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The Lesbian S/M Safety Manual

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This was the first SM "instructional" book I ever bought and even though this book is 12 years old as of this review, it still contains excellent information for anyone who wants to engage in consensual power exchange.

This book contains sections ranging from Emotional Safety to safe sex practices, what to do when a health problem arises, to the famous "Nine Degrees of Submission" by Diane Vera.

I even enjoyed the few "short stories" that can also be found here.

This book is a total must for anyone that is going to be playing even slightly into S&M. This book covers first aid better than the boy scout handbook, psychology better than Sigmund Freud, and sexual health better than the American Medical Association. About the only people that wouldn't need this book are people that have no interest in erotic power exchange. (And some studies estimate that 1 out of 3 people have at least played with the idea.)

Everyone should read everything Califia has written - she is great.

For those not quite committed to exploring yet, Sensuous Magic might be a better place to start as it seems more aimed towards borderline vanilla folks.

The best thing about the Lessbian SM Safety Manual is that it allows those who do "BDSM" to talk about themselves. The worst thing is that it is an odd mixture of fiction and non-ficiton, not quite living up to its title. It would be better if it were a text denicated to safety and issues of importance to lesbians but istead the collection turns into a sounding board for those who fell they are being opposed.