Let Me Count the Ways: Discovering Great Sex Without Intercourse [Hardcover]

Marty Klein (Author), Riki Robbins (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 25, 1999

In this book, two of America's leading sex and gender experts show readers how to make sex more enjoyable by breaking away from the repetitive mechanics of intercourse. The book describes a path toward more a varied, playful, and intimate sexuality, debunking myths such as "impotence," "frigidity," and "foreplay;" indeed, the book shatters the myth that intercourse equals sex itself.

"Let Me Count The Ways":
* defines "outercourse", shows why it is a valuable addition to peoples' sexual vocabulary, and explains how readers can maximize their comfort and pleasure with it.
* shows how individuals and couples can increase their body's erotic functioning, and increase sexual satisfaction;
* includes dozens of ideas and exercises--such as an "intercourse sabbatical"--which will help partners relax, take advantage of a wide range of enjoyable sexual activities, and communicate about their concerns; and
* discusses how to break free from sexual stereotypes of the media, medical profession, and psychological profession, and overcome the idea that intercourse is a "normal" and necessary part of every sexual encounter.

More than a self-help book, this is an innovative, practical, tested program that will change the way that readers look at their sexuality--forever.

Editorial Reviews

Review

"Challenges readers' beliefs about 'normal' sex...leads to an increase of true intimacy through verbal sharing and sensate-focused touch." -- The California Therapist, March/April 1999

"Easy to read and understand, full of suggestions that are easy to implement...a book about learning to be yourself." -- Spectator Magazine, spring 1999

"Not a sex how-to but a why-to book...an important message; an important title for libraries to buy." -- Library Journal, January 1, 1999

About the Author

Dr. Marty Klein has been a licensed marriage counselor and sex therapist for 20 years. He is the author of 4 books and 150 articles in publications such as New Woman, Men's Health, Mademoiselle, Playboy, Redbook, and the Journal of Sex Research. Dr. Klein is frequently invited onto national TV shows such as Oprah, Jenny Jones, and Good Morning America, and is quoted by sources such as USA Today, Newsweek, and Ann Landers.

Marty answers sex questions on his popular website, which gets 15,000 hits per month and is a top sexuality recommendation of Nerve Magazine. He contributes to Myprimetime.com, ThePosition.com, and SexNewsDaily.com, and was recently honored by The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality and the California Association of Marriage & Family Therapists.

Product Details

• Hardcover: 210 pages
• Publisher: Tarcher (January 25, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0874779561
• ISBN-13: 978-0874779561
• Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 6.1 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1 pounds
• Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #593,866 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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30 of 34 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars A new way of looking at sex, April 24, 1999

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This review is from: Let Me Count the Ways: Discovering Great Sex Without Intercourse (Hardcover)

This book puts forth the bold idea that couples do not need to have intercourse to have sex, and then discusses how to have great sex without intercourse. The only downside to the book is that it's a little repetitive. It also is a good book for unmarried teens and young adults to read, because it shows them how to have positive sexual experiences without the risk of pregnancy or sexulally transmitted diseases.

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Great for training your mind to think differently about sex, May 28, 2009

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This review is from: Let Me Count the Ways: Discovering Great Sex Without Intercourse (Hardcover)

As another review has said, this book does not really tell you how to deal with pain or issues involving "avoiding" intercourse, but it does give you plenty of information on how to retrain your brain from thinking about "normal" sex to thinking about how you like to experience sex.
A warning for the conservative reader, some items may be offensive. Just skim over chapter 2, or skip it all together. I didn't really need to read all of that to gain GREAT results from the book.

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Not what I expected, but still worth reading, January 2, 2009

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Delphine (Arizona) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Let Me Count the Ways: Discovering Great Sex Without Intercourse (Hardcover)

When I ordered this book, I thought it would be kind of a manual for intercourse-less sex, but it turned out to be more about how to change our view of sex and intercourse, and find out what exactly we like and want. It wasn't what I expected at all, but it was definitely worth reading.