The aim of Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men
is to teach men what lesbians know about pleasing women. This is more than a primer on body parts and oral sex (though yes, there's plenty of that). It's also about how to talk (the best way to find out what your partner likes), how to listen, how to open up, and how to get your mind off your member. The chapter entitled "Foreplay? Honey, It's All Play!" should make women cheer. The writing is clever, graphic, intimate, and festive. No subject is off limits: sex toys, sex during menstruation ("When the Moon Is Between Her Legs"), "Finger Love (Becoming a Digital Master)," "The Lowdown on Going Down," anal play ("Ass-istance for Two"), and much more.
In many short quotes, women frankly discuss their likes and dislikes. Notes of special importance, titled "Honey, Come Closer," include:
- "Quit thinking of the clitoris as a little pea-sized bump.... It is actually a whole system of erectile tissue, spongy tissue, muscles, nerve endings, blood vessels, and glands."
- "By taking your time, not only do you create steamy anticipation in your partner; you also get to check out the territory and get a good sense of where everything is so there is no clumsy fumbling."
- "A steady hand is worth a thousand orgasms."
If men understood what great sexual tools their brains, mouths, and hands were, say the authors, they'd see sex and pleasure differently and communicate in new ways. This book is guidebook and roadmap--and very entertaining besides! (Warning: If you're offended by slang terms for sex and sexual parts, this book isn't for you.) --Joan Price
From Library Journal
Reversing the formula of Dan Anderson and Maggie Berman's Sex Tips for Straight Women from a Gay Man (HarperCollins, 1997), Goddard and Brungardt do the job even better. Let's face it: straight men find lesbianism intriguing, and this extremely helpful manual will appeal to their erotic curiosity as well as their desire to please women partners. Goddard, a sexuality educator, and Brungardt, a health journalist, tackle the basics of female sexual response, kissing, breast play, "finger love" and "hand love," oral sex, and "ins and outs"--plus sex toys, S & M, body-image issues, birth control, and sexual abuse. The book is well written, comprehensive, and lighthearted, incorporating good advice about communication and safer sex. Unfortunately, there are no illustrations to help with geography "down there" or with sexual techniques. Felice Newman's The Whole Lesbian Sex Book (LJ 1/00) is similarly recommended for men and larger public libraries.-Martha Cornog, Philadelphia, PA
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