following review helpful By Greg Hawod on September 8, 2014
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Is it really possible to live all domains of your life to the fullest? For several years, Stewart Friedman offers us this resounding answer: YES.

In his latest book, Leading the Life You Want: Skills for Integrating Work and Life, Stew presented a very compelling argument that our life is not a zero-sum game. It is always possible for one to live his life in accordance with his values and aspirations.

The first part of the book presented us the stories of six (6) remarkable persons who were able lead the life they want by having the right skills of total leadership: be real, be whole, and be innovative. These sets of skills were properly espoused by these persons in their respective domains of life such as work, family, community, and self (mind, body, and spirit).

The second part of this work gave us several practical and very useful tips on how we can develop each of the skills in our life.

Stew was able to produce a very compelling idea with the use of his superb writing skills. The book was very easy to understand and at the same time captivating. Moreover, not only that he narrated the respective stories of the six featured persons here but he did his analysis of each lives very clearly and vividly.

Several reasons why one should read this book:
You will learn that it is possible to live an integrated life
Leading the life you want requires skills. Want to have these skills? Don't just read the book, practice what you will learn.
You can share the wisdom from this book so you can help your colleagues lead their lives better.
If you want to be a better leader, then you have to better lead yourself too. This book will help.
This book will help its reader better appreciate the nuances of everyday life.
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