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Learning from the Heart: Lessons on Living, Loving, and Listening

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Daniel Gottlieb is one of the most compassionate souls I have ever "met." A trained psychologist, Gottlieb was in an accident in 1979 when he was 33 years old and was rendered a quadriplegic. Shortly following his accident, he "began to wonder what it really meant to be human."

What follows are stories and what he learns about himself, friends, family and patients.

Gottlieb began to study how humans (and pets) acted and reacted; their emotions, thoughts and feelings. He discovered that emotions are contagious.

He writes that we ask ourselves: "Who am I?" "Who am I supposed to be?" "Who should I be?"

"How do we find our identity in a world that insists your identity is defined by your achievements, by your beauty, by your power, by your youth?"

Gottlieb implores us to slow down and actually hear and see others and ourselves. He believes as we do more, we hear less--less of what other people are saying and our own voice.

The love Gottlieb feels for humanity is palpable in "Loving from the Heart." He explains that his body, almost 30 years after the accident, is starting to disease and that death could come at any time. But, he is without pity. Instead, his compassion for the human race is so strong and true that I found myself sobbing several times throughout the book.

He talks about our "national anxiety disorder" and offers advice for finding relief.

I loved this: "We are not important as individuals. And everything we say and do counts." Meditate on that one!

This book is a treasure.

By the author of the award winning book, Harmonious Environment: Beautify, Detoxify and Energize Your Life, Your Home and Your Planet.

This is an enlightening book by a talented writer who touched my heart in his story about what it means to be human.

Like all people this author has suffered, but through his many roles, experiences, losses, and observation of the human condition he has discovered truth and is able to communicate his message in a clear and concise manner. The book discusses living in the moment, accepting what we are experiencing and how we are feeling because life after all is temporary. He tells us about his daughter's 3 legged dog and the lessons we can learn from it. The dog does not consider itself as having special needs. It just behaves like a dog and lives with the assets it has. Acceptance of ourselves just as we are will make us "feel more alive, loving, and compassionate...without categorizing our life events as good or bad, easy or difficult."

In this story Daniel Gottlieb tells us about his experiences as a Therapist, divorcee, quadriplegic, husband of a young cancer victim and father of children dealing with parental medical catastrophes. He coped with the death of his ex-wife and his parents and communicating with his autistic grandchild, as well as, his clients. He learned that what he really wanted was to stop wanting to be or have something that was not possible for him. In spite of his experiences he found peace in his life and helped countless others do the same.

I am impressed with this this author, his book and the fact that he is donating all of his royalties from it to children's health organizations and charities. Reading this book I felt the range of human emotions and have a much better understanding of what it really means to be human from a person with a much different perspective than I have experienced.

I recommend this book to people of all ages and walks of life. You will be glad you read it and will gain a new perspective of life.

Daniel Gottlieb's LETTERS TO SAM was one of the best
books that I've read over the past few years . . . so when I
saw that the author came out with something new, LEARNING
FROM THE HEART, I rushed to get hold of it.

And was I ever glad that I did . . . I was hooked after
just seeing the cover and the subtitle: LESSONS ON
LIVING, LOVING AND LISTENING . . . Gottlieb, a practicing
psychologist, presents this information via short
essays on a wide variety of topics . . . best of all,
he brings in his own personal experiences and openly
shares them.

I especially liked his view about not always having to be
best in everything:
* I've ended up feeling a great deal of gratitude for my failures. Of
course, there are people who don't believe me when I tell them
I belong in the last seat in the second row. They challenge my position
by reminding me of books I have written and the many wonderful
accomplishments I've been fortunate to achieve. Over the years I have
learned that there are some aspects of my humanity--perhaps my
kindness and my ability to understand others--that probably belong
in the first row. But there are many other aspects of Gottlieb that belong
in the last row--technical skills, attention span, and
memory (to name a few).

Gottlieb also got me thinking about how good life can be--and is--when
he related this account of a friend's visit:
* I do believe in coincidence, and I was involved in a quite a fortunate one
when my friend Amy came over to visit just two days before that phone call.
At one point, she asked if I believed in heaven. Without giving it any thought,
I said, "Yes. You're in it right now."

