Lesbian and Gay Book of Love and Marriage [Paperback]

Paula Martinac (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: May 18, 1998

Rich with anecdotes, inspiration, and brass-tacks problem solving, The Lesbian and Gay Book of Love and Marriage chronicles the emotional and political heart of gay commitment.  Weaving together interviews with  lesbian and gay couples and singles with the expert observations and personal testimonies of gay figures such as Candace Gingrich, Craig Lucas, Gabriel Rotello, and Cris Williamson, Paula Martinac takes you on a journey through the milestones and turning points, the joys and the struggles of gay relationships.  

Meeting Mr.  or Ms.  Right: The challenges and excitement of searching for--and finding--the "one"
Seriouser and Seriouser: Taking your relationship to the next level--living together, popping the question, coming out to friends and coworkers
I Do! I Do!: From public ceremonies to private commitments--the many ways same-sex couples take their vows
For Better or Worse: The complexity of married life--in-laws, money matters, building a home, divorce, and widowhood
The Family Way: Creating your own family without a blueprint--families of choice, blended families, adopting and raising children

Editorial Reviews

Amazon.com Review

Paula Martinac's The Lesbian and Gay Book of Love and Marriage is a crossbreed of a book that offers knowing, humorous insights on love in the gay lane. Crossing romantic advice à la "Dear Abby" ("Meeting Ms. Right") with practical tips on gay weddings that would make Martha Stewart proud ("Right in Your Own Backyard") and homo-child-care cues by way of Dr. Spock ("Are Grandma and Grandpa on Board"), Martinac has assembled a collage of expert interviews, statistics, personal opinions, historical anecdotes, intimate photos, and chats that, while covering an enormously wide range of interests and positions, is quite centered and focused. This is because Martinac understands that there is no one gay or lesbian point of view on any of these topics; each person and each couple has unique needs and opinions. While it does not avoid the controversial (Gabriel Rotello's belief that gay marriage can help stop AIDS) or the sentimental (Mubarak S. Dahir's mediation on what to call his boyfriend in public), The Lesbian and Gay Book of Love and Marriage manages to be both frank and funny, practical and political. --Michael Bronski

From Library Journal

Lambda Award-winning novelist Martinac (Out of Time, Seal, 1990) considers various aspects of gay and lesbian relationships, focusing on "married" couples. Martinac discusses courting, commitment ceremonies, and divorce and reflects on how to deal with finances, in-laws, and blended families; how to adopt; and even what to call one's partner. Each topical discourse is generously leavened with illustrative anecdotes from various couples about how the issue has played out in their relationship. There is a good mix of male and female couples. The book ends with an especially useful annotated appendix listing organizations and resources for lesbian and gay couples and families. This very readable book considers the most important issues for most gay and lesbian relationships and could provide valuable guidance to those who have few role models for successful "marriages." Recommended for all public libraries.?Debra Moore, Loyola Marymount Univ. Lib., Los Angeles
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Product Details

• Paperback: 304 pages
• Publisher: Broadway; 1 edition (May 18, 1998)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0767901622
• ISBN-13: 978-0767901628
• Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 7.3 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.4 pounds
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,126,601 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Its about time!, August 22, 1998

By A Customer

This review is from: Lesbian and Gay Book of Love and Marriage (Paperback)

Your local bookseller will have entire sections of books all about heterosexual relationships-- how come it took so long to get a true gay and lesbian relationship book that was this good? The good thing about this book, however, has to do with its sub-title: "Creating the Stories of Our Lives." Whereas other books of its genre seem to rest only on their author's self-proclaimed expertise, Martinac uses the book as a sort of collage. She explores relationships though all sorts of interviews and personal stories written by herself and other gay and lesbian people. This book doesn't tell you how your relationship should function, rather it tells how other relationships have, and thus you can relate your life to those in the book. I would definitely reccomend it-- Very inspiring!

5.0 out of 5 stars Wonderful Work!!, August 10, 1998

By A Customer

This review is from: Lesbian and Gay Book of Love and Marriage (Paperback)

Paula Martinac and Roberta Achtenberg have done the gay and lesbian community a great service in creating this warm and complete look at the current state of lesbian and gay relationships.

I highly recommend it.