I saw the dazed look on her face that I often see when I make proclamations,
so I went on: "What were the chances of that sperm fertilizing that egg and
producing your life? And what were the chances that you would have lived all
the years you have lived in relative good health? And what were the odds that
you would have so many people in your life whom you love and who care
about you? And what were the possibilities that you could look out of almost
any window and see the beauty of nature? Heaven? You bet."

Of course, my version of heaven is not the perfect one we read about in
mythology or that many believe in. There is great pain and suffering and loss
in this particular heaven. But deep inside, most know it-heaven, life-is
precious. It just takes some careful noticing.

Lastly, the author had me laughing when I read passages such as this
one:
* Even trauma like my accident carries good news and bad news. I suffer,
still get frustrated and sometimes depressed, and yet there is good news
about being a quadriplegic.

The good news about being quadriplegic?

Well, first, there is the obvious--great parking spaces.

Then, think shoes. I don't have to spend a fortune on comfortable shoes,
and they last as long as I want them to.

But the great news about quadriplegic is that I don't have to get up to pee in
the middle of the night. So, in the middle of the night tonight, when you are
sitting or standing. I'll be sleeping. (And they say I have special needs!)

On a serious note, this disability has helped me become the man I am. The
image I have carried for nearly thirty years is that when my neck broke, my
soul began to breathe. Because of my differentness, I have not been
intimidated by my need to be like everyone else. I might not have become
the man I am today were it not for this trauma.

After reading LEARNING FROM THE HEART, you'll feel like you know
Daniel Gottlieb much better . . . in fact, in reading it, I thought I was
having a one-on-conversation with him that made me realize that
if I was ever in need of a therapist, I'd certainly want to seek him out.

Mr. Gottlieb writes what we feel but can't always express...his honesty about himself and his humanness are to be commended and his solutions to lifes injustices are wise and insightful!!! Clone this man and then spread him around the world...

This is an extraordinary book. Honest and caring, it distills a broad sweep of psychology, philosophy and religion into clear, honest human terms. Dr. Gottlieb translates the mystery and jargon that often obscure professional discourse into something directly useful. There is not advice so much as something more important, which is acceptance. This book gives us permission to sit with what we feel, and be OK with it. In my opinion, his life experience gave him a perspective and a compassion to be admired and emulated, no matter what hand life has dealt us. Buy this book, you will be glad you did.

Wow, what a moving and beautifully written book! Recommended for anyone living with a chronic illness or condition, and their caretakers. A perfect book to share and re-read. Loved it!

i loved it, and think it is a useful read for anyone who needs a reminder of what is important in life.

Dan Gottleib, host of Voices in the Family and author of this book is a true inspiration no matter who you are, what you do or think. I can't recommend this book or advocate listening to his show enough. Voices in the Family.
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Life's lessons are more invaluable than anything one is going to learn in school. "Learning from the Heart: Lessons on Living, Loving, and Listening" discusses and what it means to be human. Written by a man who has experienced both the best and worst of life, "Learning from the Heart" offers poignant insights into life and love, and how to push oneself forward to the future. "Learning from the Heart" is a moving read, highly recommended.

In Learning from the Heart, Dan Gottlieb shares some of his life with us. His story is sad, joyful, and tragic. And despite all of the trauma in his life, he continues to live with the knowledge that life is precious and that compassion is the truest way to connect with one another. The central question in this book is "What does it mean to be human?" Gottlieb explores this idea using his unique life as an example.

For example, he discusses what it's like be afraid of death, yet still being able to appreciate each moment of life. He explains that much of what causes suffering in our lives are not so much the external circumstances, but with our internal reactions to those circumstances. He explores the fear of death, and how anxiety keeps us from living fully. He uses his own example of how a terrible tragedy like quadriplegia can be used to further one's own spiritual growth.

Dan Gottlieb is truly an amazing man, and we can all learn a lot from him. He's an inspiration to all of us. His words will stay with me for the rest of my life.

If you like this book, I recommend Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness